2 Techniques to Relax the Pelvic Floor

Relaxing the pelvic floor helps you experience more pleasure. Tao Semko gives two basic techniques for relaxing "down below."

To relax into more pleasure, whether you're a man or a woman, start by relaxing the muscles of your pelvic floor. You'll benefit in the following ways:

1. you'll feel more varied and subtle levels of pleasure when you make love, moving through your genitals and then throughout your body.

2. if you're a woman, you'll feel pleasure more immediately and fully, allowing for rapid and multiple orgasms

3. if you're a man, you'll last much longer and become multiorgasmic

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Tantric Breathing Tips and Tricks

Get in touch with your breath and learn how it can help your sex life!

How to Give Your Woman a Nipple Orgasm

Not everyone knows that women can have orgasms from breast stimulation only. Svetlana Ivanova explains the nipple orgasm and tells men how to give one to their woman.

Many people see nipples and breasts as the second most erogenous area of the body next to the genitals. For women, having our breasts caressed and nipples sucked releases oxytocin, the chemical that makes us feel like we’re in love. The nipples, in particular, are filled with nerve endings, making them especially tuned in to touch. Men enjoy stimulating the breasts during foreplay, but relatively few women have ever had an orgasms strictly form breast stimulation. Given that there is very little information on breast or nipple orgasm, most people discover nipple orgasm purely by accident. Read more

How to Give the Perfect Massage

An incredible massage could be your ticket to nirvana. Here's how to make it happen.

Admit it, you've probably given your woman more than one half-assed rubdown thinking it was all you had to do to warm her up for sex. But you can do better. "Think of massage as sex without the penetration," says Juan Urosa, a licensed massage therapist from New York City's acclaimed Great Jones Spa. Do it right, and she'll be putty in your hands.

Soak her muscles
Get her relaxed before you amaze her. "Prepare a bath and pour in some essential oils," Urosa says. (You'll find them in any "chick" store.) "The bath will get her muscles ready for the massage." And it gives you an excuse to towel her off.

Make her comfy
Have her lie on your bed, facedown. Soften your hands with massage oil, then start rubbing her feet, not her back. "We have thousands of nerve endings in our soles that stimulate the entire nervous system," Urosa says. "Massage each foot, then slowly move up to her calves, then legs, and so on." Keep the progression slow. Read more

The Art of Receiving Pleasure

Most of us are not talented receivers when it comes to love, says Wendy Strgar.

“There is a secret about human love that is commonly overlooked: Receiving it is much more scary and threatening than giving it. How many times in your life have you been unable to let in someone’s love or even pushed it away? Much as we proclaim the wish to be truly loved, we are often afraid of that, and so find it difficult to open to love or let it all the way in.” –John Welwood
 
Most of us are not talented receivers when it comes to love. Whether or not we are able to give love has surprisingly little to do with its polar opposite of being able to open to the love coming towards us. We refuse the love we say we want when we complain about the packaging it arrives in. We refuse the lover we say we want when we blame them for what they are not. We refuse the love and the lover we say we want when we justify our refusal in the storylines of anger, guilt and inadequacy. In fact, most people when pushed to the edge of their refusal to receive love will admit to what may be the most painful universal wound of all – the belief that underneath it all we don’t deserve the love we say we want. Read more

Rewire Your Brain for Love

Psychologist Marsha Lucas explains how to change your brain in ways which support healthier, more satisfying relationships.

As a psychologist, I see people in my practice all the time who complain that the thrill of sex dies down after awhile. It gets, well, routine. Same-old, same-old. Going through the motions. Sometimes, they get around to asking what they can do to spice things up.

"Yes, there is," I say.

Their eyes get a little wider, their hearts jump a bit.

They're not always thrilled when I tell them they need to change their brain structure. And sometimes even less thrilled when I tell them one of the best ways to change their brain for better sex, is mindfulness meditation. Read more

Have a Wegasm Tonight!

Simultaneous orgasms aren't just stuff of legend. Sarah Kennedy reveals how to have a "wegasm" tonight!

Any kind of orgasm is pretty awesome, but without a doubt, the pinnacle of peaking is the simultaneous Big O, or Wegasm, to borrow a term coined by the condom connoisseurs at Durex. Sex can be spectacular no matter who blasts off first, but there's good reason to try for the somewhat elusive synchronized O: According to a recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, concurrent climaxes during intercourse are associated with stronger relationships, more sizzling sex lives, and a happier outlook on life. "Plus, physically and emotionally, there may be a momentary loss of individual boundaries, a sense of truly becoming one with the other," explains study author Stuart Brody, Ph.D.

A deeper understanding of how everything can click at once may be all you really need to experience a synced-up grand finale. But there's no need to shoot for the moon every single time—even the occasional Wegasm will have you seeing stars. Read more