Although the Yoni massage can be extremely stimulating, the purpose is not to bring the woman to orgasm. Rather, it is to relax both the giver and the receiver and to bring emotions to the surface. The experiences and feelings that a woman may have during the Yoni massage can be very different, ranging from anger, lust, sadness, or even indifference. Everything is possible and everything is allowed. The Yoni massage is not about focusing on a special kind of feeling or fulfilling a particular expectation. The idea is simply to observe and to experience. As you learn to master the Yoni massage, your sex life will be greatly enriched, and you will learn a great deal about feminine sexuality.
Before beginning the massage, you should gaze into each other's eyes while embracing and engaging in deep, relaxed, synchronized breathing. This is a type of Tantric foreplay in which the couple forms an emotional and spiritual bond. Both the giver and receiver should remember to keep breathing deeply, slowly, and with relaxation during the entire process. You should gently remind your woman to start breathing again if she stops or starts taking shallower breaths.
When you are both ready to begin the massage, the woman lies on her back with one pillow under her head and another under her hips to elevate her pelvis. She bends her knees and opens her legs to expose her Yoni. Sit comfortably between her legs with your legs crossed. You may wish to sit on a pillow or cushion.
Begin by massaging other parts of her body to encourage her to relax. Gently, but firmly, massage her legs, thighs, stomach, breasts and arms before venturing toward the Yoni. Next, massage the pubic bone area and then move down to the inner thigh area. Do this motion at least nine times. Then, with the right hand (the right hand is used to balance the polarity of Tantra), apply a high-quality oil or lubricant to the mound of the Yoni, pouring just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni.
Gently rub the oil on the outer lips of the Yoni at least nine times. With the thumb and index finger, gently squeeze each lip of the Yoni, sliding the fingers up and down the entire length of each lip. Then, carefully repeat this process with each inner lip of the vagina varying the pressure and speed of touch according to your partner’s preferences.
Next, gently stroke the clitoris in a circular motion, clockwise and counter-clockwise. Then, squeeze her clitoris between your thumb and index finger. Next, slowly and with great care, insert your middle finger into her Yoni. Very gently explore and massage the inside of the Yoni with your finger. Varying the speed and depth of your finger, feel inside the Yoni up, down and around. With your palm pointing upward and your finger inside your partner's Yoni, bend your finger to make contact with her G-spot, known as the "sacred spot" in Tantra.
Continue massaging, trying different speeds, pressures and motions. Keep breathing and gazing into each other's eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep breathing and being gentle. If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is called "riding the wave." Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni massage and a patient partner.
Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. The Yoni massage creates a space for a woman to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. Allow her to just lie there and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage while you experience the joy of being of service and witnessing a special moment.
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This is very insightful. Can We exchange links?
Oi. Parabéns por seu excelente blog. Gostaria de lhe convidar para visitar meu blog e conhecer alguma coisa sobre o Brasil. Abração
Don't stop posting such stories. I like to read articles like that. Just add some pics :)
The instructions aren't that difficult - no need for pics.
I googled tantric sex and came upon your site. Wonderful reads, very insightful, nice to see that my new girlfriend of two months we are enjoying so many parts of tantric sex already. It truly in wonderful and I sincerley look to reading more of yours.
We are healed when we believe that we are healed. :)
Hi Jennifer, thanks for your blog. I am learning Tantra massage and I am trying to find some teaching dvds on lingam and yoni massage. Can you recommend me any? thanks!
Ana.
Amazon has videos about both lingam and yoni massage.
Thank you for the resource. I started dating a girl about six weeks ago, and for the first time in my life, I feel totally safe and open in every since, but most importantly, sexually. I truly feel a divine unity with this woman, and I think she feels it too, even though she has less words and expressions than I have to articulate how she feels. All that is to say, I found this because I want to become even closer to her, to make her feel like the Goddess that she is to me, and so I thank you for sharing this where I could happen upon it. Much Love.
Hello there,
Can someone help me please?
I read this post about 5 - 6 times and performed tantric massage to my Godess. I'm 24 and she is 40. She is 15 years older to me, but we have an amazing chemistry, more divine and more spiritual. The love making is amazing... amazing would be a little word to describe it. Question is ... she cried a lot and loudly after the Tantric yoni massage... why is that?
Can someone help me please?
Negative emotions are stored or locked into the genital area. Prolonged, deep massage can often release those emotions. That is probably what is happening.
Absolutely lovely article and so well written, too. Well done.
The only tiny criticism is in the first paragraph or two where you say that the yoni is the vagina. The yoni is actually the vulva i.e. the whole female genitalia. The vagina is only the tube leading from the outer vulva to the cervix.
I've been trying to get sites to correct this elsewhere on the web and it would be great if you could make that one tiny amendment.
Angela Goodnight, Author of true sexual stories (Google me)
Thank you for your feedback, but I won't be making the change. I didn't use the word vagina because I didn't know better, but because that's the common usage.
I would like to share a word of warning. You need to have complete trust and faith in your woman, if you are going to try this. I actually haven't tried Yoni massage, yet. But the experience that led me to this site has taught me that.
I was making love to my girlfriend, one night. After an intense orgasm, she started to cry. As she went on, it got quite intense. I came to find out, while we were still in each others arms, that she was crying about her first husband, who she loved dearly while they were married. It took a lot of trust and self control, to not ask her to leave, and then to continue our relationship.
I have since learned that certain types of orgasms can unlock old and sometimes painful memories for her. As a man, if you can accept that and help her get past that, you can build a bond of trust and endear her to you at a level she may have never trusted anyone before you. But… you must be ready to set your ego aside and accept what may surface. And remember, the past is the past. Do that and you will build that trust with her for the future.
If you could not accept an experience, like that, you should think twice before trying this.
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