A Tantric Mistake and Its Consequences

Even Tantra teachers make mistakes. Ananth Tantri once gave in to a woman's insistence that he awaken her kundalini. He knew it was dangerous, but she was extremely persuasive. They both suffered the conseqences of his lapse in judgment.

To err is human, to admit is divine...

This is hard to talk about, but here it is. A few years ago, a very lovely Californian blonde in her early 40s requested me to coach her on the esoteric mysteries of kundalini, its arousal, and awakening. She wanted me to help her unleash the energy through the classical tantric ways using a variety of sensual and sexual methods. She was married, and so I felt it would be highly inappropriate for me to use the sexual approach to kundalini movement. So, I declined.

She was very persuasive, very intent, and gosh darn it, very attractive. So I finally agreed to awaken all the energy latent in her, but through the most secret of all of tantric methods, one that is usually never talked about, written about, and whose use is not looked at kindly by the Goddess - yes, Sarpa Tantra - the path of the serpent. This is the non-sexual (no intercourse) tantric approach that arises awakens and moves the kundalini wherever you want in less than 5 minutes - the time it takes to get a non-fat, single shot, decaf latte at Starbucks. The method is conceptually extremely simple - the awakener (me), embodies, models, and personifies the kundalini energy of the awakened one (her), and systematically moves through each chakra physically. As I act the part of the serpent, breathing, hissing, coiling, and striking each chakra forcefully, her energy also gets the cue and moves, and soon her body starts to shake under the assault of my modeling the serpentine kundalini, and her own kundalini rising to mimic me. It is extremely fast, extremely powerful, and extremely dangerous to directly awaken the energy. Read more

Kundalini Chakra Massage

Julie at the Body Rescue Zone explains how treating the kundalini chakra can relieve all types of female ailments and free up your sexual energy.

Female Taoist Sexual Practices with Saida

Alan Steinfeld talks with Jade goddess Saida, student of Master Mantak Chia, talks about cultivating female sexual energy.

What Is the Perfect Lingam Size for Your Yoni?

The question, "Does size matter?" is endlessly debated and is a source of anxiety for many men, but the truth is that the only size that matters is his size and your size. Tantra teacher Janet Kira Lessin discusses the issues of penis size and shape, including how to compensate for "mismatched" Lingams and Yonis.

What about size? Obviously, a man with a nine inch lingam will cause great problems for a woman with a shallow yoni. But that same God would be ideal for a Goddess with a nine inch yoni. If the man has a lingam shorter than his beloved's yoni, he will not be able to penetrate all the way into her, reach her sacred sector and totally satisfy her during intercourse. That same man will completely satisfy a woman with a shallow yoni. So when we look at the issue closely, it’s not the size that matters. What is important is the compatibility of the lingam and the yoni.

Problems arise (har har) when women with shorter yoni’s make love with men with longer lingams. Men, in the heat of passion, especially when they orgasm, tend to get excited and penetrate as far as they can (ouch). If lovers are not careful, the lingam head can penetrate all the way through the tight ring of the cervical opening and enter the uterus creating disaster for the woman. While it may feel awesome for the man, it can cause infection and disease for his lady. So what to do? Read more

Cultivating Energy: Mantak Chia Interview

Dr. Patti Taylor interviews Mantak Chia, world-famous Taoist teacher of energy cultivation for increased health, well-being, and sexual mastery for both men and women. Mantak Chia almost singlehandedly popularized Taoist energy cultivation and sexual practices in the West. Dr. Patti explores the full range of Master Chia's thinking on the Taoist system of sexual energy cultivation, including practical exercises for men and women for cultivating sexual energy within themselves, ways to deepen heart energy, techniques for Taoist lovemaking, and more. Listen to the podcast

Breathing for Meditation

Kundalini is a psycho-spiritual energy which is thought to reside within the body and is aroused through spiritual practices to bring new states of consciousness, including mystical illumination. Kundalini is Sanskrit for "snake" or "serpent power," so called because it is believed to lie like a serpent in the root chakra at the base of the spine. One of the goals of Tantric practice is to awaken kundalini. Robert Morgen, author of Kundalini Awakening for Personal Mastery explains how to breath for kundalini awakening.

Breathing is the MOST important part of meditation and Kundalini Awakening. It's the foundation of all the exercises and skills that come after, so taking the time to learn it now will make things much easier.

From our birth until death we breathe more or less continually, yet for the most part we do it without any awareness of our breath and its effects on us, and believe it or not most people in the western world do it wrong! Read more

4 Obstacles to Exploring Tantric Sex

Tantric sex is a popular topic right now, and a lot of information is available, including on this blog, Even so, many people experience four common obstacles when exploring Tantric sexuality, according to Tantra teacher Kenneth Ray Stubbs.

In his book The Essential Tantra, author and teacher Kenneth Ray Stubbs writes about four common obstacles people experience to exploring Tantra sexuality.

The first is the idea that in sex we are either a spectator or a performer. If our attention is focused on watching what is going on, what our partner is doing, or how our body is looking or responding, we are taken out of an awareness of the moment. Tantra is about moving away from the “acting” and towards “being.” Read more

The Essence of Tantric Sexuality

Dr. Lara Honos-Webb, host of the Sweet Spot Podcast, interviews Mark Michaels (Swami Umeshanand Saraswati) and Patricia Johnson (Devi Veenanand) authors of Essence of Tantric Sexualit. Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson are a married couple who have been teaching Tantra and Kriya Yoga together since 1999. They seek to combine a traditional, lineage-based approach with the best contemporary, Neo-Tantric methods. Their approach includes breath work, meditation, chanting, and puja (a type of Hindu devotional ritual), and their "initiated Kriya yoga" practices aim to lay a spiritual foundation for bringing the heightened awareness and pleasure of sex into everyday life. Listen to the podcast.

The Practice of Left Hand Tantra: Vama Marga

The term Tantra sometimes creates confusion because Tantra has become associated with sex in the West, but a minimal amount of research reveals that not all Tantric traditions include sex in their practices. The branch of Tantra that does use sexual practices for spiritual development is called vama marga or left hand Tantra, due to the fact that women, who are of lunar influence, negative polarity or the left, play an essential role in this science.

The science of tantra has two main branches, which are known as vama marga and dakshina marga. Vama marga is the left path which combines sexual life with yoga practices in order to explode the dormant energy centres. Dakshina marga is the right path of yoga practices without sexual enactment. Previously, due to the barriers in sexual life, the path most widely followed was dakshina marga. Today, however, these barriers are rapidly being broken, and the path most sought after by the people everywhere is vama marga, which utilizes sexual life for spiritual development.

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The contention of vama marga is that the awakening of kundalini is possible through the interaction between man and woman. The concept behind this follows the same lines as the process of fission and fusion described in modern physics.

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The elements that are brought together in this process of union are known as Shiva and Shakti. Shiva represents purusha and Shakti represents prakriti or energy. Shakti, in different forms, is present in all creation. Both material and spiritual energy are known as Shakti. When the energy moves outwardly, it is material energy, and when it is directed upwards it is spiritual energy. Therefore, when the union between man and woman is practised in the correct way, it has a very positive influence on the development of spiritual awareness. Read more

Introduction to the Advanced Ah Meditation

Dattatreya Siva Baba gave the "Ah" meditation to Wayne Dyer over 10 years ago. This is a revised and advanced version. Datta talks about the transformation of procreative energy to become energy to create anything you want.

Tantra for Singles

Most people are single at some point in their lives, but that doesn't mean that you can't practice Tantra. Janet Kira Lessin explains how to practice Tantric sex without a steady partner.

Many are single by choice. There are many benefits to being single in the dance of life. Dating many allows you to dance many different styles of dances; tango, hip hop, waltz, country line, ballroom. Any one partner may not know how to do all the types of dances you desire, and if you limit yourself to one partner, you won’t get to dance all the dances you want. It’s nearly impossible for one person to fulfill all your needs.

Now you’re ready for a tantric lover. Maybe you’re looking for "the one" and you’re single and can’t seem to find her or him or you’re already involved with a partner who isn’t interested in tantra. If so, you needn’t wait for another lover before you love yourself as your own beloved. Read more

Creating a Personal Altar

Personal space is hard to find these days, as is a sense of peace and comfort. Our homes provide us with a sense of belonging and personal expression, but, sometimes, we need more than that. We want to feel the presence and feeling of peace and comfort that we can only experience in a sacred place. This can be possible by creating a personal altar in your home.

... The depth of meaning of an altar is not established by some unknown mystical force. It can be as light or as serious as the creator wishes. The creation and use of a personal spirit altar is not necessarily sacrilegious or iconological worship. While some may use the altar for worship it is perfectly acceptable to place certain statues or representations of deities or other items to serve as a reminder of some important attributes that the creator wishes to emulate or to invoke particular energies into the creator's life and space.

There are many reasons to create a personal spirit altar. Among them are: Read more

The Science of Sacred Sexuality

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Breathing Together for Nonverbal Communication

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

Women constantly complain that men won't "open up" and share their innermost feelings to them. Has all this complaining changed men? Not much. Could men change? Probably, but, in the meantime, why not try a different way to develop the intimacy we want? Since men won't talk, why not try nonverbal communication?

Using words to convey feelings is something many women do far better than most men. Since birth, women are trained to talk about feelings, to grasp the language of emotion and rapport.

Men are not. Women want men to meet them on their turf of conveying innermost feelings. But many men can’t because they’ve never learned how. Yes, men must learn, and many are, but why should all the learning be on men’s shoulders? Can’t women try to understand, appreciate, and converse in the communication modes men use at the same time men are learning how to express and verbalize their feelings?

Okay to readily achieve this, you both may want to try nonverbal communication. Here’s how:

It s called the breathing together technique: Read more