3 Common Myths about the Female Orgasm

The female orgasm is a phenomenon misunderstood by most men and even by women, themselves. While there are false ideas regarding male orgasm, I’m going to focus more on the mysteries surrounding female orgasm. Let me share with you three of the most common myths about the female orgasm:

Myth 1: The larger the penis, the greater the chance of female orgasm.

Men have worried for ages about the size of their penis. The truth is that size really doesn't matter all that much when it comes to female orgasm. Since only the first two inches of a woman's vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useless during intercourse, at least from the woman's physical perspective. In fact, when men are overly concerned with the size of their penis and whether it's sufficient, their minds aren't focused on pleasuring their partner, and that is no way to experience female orgasm.
A survey done by the Kinsey Institute found that the average size of an erect penis measured from the tip to where it connects with the rest of the body is 6.16 inches (15.65 centimeters) in length. The girth of an erect penis is 4.84 inches (12.29 centimeters) on average. Both of these statistics are come as a surprise to men and to women who have been convinced by porn that the average size of an erect penis is eight or nine inches. That same Kinsey study actually found that less than 2% of men have penises that large.

Remember whether a man's penis size is below, above, or just average, he still has the ability to help his partner reach orgasm, and that is far more worthy of praise than a few extra inches of penis.

Myth 2: Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms.

All women have different preferences when it comes to orgasm. Some women enjoy the sensation of a clitoral orgasm, while others enjoy the intensity of the vaginal orgasm. The basic point is this: Both can be equally satisfying. One erogenous zone is not better than the other. It is simply a matter of individual preference.

The only reason vaginal orgasms are regarded as the Holy Grail of ecstasy is how infrequently they occur. Statistically speaking, it’s estimated that 30% of women will never even experience one and only 30% do so with regularity. Clitoral orgasms are wonderful, and there is no reason to pity a woman who hasn’t experienced an orgasm through vaginal stimulation.

Myth 3: A woman must have an orgasm to feel sexually satisfied.

Most women have had the experience of being asked by their partner during sex if they are going to climax. This myth is the reason for that question. The majority of men believe that sex without an orgasm is not pleasurable for a woman, but that's not true. First of all, even though orgasms are a wonderful part of the sexual experience, there is more involved than that. For couples, sex is generally a physical expression of love and closeness. Many women report enjoying this part of the experience immensely even when it is not followed by an orgasm.

Second, just because there's no climax that doesn't mean the rest of the experience didn't feel good. An orgasm is an intense, pleasurable feeling, but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman. Just as men enjoy the actual act of intercourse, so do women.

Third, when men ask about whether or not a woman is going to climax, he is putting pressure on her to deliver. This often leads to faking orgasms, which actually detracts from her experience and could detract from his as well if he discovers the truth. While orgasms can be utterly amazing, it’s a shame we don’t value the process that goes into attaining one and simply enjoy the journey.

So there you have it: three common female orgasm myths totally debunked though I doubt that men will ever believe that the first one isn't true. It seems to be hardwired into the male brain. If men just try to ensure that sex if fun and pleasurable for their partners, the orgasms will probably take care of themselves. And even when she doesn't have an orgasm, she will still be having the time of her life!

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