3 Big Tantric Secrets

Tao Semko says his traditional e-mail sign-off, "Keep your tongue up," refers to three big Tantric secrets.

My traditional email sign-off refers to three yogic meditation secrets, which among those taught at the very beginning of all our courses:

1) The inner, or secret smile.

2) The complete, healthy, or baby's breath

3) Nabho Mudra and Kechari Mudra, performed with the tongue. Read more

Kali Mula Mantra Energy Activation: Om Kreem Kalikaye Namah

The sacred vibrations of this chant powerfully activate the entire kundalini system from top to bottom.

Is It the Penis Length or the Thickness?

Men describe their penis size in terms of length, but it's girth that gives women the feeling of fullness.

Q: Dear Dr. Patti,
What is more important for the woman: The length or thickness of a man’s penis? - Curious Shortie

A: Dear Curious Shortie,
Science tells us that the average length of an erect human penis is 5.5-6 inches; and the thickness, or girth, is about 4” around.

Most women report that although length can be an issue (either too short or too long), the girth is what matters most. Read more

How to Find a Spiritual Teacher

Mariana Caplan, author of When the Student Is Ready: The Perils and Rewards of Choosing a Spiritual Teacher, lists the criteria for a prospective spiritual teacher and the criteria for a prospective spiritual student.

Rarely does a week of my life go by, without someone writing to me either looking for a spiritual teacher, confused about a spiritual teacher, or upset by a deep disillusionment by their spiritual teacher. The question of the spiritual teacher is a perennial question that in many ways is so less real and relevant among seekers as it was 500 years ago. The difference is that the stage is different. Unlike the great Buddhist hero Milarepa who transversed the Indo-Tibetan subcontinent by foot and then built nine houses before his teacher would begin to instruct him, we can simply click on google and within minutes have access to almost every prominent spiritual teacher there is, living or dead, and likely even some type of cyber-transmission. Read more

Tantric Sex Positions for Intimacy and Ecstasy

Tantra teacher Lokita Carter answers a reader's questions about Tantric sex positions: "What are they? How are they different from the usual sex positions? Can you explain how to do some?"

Q: I keep hearing about tantric sex positions and how sensational they are. What are they? How are they different from the usual sex positions? Can you explain how to do some? (My partner and I are not limber enough to do those Kama Sutra pretzel-y ones.) John, Princeton, NJ

A: Dear John,
You don’t have to be a yogi in order to experience sensa­tional tantric sex! Any body posture that feels good and com­fortable to both of you and gets your sexual energy flowing is a tantric sex position. One of the ideas in tantric sex is “to stay re­laxed in high states of arousal”. How can you be relaxed when you are uncomfortable?

The Keys to Sensational Tantric Sex
Tantric sex is all about intention, attitude and being present. In Tantra, all techniques lead us to the point where our own personal spring merges with the ocean of great bliss, and where we relax into being rather than doing. At that point we become one with our partner, and the Divine Mystery, and there is true communion. Read more

The 4 Myths about Meditation

If you resist meditation, you may be buying into one of four common myths about it, says Ronald Alexander.

The majority of my clients resist mindfulness meditation at first, although the time commitment is small and the payoff is enormous. One insisted that it wasn't necessary and that she didn't have enough time in her day to devote to a regular practice. Then she went through the loss of a parent, and had such trouble coping that she couldn't even drag herself out of bed. After missing work 10 days straight, she called me for my advice. I told her to mindfully meditate while in bed. Terrified and bewildered, my client did and, in a few days, found that she could face going to work again. After that, whenever she was in an overwhelming state of grief or so distracted that she couldn't focus, she would close her door, tell her assistant to hold all her calls and do a five minute meditation. Slowly, her grief lessened.

Typically, those who resist meditation are buying in to one of the following four common myths from my book, "Wise Mind, Open Mind" that create resistance to regular mindfulness meditation practice. Read more

What Happens in a Tantric Coaching Session?

What happens in a Tantric coaching session? This video describes the benefits of a coaching session led by Tantra teacher Crystal Dawn Morris.