5 Sex Positions That Enhance Tantric Intimacy

One of the goals of Tantric sex is to increase intimacy between partners. Some sex positions encourage higher levels of emotional connection than others. These positions allow a couple to go beyond their sensory experience, intensifying the intimacy of their sexual connection and imbuing it with emotional meaning. Missionary position is a favorite of many women because it is a face-to-face position, but other positions can enhance intimacy as well. Here are five sex positions that can increase the emotional connection for couples.

Tantric Anal Sex: Anal Sex the Tantric Way

Although anal sex has been been a part of human sexuality since ancient times, couples exploring Tantric sex are not likely to find much information about anal sex and might conclude, therefore, that anal sex isn't Tantric. However, that isn't true. In fact, anal sex fits well within the Tantric tradition and facilitates several goals of Tantric sex

Tantric Fellatio: Worshiping the Lingam

In Tantra, the penis is called the lingam, which in Sanskrit can be translated as "Wand of Light." Worship of the generative organs has been practiced throughout history. Evidence of phallic worship goes back 28,000 years - give or take a few years. One way for a woman to worship her man's lingam is to create a lingam shrine. Another way is to perform Tantric fellatio.

Demystifying Taoist/Tantric Sexual Practices

Sometimes students of Tantric and Taoist sexual practices forget to question or understand the cultural, social, or political context from which the ideas originate. Just because something is exotic or esoteric doesn't mean it's true.

Beginners Guide to the Kama Sutra

You've probably heard of the Kama Sutra, but do you know what is actually in it? Adult webmaster Sarah Gibson gives a summary of some of the best known Kama Sutra techniques.

The Book of Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian text, originally written to help men have happy marriages. And while most are led to believe it is a compendium of carnal contortions and poetic descriptions of genitalia, in fact only one out of seven chapters is dedicated to sex. Modern day versions of these ancient teachings have found popularity due to the focus on mutual pleasure or ‘equal congress.’ So continue reading for a summary of some of the best known Kama Sutra techniques. Read more

3 Sex Positions for Female Healing

Sexual energy, also called kundalini energy, is a powerful force in regard to our health, intimate relationships, and spirituality, but the extent of this is seldom realized. According to Chinese medicine, an energy imbalance is the root of nearly every ailment, whether physical or emotional. One way to re-balance the body’s energy is through sex.

Sex Is a Skill, Like Riding a Bicycle

Though sex may be natural, it is also a skill, says Susan Miranda.

I have been doing sexuality education workshops since 1989. In one particular workshop, I focused on the idea of sex being a skill. One participant reacted very strongly against that idea. It was as though sex and sexuality could not possibly be anything other than natural or innate. I’ve been thinking about this reaction for some time now and reflecting on it in light of my experiences with learning a couple of skills as an adult.

One of the things I am most proud of is learning how to swim in my 30s. As a child living on a family farm, I heard stories of children being thrown off a boat by their siblings and told to swim—which they did. To the storytellers, my siblings, that was proof that swimming was natural. I was only grateful they didn’t throw me in the water. Instead, I was taught, mostly by my mother, to be afraid that if I attempted to learn to swim, I would drown. Read more

Male Ejaculation Is NOT the Most Ecstatic Moment

Male ejaculation is not the most ecstatic moment in sex, says sex educator Victor Gold. The interval just before the point of no return can be prolonged and savored for maximum pleasure.

Though it may come as a surprise to many men, the brief intoxicating rush of pleasure experienced during male ejaculation is far from the most blissful moment available to men in sex. Our pleasure potential is much greater than that. However, for a man to reach truly ecstatic states in sex requires that he spend lengthy periods (a half hour, or an hour, or more) of sexual activity in high states of arousal, but without a genital discharge. Accomplished male lovers, those who have mastered the art of seminal retention, know that male ejaculation is a vastly overrated source of sexual pleasure. They understand that calling ejaculation the “climax” of pleasure is really just a bad habit left over from early programming. Read more

Maithuna Ritual: Tantric Sexual Union

Maithuna is a Sanskrit term used in Tantra, which is most often translated as sexual union within a ritual. Maithuna refers to the coming together of god and goddess with the acknowledgement that everything is sacred, from food to acts of lovemaking. It uses physical unification for the purpose of creating spiritual unification.

Since Maithuna is practiced as a spiritual ceremony, there is an acknowledgement and honoring of a divine being. However, in Tantra, this deity is acknowledged and honored in your partner, rather than as an intellectual concept or spiritual ideal. Tantra encourages lovers to see the divinity in each other.

The Sexploitation of Yoga

WIlliam J. Broad's New York Times article "Yoga and Sex Scandals" misleadingly implies that yoga's capacity to improve libido leads to sexual misconduct, Elaine Gavalas.

WIlliam J. Broad's New York Times article on yoga injuries fueled a heated debate regarding the safety of yoga practice. His recent New York Times article, "Yoga and Sex Scandals: No Surprise Here," is now creating a yoga sexploitation.

His article claims yoga began as tantric sex cult. It also mentions sexual scandals of yoga gurus. The article misleadingly implies that yoga's capacity to improve libido leads to sexual misconduct. Read more

Is Yoga Really All about Your Genitals?

Is yoga really all about your genitals? Only if you believe the mainstream media's typical combination of titillation and misinformation.

OMG you guys, have you heard? Yoga is all about ... how to put this gently without scaring the children? It's all about your naughty bits. Your genitals. It's true.

It's also all about kinky superstar "gurus," sexual healing and drug-crazed orgies where everyone gets naked, sleeps with married people and prays to weird Hindu gods with ten arms, flaming red tongues and giant stone phalluses that crazed devotees pour lots of milk, butter, honey and flowers all over as regular ritual. I know! What's not to like?

How do I know all this? I just read it in the New York Times. I just read, more specifically, all about the great John Friend/Anusara yoga sex scandal of 2012 -- a very big deal indeed in the yoga world right now, by the way -- as covered, in small part, by the Times' sole yoga-practicing writer in a hundred-mile radius (apparently), a seemingly nice but largely misinformed science guy named William Broad. Read more

Reading the Sacred Sex Bible

To many people, sacred sex seems like a contradiction in terms, but The Sacred Sex Bible discusses how to incorporate sex into a spiritual path.

"In making love with a sense of the sacred, your body becomes a temple and your partner’s body a shrine."

Sex Magick Revisited

The idea of “sacred sex” frightens some people. The independent erotica author Roy Askham recently started a blog called Sex and Spiritual Life. Its purpose is to ask the question, “Can sex be incorporated into a spiritual path?” Askham has written a novel that combines BDSM themes with the theme of spiritual progress. The protagonist, Edward, discovers that sexual desires and spiritual seeking are not incompatible. Askham has received both positive and negative feedback on the combination. One blog commenter wrote, “I think our earthly desires have little to do with our spiritual path, unless we allow them to interfere.” Read more

Soft Penetration: A Great Way to Connect

Men (and women) have been programmed to believe that a man should have a rock-hard erection at all times during lovemaking, but Lawrence Lanoff says that soft penetration is a great way to deepen our connection.

A friend asked me about soft penetration with her lover, so I thought I would share a bit about this very misunderstood subject.

We live in a culture where a stiff cock means everything. However, thinking a stiff cock is all there is - and that something is wrong if it ain’t - is like trying to inhale all the time. You can’t. We need the inhale and the exhale.

It was through tantra I first noticed the sexual exhale that I call ‘soft penetration’. It was something that occurred naturally and often. That is to say, when I was completely immersed in the energy of the moment, my cock wasn’t always hard. I began referring to this as my lunar cock - the opposite of a solar cock. Instead of it being fully locked and loaded, it tended to be soft and receptive. Read more

4 Ways to Take Sex to a Deeper Level

Tantric sex is about taking sex to a deeper level. Here are four ways to create that intense, intimate connection between you and your partner.

Animalistic sack sessions belong waaay up on every Cosmo girl's gotta-have-it list. But slow, soulful encounters shouldn't get second billing just because they don't leave cracks in the bedroom walls. "This kind of sex is deeper than connecting physically," says New York City sex therapist Joy Davidson, PhD, author of Fearless Sex. "It's about losing yourself in the moment and bonding emotionally as well." So do yourselves a favor and, some nights, put the following soulful-sex advice into action. Read more

The Steady Decline of Affection in America

Courtesan Bethany St. James says that more and more these days her stock-in-trade is not sex, but affection. She says that modern Americans have failed miserable when it comes to differentiating between the words sex and sensuality.

... Having been a professional paramour all my adult life, I was struck by the recent resurgence of requests for romantic interludes. I started to wonder: What has caused so many people to suddenly feel so alone and in need of an ear, a hand to hold, or casual dinner conversation? The answer is simple.

In my opinion, modern Americans have failed miserably when it comes to differentiating between the words "sex" and "sensuality." Our view of what is "sexy" has become so askew that many women and men don't even know what their own desires are anymore. With most contemporary portrayals of sexuality being outright promiscuity and tactless drunken debauchery, it's not surprising that women and men have lost sight of the joys and need for sensuality. Between this severely misguided view of human sexuality and the pressures of our everyday lives, the sex lives of most Americans have been stunted. Those involved in relationships, and even those who are battling through the "dating scene," are faced with the pressures to conform to what society is telling us sex should be. Read more

Tantric Sex Tip: Ejaculation Control

Tantric sex coach Layla Riley explains a simple technique for ejaculation control.

Talking Tantric Sex

Sarah Gibson gives some helpful hints to couples wanting to try Tantric sex for the first time.

American Pie, Sex and the City and other feature films have referenced it, Sting and sex therapists are raving about it, people everywhere are talking about it, but what is Tantric Sex? In this article I will give you the low-down on this new (or maybe not so new) phenomenon. If you are ready to give this well-kept secret a go, keep reading for my quick-start guide.

What is Tantric Sex?

Tantric sex utilises the ancient Eastern practices of Tantra, using breath, sounds and movements to activate sexual energy. It is said to bring you and your partner’s sex life to greater states of sensual pleasure and intimacy. Tantric sex is different from other well-known practices, such as Kama Sutra, as it is not solely based on sex positions but is a whole new way of life. The focus is not on achieving multiple or even quick orgasms, but in fact the complete opposite, its aim is to prolong the act of sex thus increasing the sexual energy between you and your partner.

So if you want to experience a powerful flow of energy and intimacy between you and your partner, decreased stress and greater sexual satisfaction, here are some helpful hints. Read more

Tantric Exercise for Amazing Orgasms

Learn how to increase your capacity for amazing orgasms with this simple Tantric exercise demonstrated by Rhoda Jordan.. If you want more information about Kegel exercises, this program from Svetlana Ivanova is the one I follw to maintain sexual fitness. These exercises absolutely will make a difference in your capacity for orgasm, particularly during sexual intercourse.

What Is Tantra? Tantra Expert Layla Tells All

Tantric Sex Coach Layla Riley discusses what you need to know about Tantra sex.

Is Deep Penetration the Key to Female Sexual Ecstasy?

Diana Richardson explains why deep penetration of the vagina is essential for women to experience sexual ecstasy.

Generations of women have failed to experience their divine orgasmic potential, the female delight of sensuality and love through sex. The Garden of Love, the secret gateway to sexual ecstasy for women and men, lies abandoned, untouched, and overgrown with straying weeds. All the emotional memories of a woman’s painful sexual experiences such as rape, abortion, aggression, and abuse leave their psychological imprint in this deepest part of the vagina. This causes constriction in the vaginal tissues making the walls tough and unyielding. In this way, there is an ongoing protective defense set up in the tissues, and the vagina contracts instinctively during intercourse, inhibiting deeper penetration. This means that the powerful positive penis head is unable to correspond smoothly and directly with its negative counterpart in the very depths of the vagina, thus affecting the energy flow. Read more