Demystifying Taoist/Tantric Sexual Practices

Sometimes students of Tantric and Taoist sexual practices forget to question or understand the cultural, social, or political context from which the ideas originate. Just because something is exotic or esoteric doesn't mean it's true.

Foreplay the Yin Way

Tantra teacher Pam Babbitt explains how you and your partner can use foreplay the Yin way to harmonize and balance your energy systems so that they open the door for incredible bliss.

Yin-Yang
There is a belief in many Eastern cultures that male and female energies run opposite each other. According to the Taoists energy system, yang is the masculine or active energy and yin is the female or receptive energy. The male pulls his sexual and life energy (yang) up from his feet, through his genitals and into his heart, whereas the woman’s energy (yin) starts from the top of her head, through her heart and then into her genitals. The result of these opposing energy systems is – the woman needs a heart connection before she desires sex and the man needs sex before he can feel a heart connection. Are you ready to allow your energy systems to harmonize and balance as they open the door for incredible bliss?

Another perspective on yin-yang energy is viewing it as the union of opposites. No biological system is entirely yin or yang and no person is entirely masculine or feminine. Following this concept, your yin-yang relationship will be influenced by your chosen techniques and sexual positions used in your dance of energies. This is not a “War of the Sexes,” but rather an opportunity for you and your partner to expand and become more balanced energetically as you both embrace your yin and yang. A sensual bath or water ritual can be very relaxing. Hair brushing, foot massage, poetry reading, chanting or partner yoga are other calming ways to start your sensual-spiritual connection.. Read more

Foreplay the Yang Way

Tantra teacher Pam Babbitt explains how you and your partner can use foreplay the Yang way to harmonize and balance your energy systems so that they open the door for incredible bliss.

Yin and Yang
There is a belief in many Eastern cultures that male and female energies run opposite each other. According to the Taoists energy system, yang is the masculine or active energy and yin is the female or receptive energy. The male pulls his sexual and life energy (yang) up from his feet, through his genitals and into his heart, whereas the woman’s energy (yin) starts from the top of her head, through her heart and then into her genitals. The result of these opposing energy systems is – the woman needs a heart connection before she desires sex and the man needs sex before he can feel a heart connection. Are you ready to allow your energy systems to harmonize and balance as they open the door for incredible bliss?

Another perspective on yin-yang energy is viewing it as the union of opposites. No biological system is entirely yin or yang and no person is entirely masculine or feminine. Following this concept, your yin-yang relationship will be influenced by your chosen techniques and sexual positions used in your dance of energies. This is not a “War of the Sexes,” but rather an opportunity for you and your partner to expand and become more balanced energetically as you both embrace your yin and yang. Read more

Comparing Taoist Sexuality with Karezza

Taoism is a spiritual tradition that embraces our sexual desire and uses it within our bodies as a force for healing and spiritual growth. The physical techniques of karezza are designed to teach control of the orgasm response in both men and women, for the purposes of physical pleasure, partnership bonding, better health, and spiritual benefit. How does Taoist sexuality compare with karezza?

Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia (with Michael Winn) was my first introduction to the wisdom of making love without striving for orgasm. This book made a big impression on me and I am very grateful to its authors. Chia, a neo-Taoist master, teaches men another way to manage their sexual energy, as well as the weakness in humanity's current habits. His book greatly expanded my understanding of my role as a lover, helping me to become a safer lover.

However, even before I stumbled upon the ancient account of Taoist lovemaking in the work ascribed to the famous Taoist sage, Laozi (or "Lao Tzu"), I realized that there was an inherent inconsistency in Chia’s teachings. The mystical, merging experience which he calls “the valley orgasm” is a state of “not doing.” Yet, much of Chia’s book is about performance-oriented techniques, such as clenching the teeth, the buttocks and the muscles around the prostate gland, counting intercourse strokes, and so forth. These vigorous measures permit a skilled man to approach the edge of orgasm, and then maintain his control sufficiently to make love rather vigorously…indefinitely. Read more

Taoist Secrets to Sexual Bliss

FOXSexpert Yvonne K. Fulbright reveals some of the secrets to sexual bliss contained in Taoist “pillow books."

You want enlightened sexual bliss. But what does it take to get there? Far from unattainable, lovers of various spiritual traditions are seeking it via Taoist sexuality. What started out as a branch of Chinese philosophy and medicine, Taoist sex has been regarded as sacred sex for five thousand years.

The rewards it offers are huge. Sexual union is seen as key to health, longevity, and spiritual perfection. Equally appealing — practitioners claim greater sexual pleasure and sensations, stronger orgasms, and heightened spiritual energy in this earthly form of a greater cosmic dance.

Here are some of the secrets Taoist “pillow books” have been spilling when it comes to greater pleasure pursuits: Read more

The Foreskin, Thrusting Patterns, and Slowing Down

Suzie Heumann at Tantra and Kama Sutra Blog with Suzie explains how to use thrusting patterns to take advantage of the foreskin's ability to enhance women's pleasure.

Ever wonder why the penis has a head on it? Why isn't it just a smooth surface all the way to the body? Yes, the foreskin has to attach somewhere and foreskin does protect the sensitive tissue there but the Taoists have another idea about it. It’s there for more pleasure – a woman’s pleasure. Read more

Tantric and Taoist Sexuality: What's the Difference?

Ask About Love And Sex blog answers a question that many people have probably asked: "What is the difference between Tantric and Taoist Sexuality?"

Tantra originated in India and Taoist sexuality is from China; both go back thousands of years. Both strongly emphasize working with sexual energy very deliberately and consciously, and in similar ways. Men are encouraged to learn to delay ejaculation and to separate orgasm and ejaculation to have male multiple orgasms. Read more