The Science of Sacred Sexuality

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Breathing Together for Nonverbal Communication

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

Women constantly complain that men won't "open up" and share their innermost feelings to them. Has all this complaining changed men? Not much. Could men change? Probably, but, in the meantime, why not try a different way to develop the intimacy we want? Since men won't talk, why not try nonverbal communication?

Using words to convey feelings is something many women do far better than most men. Since birth, women are trained to talk about feelings, to grasp the language of emotion and rapport.

Men are not. Women want men to meet them on their turf of conveying innermost feelings. But many men can’t because they’ve never learned how. Yes, men must learn, and many are, but why should all the learning be on men’s shoulders? Can’t women try to understand, appreciate, and converse in the communication modes men use at the same time men are learning how to express and verbalize their feelings?

Okay to readily achieve this, you both may want to try nonverbal communication. Here’s how:

It s called the breathing together technique: Read more

TV Interviews with Pala Copeland and Al Link of 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

With twenty years of experience and ten years of teaching through their popular weekend retreats, Al Link and Pala Copeland of 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra are sought out by media professionals on the subjects of sex and relationships. Over the years, they have appeared on numerous TV shows focusing on Tantra, sex, and relationships. This 5 minute video includes some of their favorite clips and some sizzling Tantric sex tips.

Tantra as Therapy: Was Osho Wrong?

I recently corresponded with an Indian doctor on the subject of Tantra as "therapy," so Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson's critique of Osho's promotion of that idea is timely for me.

Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh (Osho) had a profound influence on what is now known as "Tantra" in the Western world. Rajneesh came from an academic background, did not have traditional training in Tantra and was not part of a lineage-based system. He had an extensive textual knowledge and was a very effective popularizer. He fused cutting-edge, Western psychotherapeutic techniques of the 1960s and '70s with Tantric texts and used the phrase "neo-Tantra" to describe his system. He was a controversial figure throughout his life, and he remains one today.

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Many contemporary Tantra teachers were trained by Rajneesh or his disciples, and others have embraced his ideas, at least in part. Rajneesh helped inspire the widely held notion that Tantra is a form of therapy; sometimes this belief extends to Tantric sexual practices and includes the idea that "sexual healing" can be effected through various practices designed to produce emotional release and purge traumas that are often thought to be stored in the genitals. We view these ideas with skepticism. Read more

I disagree with the classical Tantra notion that only healthy, well-integrated people are ready for Tantra, but, on the other hand, expecting Tantra alone to make one healthy and whole is probably unrealistic as well.

Grounding Your Sexual Energy

Many Tantric practices raise sexual energy--sometimes too well. Rather than try to go through your day sexually "wound-up," Al Link and Pala Copeland explain how to ground your excess energy.

Grounding is a very effective process for calming and stabilizing. Grounding connects you with the earth, carrying overpowering negative energies down and away much like a lightning rod. There are many methods for grounding. Try this one daily, as often as you think of it. Even if you don’t “feel” anything while you are doing it notice the difference grounding makes to your overall sense of well-being. Grounding is also an excellent practice whenever you are feeling sexually “wound-up”: Read more

Tantra 101

Kip and Lexi explain a simple formula to awaken the life force in the body.

Two Sex Positions That Make Your Man’s Penis Feel Bigger

Though sexual intercourse is only one aspect of sexual relations between a man and a woman, it's an important part. There is no reason for the size of your partner's penis to reduce the pleasure you experience during intercourse, including the feeling of fullness you enjoy. Svetlana Ivanova at Sex Secrets describes how to modify two popular sex positions to make your man's penis feel bigger inside you.

If you find that your man’s penis is too small, changing positions can make it feel longer and thicker. Two of most men’s favorite sex positions are doggy-style (rear entry) and missionary (man on top). Fortunately, these are two of the easiest to adjust to make your man’s penis feel bigger inside you. Read more