What Tantra Is and What It Isn't

In the minds of many people, Tantra means a style of prolonged lovemaking; however, it can and does mean so much more.

It's about sex and has nothing to do with sex. It's about how we approach life, Pamm

Tantra isn't memorizing and perfectly executing all the chronicled positions from the Kama Sutra. It is about being your body and following its impulses rather than some rote routine in sex.

Tantra looks like it's all about pretty and light. Which it is...but it's also about being with the Dark...which often shows up in the middle of playing in the light.

For instance- the biggest sort of cliche thing I hear about Tantra is that it's about lighting a few candles and gazing into each other's eyes (snicker, snicker). Many find this boring, silly, trite. And it can be. Sitting there looking into another's eyes while a Sting song plays in the background isn't what Tantra's all about. Read more

Healthy, Lasting Relationships through Tantra

Nahu Lanham explains how Tantra can create healthy, lasting relationships.

In the book TANTRA, The Way of Acceptance, Osho informs us:

“This is the Tantra message: don’t live a repressed life, otherwise you live not at all. Live a life of expression, creativity, joy. Live the way existence wanted you to live; live the natural way.”

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Increased erotic joy is possible because a higher level of consciousness increases energy, creativity and self-expression. You could say it takes you to a higher frequency of self-expression. As one learns to express this divinity with their chosen sexual partner through Tantric exercise and awareness, they find new dimensions of fulfillment that can be enjoyed whether they choose to express it solo or with their partner. The specific details of these methods, though long held secret and passed on only through oral tradition, are socially available in many forms today and practiced in mental, spiritual and physical meditative rituals. Read more

The 4 Best Positions for G-Spot Massage

Svetlana Ivanova at Sex Secrets says that couples should try different positions for G-spot stimulation because every woman is different.

The G-Spot is the focal point of female sexual arousal. The G-spot lies about 2 inches inside the vagina behind the front wall of the vagina. It is a tiny, bean-shaped area which swells and can become as large as a quarter when stimulated, though, actually, the aroused G-spot’s size varies considerably from woman to woman. Since every woman is different, couples may need to experiment with different positions to find the best way to stimulate her G-spot. Try these 4 positions for G-spot massage. Read more

G-Spot Massage for Yoni Healing

The G-spot is an area located on the front wall of the Yoni (Sanskrit for vagina) about 2 inches in and beneath the pubic bone. The G-spot stores a woman's sexual, creative energy, but it also stores any sexual or emotional pain. Often, G-spot massage is referred to as Yoni healing because it stimulates and applies pressure to the Yoni in order to remove any blocks to sexual pleasure, such as feelings of numbness or pain, and replace them with pleasurable, erotic sensations.

Make the space where you'll be doing the G-spot massage warm, inviting, and special, a place your partner will feel welcome and comfortable. Ask her to undress and lie face down. Begin giving her a full body massage. After about 10 minutes, ask her to turn over, and then continue the massage. When she seems very relaxed, ask her if it is all right to massage her more intimately. If she is ready, begin to gently massage her genital area, including the inner and outer lips of her Yoni and her pubic mound.

Kama Sutra Keep Fit

The Kama Sutra, written by the Indian sage Vatsyayana, is one of the most famous books in the world. It is the earliest surviving example of a written Hindu love manual based on earlier Kama Sharstras or Rules Of Love and promotes the cultivation of sensuality as a sacred duty. If the Kama Sutra conjures images of rubber-limbed Indian gods and goddesses in improbable poses,think again. You can also keep fit with the Kama Sutra.

If you're looking for an unusual Christmas gift or a different exercise routine for the new year, Dance of the Kama Sutra With Hemalayaa is a new workout DVD that uses meditation and movements from Indian dance to help women cultivate their sensuality. Hemalayaa is a yogini and Indian dance expert. This video is for any woman that wants to move her body, learn to love the body she's in, and make it something sensual for her partner. Dance of the Kama Sutra With Hemalayaa is sensual, empowering, feminine, and perfect for any body type or fitness level.

Tantric Sex Increases Mental Power

Science has discovered that great sex expands your brain. Does this mean that prolonged Tantric lovemaking stimulates your brain for longer periods of time and increases your mental power to new levels?

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Tantra Terms for the Puzzled Reader

Part of the trouble with exploring Tantra without a teacher is that you are bound to come across new words. Sometimes, these terms aren't adequately defined because authors assume that their readers already know them. Touching SA has an glossary of Tantra terms that can serve as an excellent reference for anyone, but especially newcomers learning on their own.

Acupressure Points. The junctures of energy pathways in the body. Holding acupressure points for more than a minute or so causes the body to release neurochemicals called endorphins. The release of endorphins can create a euphoric “natural high” and encourage relaxation as well as magnetism and intimacy.

Amrita. “Divine Nectar.” Sanskrit term for female ejaculate. This fluid is different from urine and similar to the prostatic fluid of men. In Tantra Amrita is considered to be a powerfully healing substance.Ananda. Divine bliss; joy; spiritual ecstasy.

Asana. Yoga posture. Used to positively influence the energies of body and mind

A-U-M. The three sounds which compose the root mantra, om. The sound-values of om and their symbolic interpretation are described in the Upanishads: “”A” as the waking consciousness, “U” as the dream-consciousness and “M” as the consciousness during deep sleep. Om as a whole represents the all-encompassing cosmic consciousness.”

Aura. The subtle field of energy generated by the various life energies in the body.

Ayurveda. “Science of life.” Ayurveda is the traditional system of medicine of India, which dates back thousands of years. The Sanskrit root ayu means “life,” and veda means “pure knowledge.” Read more

5 Steps to Perfect Cunnilingus

Some consider oral sex the most intimate of all sex acts. Some women find cunnilingus, oral sex performed on a woman, to be the most satisfying of all sexual acts. Indeed, a great number of women report that oral sex is the only way they can achieve orgasm. Svetlana Ivanova has posted her 5 Steps to Perfect Cunnilingus as a guide for men seeking to provide pleasure to their partners.:

Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the vagina and direct stimulation of the clitoris. A recent study showed that twice as many women orgasm from oral sex as from intercourse. Cunnilingus performed well will endear you to her like nothing else can. Follow these 5 steps for performing perfect cunnilingus on your woman. Read more

An Effective Tantra Breathing Technique to Prolong Sexual Intercourse

Tantra uses breathing exercises (pranayama) to help raise and channel our sexual energy. One breathing exercise, a variation of Kapalbhati Pranayama, can also be used to prevent premature ejaculation.

During sexual intercourse, as the excitement peaks for the male and he approaches orgasm he should begin to do Kapalbhati Pranayama through the mouth. Specifically, he should puff air out of his mouth while pulling in the stomach muscle sharply with each exhalation. As in Kapalbhati, allow the stomach to relax for the recoil inhalation to take place. This rapid puffing out of air through the mouth changes the blood chemistry and will retard ejaculation by easing the blood supply to the male sexual organ. Read more

Three Types of Sex: Tamasic, Rajasic, Sattvic

Diana Daffner describes three kinds of sex: tamasic, rajasic, and sattivic. What type of sex are you having?

Ancient texts from India describe human activity as falling into one of three states, or qualities, called, in the Sanskrit language, tama, raja and sattva. Each characterizes a specific state of awareness and is reflected in all the ways we live our lives, including how we eat and how we make love. By understanding these qualities, we can transform our sexual activity into a sacred event. Instead of just grappling about, hoping for a positive outcome, we can envision physical connection as a soulful experience for the purpose of deep communion and intimacy. Read more

How Do I Circulate Sexual Energy?

If you've read anything about Tantra at all, you've probably come across the phrase "circulate the energy," but what does that mean and how do you do it? Marnia Robinson at Reuniting: Healing with Sexual Relationships gives simple instructions:

To circulate your sexual energy, simply tighten the muscles around the genitals and perineum as you inhale. raising energy up the spine

Visualize, or feel, your sexual energy flowing up your spine to the crown of your head...

Now, as you exhale, visualize the energy flowing down the front of your body to your navel. Store it there. This step is very important according to Mantak Chia, author of Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy. Otherwise, the energy can build up in your head and cause headaches.

Repeat. Read more

A Simple Practice to Expand Pleasure

Suzie Heumann at Tantra and Kama Sutra Blog with Suzie explains a simple practice to turn any spot on your body into an erogenous zone.

The whole body, and every inch of skin, is the most complex erogenous zone there is. There are men and women who can orgasm just by touching a specific spot on their body without any genital touching. You can train yourself to activate your skin, or any other part of your body, to assist in orgasmic pleasure. Read more

How Can I Help My Wife to Understand the Benefits of Tantra?

A reader asks Al Link and Pala Copeland this question: "How can I help my wife to understand the benefits of Tantra and to approach it with an open mind and heart, and to sincerely try the techniques taught and from all this start an adventurous sexual and spiritual journey with me as this is what I need and want?"

Many women suffer from shame and guilt around sex, particularly from family and religious teachings. Because of past conditioning it can be difficult for them to even talk about sex, let alone embrace it. Read more

Al and Pala don't mention it in their answer, but I wonder if this reader's wife might also be suspicious of his motives for wanting to start "an adventurous sexual and spiritual journey" She make take his desire as an expression of dissatisfaction with her and their relationship.

How Can Tantra Help a Woman Enhance Her Inner Qualities?

Laura Amazzone at A Temple of Female Consciousness answers this reader's question: "How can tantra help a woman enhance her inner qualities?"

Tantra is about harnessing and amplifying our inner power, our Shakti. The word tantra means to weave and involves a process of weaving/blending opposite qualities or tensions and experiencing the unity of their common essence.

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To enhance my positive inner qualities, or my Shakti, I attempt to confront and embrace any negative thought or emotion. Sometimes I sit with it and let it run its course for days or weeks, but then eventually I do sadhana-spiritual practice to work with the energies that are inhibiting me from accessing and expressing my Shakti. As the remover of fear and difficulty, Durga teaches us not to run away from that which is difficult, but to face it with composure. Read more

A Ritual for "Letting Go"

Pamm at My Secret Spiritual Dance shares a ritual that helps release the connections of past partners whose energy you no longer want to keep in your body. The Huna say that all contact, whether in the physical or on another level, involves the exchange of threads of aka material or energy. According to Huna teachings, some of the cords we create can dissipate our energy, keep us locked into negative relationships, or become tangled and distorted.

... We were told that esoteric thought is that all women keep a cord or energetic connection to every man they have slept with and that until we cut the cords, our energy is drained.

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For this meditiation/visualization I think it's important to not think about if it works or how it works, but that you are aiming to feel better. You don't have to figure out if it's "real." Many people don't "see" when they do visualizations, they just feel or sense. It's all OK, there is no right way to do this. Read more

Developing Your Tantra Practice From Basics to Advanced

Greenwoman has linked her series on Tantra energy exercises into one convenient-to-use post. An interested student could learn the essence of Tantra just from practicing the exercises in this series. Read more