3 Principles of Sexual Healing

Tantric Healer and Reiki Master Sunyata Satchitanada discusses three principles of sexual healing.

As the "healer" in a sexual healing session, I've found that the central question is: "What applied principles enable the client to have a healing experience and not reinforce or reignite the wounding he/she is endeavoring to recover from?" Here are my thoughts and reflections about the answer.

First, one fundamental understanding for clarity: The client is choosing to have a healing session with the healer because he/she has an expectation/desire to receive a healing experience and is not doing so to meet the healer's sexual, relationship, or intimacy needs. If a healer feels the client is coming to the healer to fulfill the healer's personal needs there is a fundamental flaw present in the session. A healer serves as such for the benefit, growth, integration, fulfillment, healthful well-being of others -it is transpersonal service -not to serve the healer's personal needs. While a healer experiences great satisfaction in being of service and may also benefit from solutions turned up during the session for the client -these are secondary to the prime directive of serving another.

With that in mind, here are three principles I feel are fundamental to serving as a Healer. Read more

A Hot Guide to Fat Sex

Fat people have sex, too, says Kitty Stryker. She shares "some tips and tricks some tips and tricks to explore sex whether you’re chubby, thick, zaftig, plus-sized, or just plain fat."

Ever read the sex tips in Cosmo and thought “seriously, I am not a yoga master, how the hell am I supposed to do that position” or thought “wow, are the only people who have experimental sex skinny?” I know I’ve certainly scoffed at sex position cards that suggested acrobatics that would qualify me for the Olympics!

It’s really sad when you look up “fat sex how to” or “bbw sex guide” it only takes about 5 entries before you get to either degrading porn or weight loss tips. Ugh. And then, of course, there’s all the body-negative bullshit to wade through. Way to remove sexual agency from fat people!

Well, fat people have sex too, I’m here to tell you, and it can be as varied and exciting as it is for everyone else. Here’s some tips and tricks to explore sex whether you’re chubby, thick, zaftig, plus-sized, or just plain fat. Read more

For more on this topic, see my post The 6 Best Sex Positions for Large Couples.

Kegel Exercises and Female Orgasm

Ashley Clark says that  a fitter, well-toned pelvic floor will almost certainly increase sexual pleasure for you and your partner. 

Since the pelvic floor muscles are the muscles that that surround the vaginal opening and contract rhythmically during orgasm, it is not surprising that sex therapist emphasize the importance of the PC muscles in the orgasmic response. Nevertheless, there is controversy over the exact effects of the PC muscles on orgasmic response but certain benefits of a strong pelvic floor are well accepted.

A fitter, well-toned pelvic floor will almost certainly increase sexual pleasure for you and your partner, and it can dramatically improve your sexual confidence. The physiological reasons for the improvement go far beyond the increased tactile sensations resulting from a tighter vagina. Read more

How Yoga Increases Romance and Intimacy

Yoga teacher Jasmine Kaloudis says that yoga can not only improve your mental and physical health, but can also increase romance and intimacy.

Research shows that yoga helps manage or control anxiety, asthma, arthritis, back pain, blood pressure, carpal tunnel syndrome, chronic fatigue, depression, diabetes, epilepsy, headaches, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, stress and other diseases.Yoga also helps improve muscle tone, flexibility, strength, stamina, boost self-esteem, improve concentration and creativity, circulation and stimulate the immune system.

When yoga can help you in these and many other ways, how it is practiced is of utmost importance. And practitioners of yoga are lucky in the sense that it is an extremely versatile art. It can be either practiced in solitude, or in a more social atmosphere of a class.

There is another fruitful way you can practice yoga and that is by combining the skills and support of another person. The benefits and advantages of practicing yoga with partners and friends are many. Read more

Male Genital Massage

Tantric teacher Jaiya gives some tips and techniques for male genital massage.

Tantric Sex Position: Connecting

Tantrachick describes one of her favorite sex positions Connecting. While in this position, a woman can experience clitoral, G-spot, and vaginal orgasm simultaneously.

While I have many, many favorite sex positions, this is definitely one of my top 5. I like to call it Mingling or Connecting, but the most common name is Scissors. What makes connecting so incredibly delicious is that, while in this position, the woman can adjust her lover’s leg so that she has full access to her clitoris. When my lover and I are connecting, I like to apply a tiny bit of organic tea seed oil to my pointer and middle finger on my right hand and stimulate myself so that I can experience a clitoris , g-spot and vaginal orgasm simultaneously. Read more