A Beginner's Guide to Good, Great, and Amazing Sex

Shakti Amarantha shares a beginner's guide to good, great, and amazing sex.

An old friend of mine did a really cool thing last month. She combed through the non-Tantra posts that I have scattered through this blog and organized them into what amounts to a sex ed handbook. Although she called it "A Beginner's Guide," it's really for anyone who wants to have better sex.

She goes by the name "TantraGirl" on Reddit, and this was her original post. It was a labor of love, and she has kindly granted permission for me to quote her. All of the comments below were written by her: Read more

7 Yoga Poses to Do Before Bed for Better Sex

Aly Walansky says that doing these yoga poses before bed can lead to steamy, do-it=all-night sex.

Yoga is incredible for everything, from detoxing your body to increasing flexibility. But what you may not know is that there are yoga poses that can spell major success for your sex life.

The first thing to do, is remember to breathe.

"When you change your breathing by simply breathing in and out through the nose, you turn on the parasympathetic nervous system. This creates an all over feeling of ease and relaxation automatically. You've just shifted out of fight or flight and into a more relaxed state. Blood pressure drops as well. Breathe with intent to feel. I can't imagine a great sex life without the ability to feel," says Michelle Cordero, expert yoga instructor and life coach. Read more

5 Yoga Moves That Can Improve Your Sex Life

Yoga has many benefits, including improving your sex life, according to Sharon Feiereisen .

Yoga can serve endless purposes — including improving your sex life — so much so, in fact, that come February 9 305 Fitness will be launching Yoga 4 Better X. The 55-minute flow will build on traditional vinyasa flow to, as the studio says, “awaken dormant internal energies, while improving strength, flexibility, and mental focus.” Inspired in equal parts by dance and yoga, the class will use a rhythmic flow to match movement with music and with breath and the “X” in the class’s name will constantly be changing (i.e., they will have classes where the “X” will be “sex” but will also be “sense,” “feel,” “body,” and “let go”). Read more

5 Yoga Poses for Better Sex

These five simple poses tone your body while also improving your sex life.

As if the perks to all your yoga poses aren't good enough, we've got a sexy revelation for you: Many poses can help you have better sex and feel more confident in the bedroom. That's because specific asanas can help make you more aware and present, improve flexibility and teach to you tighten and engage your pelvic floor muscles -- all of which factor into your sex life.

We tapped yogi Lauren Imparato, founder and CEO of I.Am.You studio in New York City, for the best yoga poses to help you have better sex. Namast-yay! Read more

The 5 Most Dangerous Sex Positions (And How to Do Them!)

If you're feeling adventurous, here is a couple's guide to performing the five most dangerous positions.

Here is a couple's guide to 5 sex positions that will sooner lead to sprained muscles and torn ligaments than to orgasm. I mean what's more fun than adding some danger to sex...right? I'm not just talking about advanced sex positions.These sex moves are definitely not meant for drunk people, nor are they taught in sex books. Attempt these moves at your own risk. Feel free to use this on your next one night stand. Who knows, they might turn out to be marriage material. Read more

5 Secrets of Tantric Sex

During intense sexual arousal or orgasm, a person can reach a mental state that is very similar to that of meditation. By extending lovemaking long enough to fully stimulate the erogenous zones, you bring energy into them, which generates a highly charged physical response. While some Tantric sex secrets are complex, there are basic techniques that can spice up your sex life. Here are five of them:

10 Yoga Poses for an Amazingly Better Sex Life

These ten yoga poses are designed to take your sex life from good to better to best.

Forget whipped cream and sexy mix CDs — if you really want to spice things up between the sheets, try one of these yoga poses that increase flexibility, blood flow, stamina, relaxation, and all of those other factors that take sex from good to better to best night ever. Remember to breathe! Read more

How to Feng Shui Your Bedroom for a Better Sex Life

When it comes to sex, positions matter, says Kata Hakala.

You probably associate feng shui, the Chinese philosophy of harmonizing your own life with your surroundings, with that time in high school when your mom started frantically repositioning the La-Z-Boy sofa. But according to clinical sexologist and couples' therapist Dr. Kat Van Kirk, designing your bedroom so that it creates positive flows of energy (or "chi") can actually enliven your sex life. We've been hiding under several feet of snow, mothy sweaters, inches of leg hair, and dusty floors for many months now. Spring seems like the perfect opportunity to take on some feng shui practices and make our personal living spaces as sex-friendly as possible. Whether you believe in feng shui or not, most of Dr. Kat's tips will still make your bedroom a whole lot more inviting for an overnight guest. Read more

Why Sexual Frustration Is Bad for Your Health

New research on fruit flies discovered some pretty surprising facts about the effect of sexual frustration.

Can’t get no satisfaction? The situation could be worse than you think. Sure, sexual frustration is … well, frustrating. But new research suggests it could also be bad for your physical health.

OK, granted the research was done with fruit flies — not exactly our closest animal counterparts. But the intriguing findings may pave the way for human studies on the subject. “It may not be a myth that sexual frustration is a health issue,” according to lead researcher and University of Michigan professor Scott D. Pletcher. Expecting sex and then not getting it was harmful to flies’ health and cut their lifespans short. Read more

How to Have Multiple Orgasms

Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross say that all women can have multiple orgasms.

Fat Sex 101

In our society, it can be very hard for fat people to own their sexuality. Here, Marianne offers a guide for enjoying sex at any size, with any size partner.

Even when someone “cares about my health,” what it often really comes down to is that they do not want to have sex with a fat person: “You can’t make me want to fuck a fat person.”

This is actually true. If you don’t want to fuck me, I cannot force you to want to fuck me. And, indeed, I would not want to force you because that would be icky and gross and far too complicit in perpetuating rape culture for me to be into it. The thing that these folks don’t seem to get? There are actually plenty of people who want to have sex with fatties.

But for some reason, fat sex seems to be the most threatening topic ever for a whole lot of people. Fat sex gets fetishized and turned into a taboo topic. Maybe that’s why I’m so eager to talk about it all the time — because fat sex is often just sex like anyone else may be having. Read more

See my post The 6 Best Sex Positions for Large Couples for more on this topic.

Can a Vagina Be Too Tight?

It's not always about making your vagina tighter, say Better Dodson and Carlin Ross. Like any muscle, chronic tension doesn't work.

Make Love Not Dinner: Why Putting Sex Back on the Menu Will Help Your Relationship

"Sex isn’t just about sex but about creating a physical bond, a closeness that is crucial in our hectic world," says psychologist Paula Nicolson. Making love, regardless of whether you are in the mood, can improve your relationship.

... For sex therapist Bettina Arndt, the question of whether or not we should be moving physical intimacy closer to the top of that to-do list is increasingly pertinent in a society of spiralling divorce rates. Last year, the highly respected psychotherapist asked 98 couples – from 20-year-old students to those who’d been married for more than 40 years – to keep intimate sex diaries in which they recorded every detail of their behaviour in the bedroom.

The diary results were both poignant and compelling. While women wrote of their dismay and resentment at being ‘pestered’ for sex, most men, she discovered, forlornly documented the fact that they were continually refused sex by their wives, feeling trapped in a sexless marriage where physical intimacy was doled out, as Arndt puts it, ‘like meaty bites to a dog’. Read more

7 Kama Sutra Sex Tips That Will Put You in the Hospital

The Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian text which is considered the primary Sanskrit work on human sexuality. Cracked.com takes a humorous look at this legendary book and concludes that some of its advice could be dangerous.

Vatsyayana's Kama Sutra was a strategy guide for the interaction of penises and vaginas in Gupta-era India (320 to 550 CE), meant to be read by sexual partners to enhance their lovemaking. That's around the same time the New Testament was made official, and people still take that book pretty seriously. What's the problem?

Well it turns out there's a big difference between adopting moral platitudes from thousands of years ago, and trying out their sex advice. Some of the "tips" from the Kama Sutra seem to be setting people up for serious injury should they be performed incorrectly, or in some cases, if they're performed at all. Read more

Think Your Way to Better Sex

Your state of mind affects your sexual response. Lauren Fritsky explains how your mind can improve your sex life.

Your partner seduces you into the bedroom. You take off your clothes, climb into bed and... start thinking about the laundry, your belly pooch or the fight you had with your boss. If this happens to you when you hit the sack, you're not alone. Many women's minds turn to everything but pleasure during sex. Why do we do this? And how can we stop it?

Women are natural multi-taskers, which is helpful in daily life but can distract us in bed, when we should be focusing only on our pleasure and our partner. In addition to life's responsibilities, we bring emotional troubles into the bedroom, which can take away from our enjoyment—sexual and otherwise. Read more