The Yin Yang of Sexual Intimacy

Suzie Heumann explains the yin yang of sexual intimacy and how to cope with it.

Meditation for Beginners: Give Yourself the Gift of Peace!

You've probably heard about the benefits of meditation. Why not make starting a meditation practice one of your New Year's resolutions? Sandy Scherschligt tells you how to get started.

The great thing about meditation is we enter into the very depth of our souls to discover a place of inner peace. Therefore, mediation can be practiced by people of different religions as well as those not currently practicing a religion. However entering into a meditative state does often put one in touch with some deeper questions about the true meaning of life and can give one a more spiritual outlook. Many people would like to meditate but feel that they don’t know how or don’t have the time to commit to it. I know that when something becomes a priority, I can always find the time. You may have to give up a lesser good for the greater good of meditation. It comes down to choices. The good news is that even just 15 minutes of meditation daily will be very beneficial. Read more

5 Ways Yoga Can Improve Your Sex Life

Yoga isn't just for exercise. It can also improve your sex life, says Steph Auteri.

People tend to fixate on very specific mental images when it comes to yoga and sex. They hear Yoga Sutra and think Kama Sutra. They remember that story they once read about the Orgasmic Meditation (OM) movement or naked yoga or yogasms. They picture the cheesy movie scenes where men watch a sex video and one of them drools, “wow, she must do yoga!” They envision Sting and Tantric sex…couples having intercourse while staring deeply into each other’s eyes, achieving levitation right before they experience multiple, simultaneous, universe-altering orgasms.

Or something like that.

I have never experienced simultaneous orgasm. And the closest I’ve ever come to levitation is that time I went into a headstand in yoga class, fell over, and magically landed in king pigeon pose. But I can share with you five ways in which yoga can improve your sex life. Read more

Tantric Sex: A Fun Guide

AS a gentle introduction to Tantric sex, this fun guide is good for beginners.

Tantric sex is easier than you think! Fancy hotting up and slowing down your sex life? Even if you haven't got hours to spend in the bedroom, Tantric sex may be the answer.

What is Tantric sex?
Tantric sex is an ancient Hindu practice that has been going for over 5,000 years, and means 'the weaving and expansion of energy'.

It's a slow form of sex that's said to increase intimacy and create a mind-body connection that can lead to powerful orgasms. Read more

Advanced Tantric Yoga Technique to Channel Sex Energy

Anmol Mehta demonstrates the use of the advanced Tantric technique, the Maha Bandha (Triple Lock), in conjunction with the Tantric Yoga exercise Sat Kriya, to channel kundalini and sex energy up the spine for use by the higher centers.

7 Things to Know About Orgasmic Meditation

Orgasmic Meditation is going mainstream, but Ami Angelowicz says there are seven things you should know before you sign up.

In a brave and epic fashion, Gawker writer Nitasha Tiku attended AND participated in an OM conference, living to pen the tale. For those of you who are not familiar, OM (orgasmic meditation) is a sequenced practice in which one partner gently strokes the other partner’s clitoris for 15 minutes. The result is said to be therapeutic, rather than sexual. The “stroking” allegedly activates the limbic system and releases a flood of oxytocin. The technique was originally billed as a spiritual-style practice like meditation, but as it gains popularity, it’s being presented as more of a “technological innovation” or “body-hack to happiness.” The “guru” of the technique, 46-year-old Nicole Daedone, guarantees that it’s profound whether you’re coupled or single. If you’re thinking OM and it’s parent company, OneTaste, sound cult-y, I wouldn’t argue with you. After reading Tiku’s exhaustive expose, I would describe an OM conference as Landmark Forum for the clitoris. The 1960′s free love culture is back; but for a fee and backed by technological sophistication! Tiku did a thorough job of demystifying the practice. Here are the most important things to know about OneTaste and the OM experience: Read more

9 Tantric Practices to Find God through Sex Now!

This video reveals nine Tantric practices to find enhance spirituality through sex.

Sexual Healing: The Male Deer Exercise

The Male Deer Exercise is the best known male exercise from Taoist Chi Kung. It ends premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction and promotes male full-body orgasm.  Reinvigorating sexual energy means regaining the vitality of youth and giving a holistic benefit to your entire system. The Male Deer Exercise, done daily, will provide great benefits to men. They will reinvigorate their sexual energy, stimulate sperm production, exercise the prostate (and promote good prostate health), and reignite their libido.

How to Have Multiple Orgasms

Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross say that all women can have multiple orgasms.

How to Be More Present During Lovemaking

You can't enjoy sex if you allow distractions to take your mind off what is happening with your body. Tantra expert Layla Riley gives tantra tips on how to become more present during lovemaking.

Tantric Breast Massage for Women

Authentic Tantra™ Educator Devi Ward describes how women can use daily Taoist and Tantric breast massage to increase physical and sexual reproductive health!

What Is Tantric Sex Anyway?

Want to find out about Tantric sex? Here's how it's done.

Bees do it. Birds do it. Sting does it? Well, if you’ve heard anything about the famous musician, you know there is a very specialized way he “does it” with his wife, Trudie Styler! The former frontman for The Police has touted the benefits of tantric sex for years now, so we decided to find out — just what is tantric sex anyway?

“The word Tantra means ‘to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave,’” according to Discovery Health. “In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male (represented by the Hindu god, Shiva), and female (embodied by the Hindu goddess, Shakti), into a harmonious whole.” Read more

What is Tantra? Books Behind the Ancient Sex Practice

To answer the question of what Tantra is, Daniel Lefferts recommends five books about Tantric sex.

There's a gift you can give your partner that'll blow both your minds, bring you closer as a couple, possibly give you glimpse of spiritual enlightenment and won't cost you a penny: That's according to authors of these guides to tantric sex, an ancient sexual discipline inspired by Buddhist philosophy.

Tantric sex comes in a variety of forms, but as a general rule it is a much longer, slower, more conscious and more spiritual version of your average do-the-deed encounter. Tantric sex involves aspects of meditation, yoga and mindfulness and often requires a great deal of restraint — all in the service of elevating sex to an exercise of the soul as well as the body. Read more

Orgasms Are Better for Your Brain Than Sudoku

Forget crosswords or Sudoku: having an orgasm is more effective at giving the brain a workout, claims a leading neuroscientist.

It gives a whole new meaning to the word ‘brainteaser’.

Apparently orgasms give our brains a better workout than doing a crossword puzzle or a Sudoku.

The sensation increases brain activity across the whole organ whereas a puzzle activates only relatively localised regions, claims neuroscientist Professor Barry Komisaruk. Read more

3 Tantric Sex Tips to Thrill Your Partner

D. Kay Hutchinson reveals how qi gong Tantric techniques can boost your sex life and thrill your partner.

Tantric sexuality is the method of infusing energy into every sensual interaction to connect your hearts, spirits and bodies to an energy greater than yourselves--thus it is a deeply spiritual and highly erotic way of sharing love with another person.

Thus, this sensual style of lovemaking is not about sexual gymnastics and long-enduring orgasmic experiences, but instead is about creating the greatest level of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy with someone that you love and adore profoundly. Read more

7 Things You Didn't Know About the Male Orgasm

The male orgasm may seem simple and straightforward compared to female orgasm, but Kristen Droesch reveals seven things you may not know about it.

Recently, we revealed 10 of the craziest things that have caused women to orgasm (they're doozies), but what about men's orgasms? Have you ever wondered why some guys don't ejaculate when they orgasm? Or whether a guy has a G-spot? Yeah, we did too. So we did a little digging, and came up with the seven eerie facts you need to know about the male orgasm.

1. Orgasm and ejaculation aren't the same thing: It's true; a man is capable of climaxing without ejaculating seminal fluid. In fact, a small percentage of men have "dry" orgasms only, as opposed to the majority who are blessed with the comb-O. Read more

5 Steps to a Tantric Full-Body Orgasm

Tantra has been around for thousands of years and teaches people how to connect with their bodies and the universe at a cosmic level. Of course getting to this stage takes time and practice, however the intensely intimate connection you’ll form with your partner and your body will be one of the most satisfying sexual experiences you’ll encounter. Tantric sex sounds intimidating, but taking some tips from the ancient practice sets you up for electrifying full-body orgasms that you can feel from your fingertips down to your toes. Here are five steps to experiencing a Tantric full-body orgasm:

Two Sex Tips for Men with a Small Penis

Penis size isn't important to every woman, but it is important to some women.  Svetlana Ivanova reveals two sex tips for men with a small penis which will allow them to satisfy any woman.

Many men are ashamed of having a small penis, sometimes with good reason. According to a recent survey, over 50% of women have dumped a partner or refused to have sex because of small penis size. However, an under-endowed man doesn’t have to be a bad lover. The good news is that when a small penis is used with maximum effect, it can still give a woman pleasure. Try these two proven tips to help you compensate for having a small penis. Read more

For more on this topic, see my post 6 Penetrating Positions for a Small Penis.

3 Tantric Sex Tips for Men

Tantra has existed for more than 5,000 years. Tantra is defined as "the weaving and expansion of energy." Originally, Tantra was used to awaken the body's connection with the universe and to enhance spirituality. Today, Tantra is widely used to enhance emotional connection and sexual pleasure. When used correctly, Tantra can increase intimacy between couples and create intense erotic states. Here are three Tantric sex practices that men can use to increase emotional intimacy and sexual pleasure for their partners.

How to Incorporate the Tantra into Your Sex Life

If you've been wondering about Tantric sex, Jamie Beckman explains what it is and how to incorporate it into your sex life.

We can guess what comes to mind when we say "tantric sex": Sting. Ever since the musician made a drunken comment to an interviewer about having tantric sex for hours with his wife, Trudie Styler, the specifics of the tantra have become a bit murky. But don't fret: To enjoy everything tantric sex has to offer, you don't have to purchase an Oriental rug, shave your head or even listen to The Police. Read more

How Can Women Tell If They Have Had an Orgasm?

Tantra teacher Jaiya explains the types of orgasm that women can have and how to tell if you're having one.

Sex for the Soul: Tantric Explorations for Beginners

If all you know about Tantra has to do with Buddhism and Sting, think again. These Tantric tips are for anyone, and can help you have better sex in mind and body.

Sometimes sex can seem like a race toward orgasm. With so many tips, guides and articles for achieving orgasm ("guaranteed," "multiple" and "mind-blowing," get tossed around a lot) it’s no surprise that we sometimes forget that there’s more to sex than the finish line. Tantra, the Sanskrit word for "interwoven", puts sex in a different perspective. Tantric sex is about slowing down, connecting with your partner, and becoming orgasmic rather than focusing on achieving orgasm. It began in India as a form of yoga that exalted the union of men and women. Today, it's a way to experience your partner's body and mind in a way that for many people is completely new. Read more

Demystifying Taoist/Tantric Sexual Practices

Sometimes students of Tantric and Taoist sexual practices forget to question or understand the cultural, social, or political context from which the ideas originate. Just because something is exotic or esoteric doesn't mean it's true.

Your Tantric Remedy for Daily Stress

If daily stress is getting you down, Robyn Vogel has a Tantric remedy.

Are you tired from all the running around you do each day? Have you been going and going and going? When was the last time you made love with your partner (or yourself?) I'm going to teach you THE most valuable tool for handling the every day stress. Ready? STOP.

What?? (Yep, you read correctly - STOP.)

The thing is -- it's an energetic thing. It's not easy or we'd all be doing it. It's not simple or you wouldn't be tired. And it's not exactly what you think -- it's deeper, and more subtle, but also wayyyy more powerful than you think!

It's an experience. Ready? Read more

Sexual Healing: The Top 10 Ways that Orgasms Benefit Your Health

Training for a 5k? Watching Hoarders reruns on Instant Netflix? Or if your exercise regimen is somewhere in between, take heart: Sex is aerobic activity, and it's great for cardiovascular health. Says Dr. Rachel Needle, a psychologist at the Center for Marital and Sexual Health of South Florida, “One act of intercourse is the exercise equivalent of 30 minutes of jogging and walking nine holes of golf." The benefits have only just begun...

The Best Medicine
A visit from Dr. Feelgood, a.k.a. an orgasm, releases endorphins that produce euphoria, pleasure, and occasionally uncontrollable laughter. (My friend’s dating a girl who goes “Heh, heh, heh” after she comes. Like the Hamburglar.) Read more

Can an Open Relationship Work?

Can true love really include sex with other people? Here's how to find out if it might work for you.

Most people would like to have her cake and eat it too, but is that really possible within the confines of a committed relationship? Some couples think so and, as a result, appear to live quite happily with each other while still having sex with other people.

While hard-and-fast statistics about open relationships are hard to come by, some experts estimate that up to 4 percent of couples practice polyamory, allowing themselves and their partners to seek sexual experience beyond the common boundaries of marriage. When open relationships work, they're based on trust, understanding and communication. When they don't, it's often because jealousy and resentment creep in.

If you're looking for a little sexual adventure, an open relationship can be a way to have your cake (each other) and other people on the side. But can true love really include sex with other people? Here's how to find out if it might work for you. Read more

How a Woman Can Orgasm Every Time

Want to know how to orgasm every time you make love? Then follow these five essential steps from the Pleasure Mechanics.

Wondering how to orgasm every time you make love? You are not alone! Many women want to know how to have orgasms. Some want to know how to orgasm more easily, others want to know how to have their first orgasm. The good news? With very few exceptions, every woman can learn how to orgasm and experience more pleasure. Our bodies are designed for orgasm, and with some (very pleasurable!) practice you’ll be able to master the skills so you can enjoy more orgasms, both alone and with a partner. Here are the top five things you need to do to learn how to orgasm more easily! This article is about female orgasm. If you are a man wanting to learn how to orgasm in a new way, check out our resources on the Edging Technique and Ejaculation Control. Read more

Cosmo Kama Sutra: Oral Sex Edition

Molly Triffin tells how to spice up oral sex with ten oral Kama Sutra moves..

It pretty much goes without saying that you're down to try new sex positions—whether it's this sexy move or this bad boy. But we're guessing you probably don't mix it up as often when it comes to going down on each other, and that's a damn shame. Enter these oral kama sutra moves from Sadie Allison, author of Ride 'Em Cowgirl!. Read more

Ajapa Japa: Tantric Meditation Technique

Ajapa Japa is a Tantric meditation technique for opening the Chakras, activating the energies, and bringing the mind to a state of silence. You work with Ujjayi, Khechari, Soham Mantra and circulation of Awareness. This variation of Ajapa Japa was developed by by Paramahamsa Satyananda. Nalini, one of his direct disciples, guides you through different steps of this meditation technique.

Can Yoga Boost Your Immune System?

New research suggests that practicing yoga produces internal changes on a genetic level.

If we’re finished obsessing about yoga jeans, perhaps it’s time to think about yoga and genes.

Newly published research from Norway suggests that a comprehensive yoga program rapidly produces internal changes on a genetic level. The results help explain the well-documented health benefits of this ancient practice. Read more

Increase the Intimacy in Your Sex Life

Try getting up close and personal with this with this emotional-intimacy-enhancing sex position, says Kate Gilbert.

There are times when a girl needs throw-down and then there's times when you want to feel better connected to your partner during sex. Sorry boys – but it's true. We like to feel close to you. Aren't we awful?!

Try this together sex positions and boost the intimacy and emotion in your sex life. Read more

12 Sensual Massage Dos and Don'ts

Think of a sensual massage as a slow tease ... of sexier things to come.

Sure, you can turn up the heat in your relationship by forking over a handful of cash for an expensive couple's massage. Or you can take matters into your own hands — literally — and give your partner a sensual massage right in the comfort of your own home. After all, who knows your lover's pleasure points better than you?

Massages are great for circulation, the nervous system and, in general, easing stress. But that's not all a good rubdown can do, according to Massage Therapist Jeanetta Goddette. "Most of all, massage can make us feel loved," she says. "It enhances the intimate connection we share with our partner." Even novice masseurs can give a do-it-yourself rubdown a go; just follow these steps. Read more

Better Sex through Loving Touch

New World sex educator Jaiya demonstrates how couples can have better sex through loving touch.

Fat Sex 101

In our society, it can be very hard for fat people to own their sexuality. Here, Marianne offers a guide for enjoying sex at any size, with any size partner.

Even when someone “cares about my health,” what it often really comes down to is that they do not want to have sex with a fat person: “You can’t make me want to fuck a fat person.”

This is actually true. If you don’t want to fuck me, I cannot force you to want to fuck me. And, indeed, I would not want to force you because that would be icky and gross and far too complicit in perpetuating rape culture for me to be into it. The thing that these folks don’t seem to get? There are actually plenty of people who want to have sex with fatties.

But for some reason, fat sex seems to be the most threatening topic ever for a whole lot of people. Fat sex gets fetishized and turned into a taboo topic. Maybe that’s why I’m so eager to talk about it all the time — because fat sex is often just sex like anyone else may be having. Read more

See my post The 6 Best Sex Positions for Large Couples for more on this topic.

Male Genital Shame

Genital shame affects men too. It's what you do with what you got, say Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross.

4 Sex Positions You Should Be Doing

Nikki True describes four sex positions that will have you waving bye-bye to boring sex.

Good old missionary. It's the first sexual position you ever try and the one that you will do for the rest of your life. Sounds pretty boring if you ask me. Sex isn't just a one position activity in my opinion. Your bed and body can become an erotic jungle gym if you are open minded and ready to spice things up a little. I think of missionary like steak. Steak is nice and fulfilling but I don't want to eat steak all the time. I like to eat chicken too. I also like sides along with my steak. The same goes with my sexual positions. I love riding but I also love a good wheel barrel ride too. Here are some positions that will have you waving bye-bye to boring sex. Read more

7 Meditation Myths Busted

The benefits of meditation are becoming well-known, but many people still don't try meditation because they believe some of the prevailing misconceptions about the practice. Deepak Chopra dispels seven of the most common meditation myths.

In the past 40 years, meditation has entered the mainstream of modern Western culture, and been prescribed by physicians and practiced by everyone from business executives, artists, and scientists to students, teachers, military personnel, and -- on a promising note -- politicians. Ohio Congressman Tim Ryan meditates every morning and has become a major advocate of mindfulness and meditation, as he describes in his book, A Mindful Nation: How a Simple Practice Can Help Us Reduce Stress, Improve Performance, and Recapture the American Spirit.

Despite the growing popularity of meditation, prevailing misconceptions about the practice are a barrier that prevents many people from trying meditation and receiving its profound benefits for the body, mind, and spirit. Here are seven of the most common meditation myths, dispelled. Read more

The Rock 'n' Roll Orgasm Technique

Carlin Ross breaks down sexpert Dr. Betty Dodson's rock 'n' roll orgasm technique.

People always ask about Betty's Rock 'n Roll orgasm technique.

She spells it out in First Time Orgasm, Learn a New Orgasm: How to Upgrade Your Masturbation Technique and her orgasm ebook Learn How to Orgasm in 4 Acts.

Basically, you're lying on your back with your legs bent hip distance apart...rocking your pelvis forward as your squeeze your pc muscle then relaxing your pelvis as your release your pc muscle.

Rock/Squeeze...Relax/Release...Repeat.

Then you add clitoral stimulation and vaginal penetration for total vulva happiness. Don't be disappointed if it takes some time to learn the steps. Trust me. It's worth it.

Here's the breakdown in Betty's own words: Read more

Why Are Women Louder During Sex?

Science explains why women are louder than men during sex.

How to Achieve Simultaneous Orgasm

A simultaneous orgasm is sometimes considered the "Holy Grail" of sex. Serena Paige reveals how to improve your chances of achieving it.

A simultaneous orgasm can be a super hot and emotionally gratifying experience. Here’s how to achieve what is known as the “holy grail” of sex.

A simultaneous orgasm is something that a lot of couples strive for. This concept can even be something that people worry about on a constant basis. The most important thing to understand about a simultaneous orgasm is that it does not define your sex life or your relationship. People put way too much weight on climaxing at the same time.

Just because you and your partner to not have an orgasm the same time every time doesn’t mean that you have a problem in your sex life. However, if you would like to achieve a simultaneous orgasm, there are a few things that you can do in order to improve your chances. Read more

5 Steps to Opening Up Emotionally in Your Relationship

Expressing your emotions in a relationship isn't always easy, but it can be profoundly rewarding, says relationship coach Teresa Maples.

Do you find it hard to let yourself be vulnerable in a relationship? Fear of intimacy is the main reason people do not open up emotionally with another person. I define intimacy as feeling safe with another person when you expose who you are to them. Intimacy involves protecting your loved one rather than exploiting their vulnerabilities. And when I say intimacy, I don't just mean sex. There are a huge range of emotions and behaviors that enhance the intimacy, or deepening, of your relationship. Your own feelings are the key to discovering what intimacy-building behaviors will work for you. Read more

Try the Kama Sutra "Peg" Position

The Kama Sutra "Peg" position takes a little while to master, but what's the harm in that?

This slightly less ordinary position from the Kama Sutra is a great way to spice up your sex life without having to hang upside down, buy a leather spanking paddle or get busy in public.

The 'Peg' position might seem tricky from the description given below, but it can actually be mastered quite quickly if you're not afraid to roll around the bed in your birthday suit for a while. Read more

The Importance of Foreplay

Many couples rush through foreplay, too eager to get to the sex, but foreplay can often be the best part, says Cara Mason.

Traditionally foreplay was seen as more of a chore, something a man had to do to get a woman ready for sex, more of a necessary than a want.

Now, foreplay is seen as an integral part to sex, and more than that, it’s something we should all want to do.

It’s incredibly romantic and can build senses and sensation to unbelievable levels.
Of course, it’s true that some of the best sexual encounters we’ll ever have will be the impromptu ones that don’t involve foreplay but most of the time, foreplay should be a must! Read more

Semen Retention and the Multi-Orgasmic Male

Jacques Drouin, Founder of Tantric Arts of Love, describes the experience of semen retention and male mutiple orgasms from his twenty-five years of personal experience.

Can a Man Have an Orgasm without Ejaculation?

Dr Dick answers yes to a reader, and not only that, but says it is relatively easy for a man to become multi-orgasmic.

...  Can a man have an orgasm without ejaculating?

 You betcha, Chris! And not only that, but it is relatively easy for a man to become multi-orgasmic. On the other hand, it’s very, very rare indeed for a guy to be multi-ejaculatory. This phenomenon, while not completely unheard of, is generally something that only happens to young men. Read more