How to Give an Anal Massage

 Svetlana Ivanova says that the anal area has many nerve endings and can be a wonderful addition to erotic massage if your partner is willing to explore some touch in that area.

Erotic massage or sensual massage is the use of massage techniques to achieve or enhance sexual arousal. Your skin is the largest organ of the body with thousands of nerve endings, andtouch stimulates all of your senses. The anal area has many nerve endings and can be a wonderful addition to erotic massage. See if your partner is willing to explore some touch in that area. It doesn’t have to mean that they will be willing to have anal sex later. It just means that they are willing to try having more pleasure. Read more

Solo Tantric Sexercises

Tantra teacher Jaiya demonstrates some solo Tantric sexercise routine.

How to Have a Whole-Body Orgasm

Sarah Jordan reveals how to have longer and stronger orgasms by mastering the stop-start method.

Orgasms are great. Obviously. But they can be short and far from the mind-blowing, knee buckling experience described in Fifty Shades of Grey.

The elusive full body orgasm is achievable, but it takes practise and tons of pelvic floor muscle control, which can be hard in the heat of the moment. Read more

Yoga Tantra

Yoga is freedom. Yoga Tantra is the art of living free. Self expression of absolute freedom feels, looks, sounds, tastes, smells unique for each one of us at any given moment. The ingredients are energy and consciousness and the practice is to fuse both in the alchemy of self realization.

Meditation Can Prevent Colds and Flu

Forget vitamin C and echinacea. Meditation can prevent colds and flu, according to new research.

Millions of us pop vitamins or herbal remedies as ‘insurance policy’ to stave off colds and flu.

But new research suggests that meditation could be very effective at preventing the winter ailments.

Adults who meditated or did moderately intense exercise for eight weeks suffered fewer colds than those who did nothing, according to a study from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. Read more

The Nine Steps Taoist Thrusting Method

Taoist sexual practices are the way some Taoists practiced sex. Practitioners believed that by performing these sexual practices, one could stay in good health, and attain longevity. One of these practices was a thrusting method to stimulate, massage, and keep the man's lingam (penis) at an excellent state of readiness. This Taoist thrusting method is called the Nine Steps.

To perform the Nine Steps to perfection, a man must possess great patience and staying power. One complete set of Nine Steps is 180 thrusts, so most men need training to achieve it. However, performing as many thrusts as possible will help the man in his general vitality and his female partner will be ecstatic from the sexual stimulation she receives.

Finding a Soul Mate with Tantra

Tantra Experts Devi Ward and Jacques Drouin discuss finding a soul mate with Tantra.

Scientists Find We Can't Empathize and Analyze at the Same Time

New research explains why we have to "get out of our head" in order to connect with people: Scientists find we can't empathize and analyze at the same time.

Even the hardest heart sometimes melts.

Now scientists think they know why.

Research shows that when we put ourselves into someone else’s shoes, the part of the brain used for cold, hard analysis is suppressed.

The finding could explain why even highly-intelligent people get taken in by sob stories. Read more

Orgasm: 400% More Satisfying with a Partner?

A 2006 study found that orgasm achieved through intercourse is 400% greater for both men and women when compared with masturbation.

A 2006 study found that the increase of prolactin is 400% greater for both men and women following orgasm achieved through intercourse, when compared with solitary masturbation.

Why is this significant? The increase of prolactin after orgasm contributes to a reduction of sexual arousal, along with feelings of relief and a greater drop in sexual tension. The researchers suggested that factors such as more excitement during intercourse might contribute to the greater amounts of prolactin after orgasm. While prolactin isn’t the only factor in sexual satisfaction, the implications are important. Read more

3 Sex Positions for Male Healing

Sexual energy, also called kundalini energy, is a powerful force in regard to our health, intimate relationships, and spirituality, but the extent of this is seldom realized. According to Chinese medicine, an energy imbalance is the root of nearly every ailment, whether physical or emotional. One way to re-balance the body’s energy is through sex.

4 Steps To Escape Your Sexual Comfort Zone

Tantric sex has always been partly about breaking taboos. Jenny Tiegs gives four steps to escape YOUR sexual comfort zone.

With Fifty Shades of Grey continuing to raise eyebrows and spice up sex lives, it's no wonder we are feeling a mix of pressure and curiosity to turn it up a notch in the bedroom. At first you may ask yourself if that's what your partner needs or wants, but then you may start to wonder if it's something you need or want.

Maybe it's time to redefine who you are between the sheets. Sure, you know the moves that get the job done, but why not mix it up a bit? So, in the interest of stepping ot of your sexual comfort zone, here are 4 tips to do just that:  Read more

Tantra Sex Tips for Better Intimacy

Ayelet Shimron reveals how to bring passion and intimacy back into your love lives. She focuses on a 1500-year-old lovemaking tradition known as Tantra, in which she reveals the age-old secrets behind the most harmonious, passionate, deep lovemaking wisdom!

Do the Five Tibetans for a Long Life

The Five Tibetan Rites is a system of exercises reported to be more than 2,500 years old, which were first publicized by Peter Kelder in a 1939 publication entitled The Eye of Revelation. Sarka-Jonae Miller explains how to do them.

The five Tibetans are a unique sequence of yoga poses reputed to be the key to longevity. According to legend, the sequence was created by Tibetan monks in a Himalayan monastery and then brought into the world by British Army Colonel Bradford. The colonel was amazed by the monks' vitality and superior health. They credited their religious observances, simple diet and the five Tibetans. Read more

How to Meditate While Making Love

Tantric lovemaking is supposed to be meditative, but how are you supposed to meditate while making love? Tantra teacher Tao Semko discusses the keys that turn ordinary lovemaking into Tantric practice.

I've been asked this question three times today, so it must be time to write this tip:

The same keys that can make real tantric hatha yoga, qi gong, and seated meditation so powerful turn ordinary lovemaking into tantric practice... Read more

Breathing Can Help You Reach Orgasm

Both the Kama Sutra and Tantra focus on breathing because the strength or even the ability to orgasm is related to your breath, says Michele Zipp.

The Kama Sutra offers up many sex positions known for deep intimacy (and often deep penetration), but there is one element often mentioned in this sex bible that doesn't sound sexual at all that is key in reaching orgasm. And that's breathing.

Tantra also focuses on breathing and it turns out, the strength or even the ability to orgasm is related to your breath as well. Read more

Aphrodisiacs for Increased Pleasure, Energy, and Libido

Tantra teacher Jaiya reveals some her favorite aphrodisiacs.

Swinging Won't Fix a Broken Relationship

Swinging won't fix a broken relationship, says KissinBlueKaren. A swinging relationship takes work, more work even then a monogamous one.

Swinging won’t fix a broken relationship. I have to say this again because we keep running into couples that actually think it will. I’m sorry. If you are on the outs, or just getting back together from being on the outs, this isn’t a good time. A swinging relationship takes work, more work even then a monogamous one. Read more

Talking about Sex during Sex Is Good for Sex

New research finds that comfort with sexual communication is directly linked to sexual satisfaction.

Getting comfortable with communicating about sex may translate to benefits in the bedroom — especially if the lines of communication are open during the act.

New research finds that comfort with sexual communication is directly linked to sexual satisfaction. People who are more comfortable talking about sex are also more likely to do so while having sex, the researchers found. Nonetheless, that difference doesn't fully explain why the sexually chatty are happier with their erotic lives. Read more

Scientists Prove DNA Can Be Reprogrammed by Words and Frequencies

Scientists prove DNA can be reprogrammed by words and frequencies. This is what healing chants and mantras have attempted to do.

The human DNA is a biological internet and superior in many aspects to the artificial one. Russian scientific research directly or indirectly explains phenomena such as clairvoyance, intuition, spontaneous and remote acts of healing, self healing, affirmation techniques, unusual light/auras around people (namely spiritual masters), mind’s influence on weather patterns and much more. In addition, there is evidence for a whole new type of medicine in which DNA can be influenced and reprogrammed by words and frequencies WITHOUT cutting out and replacing single genes. Read more

Beginners Guide to the Kama Sutra

You've probably heard of the Kama Sutra, but do you know what is actually in it? Adult webmaster Sarah Gibson gives a summary of some of the best known Kama Sutra techniques.

The Book of Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian text, originally written to help men have happy marriages. And while most are led to believe it is a compendium of carnal contortions and poetic descriptions of genitalia, in fact only one out of seven chapters is dedicated to sex. Modern day versions of these ancient teachings have found popularity due to the focus on mutual pleasure or ‘equal congress.’ So continue reading for a summary of some of the best known Kama Sutra techniques. Read more

3 Sex Positions for Female Healing

Sexual energy, also called kundalini energy, is a powerful force in regard to our health, intimate relationships, and spirituality, but the extent of this is seldom realized. According to Chinese medicine, an energy imbalance is the root of nearly every ailment, whether physical or emotional. One way to re-balance the body’s energy is through sex.

4 Magical Massage Techniques

Women's Health says these four massage techniques will bring stress relief and boost your sex life. They're that magical!

On the list of life's greatest pleasures, massages rank up there with wine and chocolate. But a good rubdown does more than just ease achy muscles. Depending on the technique, it can bring stress relief, enhance your sexual relationship, or function as an especially erotic kind of foreplay. "Massage is the ultimate bonding experience," says certified massage therapist Lisa Skye Carle. "Pampering each other feels nurturing and intimate, and you're bound to discover loads of new and unexpected erogenous zones along the way—it's the ultimate primer for sex." Whether you want to wind down or get all wound up, there's a sexy massage here to meet your needs. Read more

Erotic Massage Tips and Techniques

New World Sex Educator Jaiya offers tips and techniques for optimal erotic massage and sensual touch.

Can a Vagina Be Too Tight?

It's not always about making your vagina tighter, say Better Dodson and Carlin Ross. Like any muscle, chronic tension doesn't work.

How to Achieve Healing, Intimacy, and Ultimate Union with Tantra

Tantric sex is more than exotic sex positions and prolonged lovemaking. It's also a way to achieve healing intimacy and ultimate union.

When the average person thinks of tantric sex, their thoughts may jump to intense sack sessions that are solely for the pursuit of intense pleasure. While much of tantra does involve these kinds of sexual practices, after all, that’s what it became famous for in the Western world, tantra involves so much more than pure physical pleasure.

For example, did you know that tantra is often used as a means of emotional, physical and spiritual healing, as well as a method for achieving the ultimate intimacy that can exist between two people?

Sound intrigued? Then read on to discover how tantra can lead you and your partner on the path to ultimate healing and unity! Read more

Research Shows Meditation Can Positively Change Your Brain

Research shows that meditation really can positively change your brain, and it only takes a month.

Scientists studying the Chinese mindfulness meditation known as integrative body-mind training (IBMT) say they've confirmed and expanded their findings on changes in structural efficiency of white matter in the brain that can be related to positive behavioral changes in subjects practicing the technique regularly for a month.

In a paper appearing this week in the online Early Edition of the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, scientists Yi-Yuan Tang and Michael Posner report improved mood changes coincided with increased axonal density -- more brain-signaling connections -- and an expansion of myelin, the protective fatty tissue that surrounds the axons, in the brain's anterior cingulate region. Read more

How Much Does the Human Soul Weigh?

Can the human soul be weighed? Jerry Conser is running experiments to try to find out.

For at least 100 years, the more oddball branches of science have struggled to answer this metaphysical head-scratcher: How much does the human soul weigh?

In 1907, a Massachusetts doctor named Duncan MacDougall settled on the figure of 21 grams – the average weight loss experienced by six terminal tuberculosis patients he strapped to a scale at the moment of death. Read more

Sex Is a Skill, Like Riding a Bicycle

Though sex may be natural, it is also a skill, says Susan Miranda.

I have been doing sexuality education workshops since 1989. In one particular workshop, I focused on the idea of sex being a skill. One participant reacted very strongly against that idea. It was as though sex and sexuality could not possibly be anything other than natural or innate. I’ve been thinking about this reaction for some time now and reflecting on it in light of my experiences with learning a couple of skills as an adult.

One of the things I am most proud of is learning how to swim in my 30s. As a child living on a family farm, I heard stories of children being thrown off a boat by their siblings and told to swim—which they did. To the storytellers, my siblings, that was proof that swimming was natural. I was only grateful they didn’t throw me in the water. Instead, I was taught, mostly by my mother, to be afraid that if I attempted to learn to swim, I would drown. Read more

5 Simple Tips to Improve Your Relationship

Men's Fitness reveals five easy ways for men to improve their relationships and their sex lives with their partners.

Reinstate Date Night

Whether you’ve been together a year or a couple of decades, it’s easy to fall into a rut. Bring back the romance from when you first got together. Commit to spending one night a week as a couple, outside the house. Even if you’re just having dinner or going on a long drive, you’ll be amazed how much your relationship benefits simply from the added one-on-one communication time it brings.
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Male Ejaculation Is NOT the Most Ecstatic Moment

Male ejaculation is not the most ecstatic moment in sex, says sex educator Victor Gold. The interval just before the point of no return can be prolonged and savored for maximum pleasure.

Though it may come as a surprise to many men, the brief intoxicating rush of pleasure experienced during male ejaculation is far from the most blissful moment available to men in sex. Our pleasure potential is much greater than that. However, for a man to reach truly ecstatic states in sex requires that he spend lengthy periods (a half hour, or an hour, or more) of sexual activity in high states of arousal, but without a genital discharge. Accomplished male lovers, those who have mastered the art of seminal retention, know that male ejaculation is a vastly overrated source of sexual pleasure. They understand that calling ejaculation the “climax” of pleasure is really just a bad habit left over from early programming. Read more

The Deep Spot Orgasm Technique

The G-spot is famous for giving women powerful orgasms, but Svetlana Ivanova says the vagina has another spot that can be stimulated to trigger orgasm called the deep spot.

A lot has been written about the G-spot, which is an area within a woman’s vagina that, when stimulated, can bring intense pleasure. (See my post What’s So Great about a G-Spot Orgasm?) There is another pleasure area within the vagina that is less well-known called the deep spot. The deep spot is deeper in the vagina than the G-spot and unlike the G-spot, is smooth. According to Gray’s Anatomy, this area is called the cavity of the cervix and is situated about three and a quarter inches (eight centimeters) deep. Read more

Erotic Massage: How to Create a Relaxing Environment

One of the keys for female orgasm is being relaxed. That's why erotic massage can prepare a woman for amazing orgasms. However, she won't be able to relax if the room you're in isn't right. Gabrielle Moore reveals how to set up the perfect area.

Erotic massage preps your girl for amazing orgasms – but she won’t be able to relax if the room you’re in isn’t right. Find out how to set up the perfect area.

Before you begin your erotic massage, it is very important that you prepare the room or location in which you will be performing the massage on your partner. Your ultimate goal will be to create a soothing and relaxing environment that encourages both romance and release of stress, anxiety, and inhibition.

The first and most important thing you will want to do when preparing for the massage is to schedule the massage during a time when you and your lady have will have a couple of hours of alone time together. You don’t even have to tell her what you’re up to. Just tell her you have a surprise for her a couple of days in advance, get your massage supplies ready, and be willing and able to perform when the time arrives. Read more

Maithuna Ritual: Tantric Sexual Union

Maithuna is a Sanskrit term used in Tantra, which is most often translated as sexual union within a ritual. Maithuna refers to the coming together of god and goddess with the acknowledgement that everything is sacred, from food to acts of lovemaking. It uses physical unification for the purpose of creating spiritual unification.

Since Maithuna is practiced as a spiritual ceremony, there is an acknowledgement and honoring of a divine being. However, in Tantra, this deity is acknowledged and honored in your partner, rather than as an intellectual concept or spiritual ideal. Tantra encourages lovers to see the divinity in each other.

G-Spot Massage and Genital Armoring

Sex educator Victor Gold reveals how G-spot massage can help heal genital armoring.

G-spot massage is an intimate connection of a new kind in our culture, and women vary greatly in their responses to it. In a typical G-spot massage session a woman may experience anything and everything, from intense emotional and physical pain to rapture and sexual ecstasy. In order to understand why, it’s helpful to have a clear understanding of armoring; a process whereby past traumatic experiences are stored in the muscular tissues of the body. If you have ever received a deep tissue massage, you know that during the sometimes painful probing of deep tissues, the simplest touch to some seemingly innocuous part of the body when sensitively and expertly applied may release a torrent of emotion and long-suppressed memory. Read more

4 Scientific Reasons to Try Tantric Sex

Tantric sex doesn't just feel good; it's good for you. Moses Ma reveals four scientific reasons to try Tantric sex.

According to a recent study by Good Housekeeping magazine, the stress and burnout caused by the prolonged recession has put a damper on our national sex life. Their extensive study of 1,000 people found that couples had more sex a year ago -- and they blame juggling jobs, childcare and financial aggravation as the culprit. So what we're looking at, nationally, is a dwindling libido and profound exhaustion, caused by being overworked, over-stressed, and overwhelmed by money worries. However, there's hope, for couples, in the intersection of sex and yoga - tantra.

What is Tantra? At its core, tantra is the spiritual art of love - it is experiencing love through mindset that fully embraces the beauty of life and existence. It is about acceptance, rather than denial. It also embraces compassion, and truth within unconditional love. The benefits of tantric yoga and tantric sex are significant. Besides encouraging a stronger body/mind/spirit connection, it provides loving couples with a methodology for greater pleasure through deeper emotional connection and more powerful sexual orgasms, as well providing a general rejuvenating effect on the health of both the relationship and its participants.

Here are four great reasons to try tantric sex to revitalize both your sex life and your outlook on life! Read more

10 Ways Meditation Can Change Your Life

If you're looking for a breakthrough in your meditation practice, MeiMei Fox gives her top ten reasons for attending a Vipassana mediation retreat.

"One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself." -- Leonardo da Vinci 

I'm sure you're aware what meditation is. But have you ever tried it for 10 minutes? An hour? A day? How about 10 full days? And during those 10 days, by the way, you're not allowed to speak to anyone else (trust me, you'll speak incessantly to yourself), nor are you permitted to read a book, write in your journal, exercise (beyond slow walking), or listen to music. All you do is hang out at the private party in your head. Read more

Lubricating Naturally with Herbs

Pure Green Joy and Jaiya share natural ways that women can lubricate from the inside out! Lubes are great, but creating your own natural lubricant is even better!

Scientists Confirm That Women Can Climax from Intercourse Alone

New research confirms that not only can women climax through sexual intercourse alone, but the resulting orgasm is different to those reached by clitoral stimulation.

For decades it has been thought that the clitoris was the only key to a woman's sexual satisfaction.

That meant men who wanted to satisfy their partners believed they must spend hours getting to know the little button-like organ, its location - and the kind of treatment which excited it.

But now research shows that not only can women climax through sexual intercourse alone, but the resulting orgasm is wildly different to those reached by clitoral stimulation. Read more

Faking Orgasm: Not Healthy for Mind, Body, or Soul

Intimacy heals the body, mind, and soul. If you are faking part of the connection, it hurts all three, says Mary Jo Rapini.

The first time I ever witnessed a good impression of a fake orgasm was a movie called, “When Harry met Sally.” Most of us saw it, and most of us remember our reaction. We may have blushed especially if we were a woman, because most women watching it have faked an orgasm. The interesting part to me was men didn’t seem alarmed. They really were convinced it was the real deal, didn’t really react to the exaggerated “YES” in the movie, and no doubt had been or were currently being faked by a lover of their own. I talk to men and women about their intimacy and sex every day. I have yet to hear a man ever say he faked an orgasm. Why? There are many reasons. For one thing, most women don’t care if he has an orgasm or not. It doesn’t say anything about his technique if he does or doesn’t. However, if his woman doesn’t orgasm, the man tells himself that he is doing something incorrectly.

If a woman doesn’t orgasm, it is a reflection on her lover (sometimes). I don’t think women necessarily blame their partner, but their partners often blame themselves. Read more

Relaxation and Meditation Are as Crucial to Health as Diet and Exercise

When we think about improving our health, diet and exercise usually come to mind. However, Willow Tohi says that relaxation and meditation are just as crucial.

You gotta relax, man. Life in 2012 means a degree of stress, for just about everyone. Our bodies and minds can take a lot of abuse, but its all too easy to get into a negative cycle, and just keep sinking. You don't sleep well, you get up late, so you don't eat, your blood sugar is low, so your temper is short, etc. Stress. If you need more time, more energy, or better sleep, then its worth taking the time to relax and meditate. Believe it or not, this investment in yourself can improve these aspects of your life, and many more.

Everyone knows stress is not good for you. Prolonged exposure to increased levels of cortisol and adrenaline is harmful to your organs. This condition is usually exacerbated by tense, tight muscles (causing pain), shallow breathing, and digestive problems. With just five minutes a few times a day, you can improve your health and cut stress. Best of all, it costs nothing and requires no equipment. Read more

Did You Know That Tantra Can Help Sexual Dysfunction?

Tantra teacher Carla Tara discusses how Tantra can help with sexual dysfunction in both men and women.

The most common sexual dysfunctions that men experience are: loss of desire, erectile dysfunctions, premature ejaculation and impotence. Some women experience: inhibited sexual desire, lack of orgasm, insufficient lubrification and painful intercourse.

According to the Journal of the American Medical Association, in 2005 more than 105 million Americans have reported struggling with chronic sexual dysfunctions and many of them were not aware that there is help available. Diabetes can be one of the causes of sexual dysfunctions.

Also some prescription medications for depression can have a negative effect on sexual desire.

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Tantra: Gateway to Ecstasy 5-Year Blogiversary!

It's hard to believe, but this blog is now five years old! Congratulations to me, but most of all, thank you to all of you readers! I would not have kept it up this long without you.

20 Reasons to Be in Your Body

You've probably heard the phrase "being in your body," but what does it really mean? Lissa Rankin explains:

For years, people have been accusing me of not being in my body (read about it here). I used to have no idea what that meant. I mean, of course I’m in my body, right? I have a body – and I’m alive. So by every medical and spiritual definition I could imagine, I’m in my body.

Yet, my mentors kept telling me I’m not – not just Tricia Barrett, my dear friend and spiritual counselor, but Debbie Rosas, the founder of Nia dance. When Debbie and I were talking awhile back, she said, “Lissa, I know you’ve done a lot of personal growth in the past few years, but I feel like embodiment is the missing piece.” And she invited me to come train with her at her Nia White Belt Intensive in Portland. Since Debbie is the most grounded, solid, rooted, sensual woman I know, I decided that I wanted some of what she was having – so I said yes. And WHOA, NELLY! Debbie was right. I haven’t been in my body.

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5 Better Ways to Express Your Intimacy

Em & Lo share five better ways to express you intimacy than sharing your password.

A recent survey by Pew Internet and the American Life Project found that one in three teens had shared a password (email, Facebook, etc.) with a friend or boyfriend or girlfriend. Apparently sharing your password is the new way to express intimacy, to prove to your partner that you have nothing to hide. Um, hello Facebook hacking! (Aside: Did you know that if you work at Facebook HQ and accidentally leave your FB account logged in when you leave your desk, some jokester colleague will update your status to say that you are pooping? Apparently it’s a company tradition.) Anyway. Maybe teens don’t have any credit card digits to lose just yet, but identify theft (or even just unauthorized identity borrowing) can suck in junior high too. We hope we don’t need to explain what a terrible idea this is.

But just in case we do — and we get it: exchanging letterman jackets and class rings is so last century — here are five better ways to express your intimacy, for the love-struck teen inside us all. Read more

Beyond Orgasm : Creating True Intimacy, Sexuality, and Love

Dr. Warren Berland has some simple and powerful questions for immediately deepening your intimacy and sexuality.

Relationships can truly be the source of our greatest pleasures in life. I am truly committed to helping people discover that they actually have the power to create such profoundly loving and nurturing relationships.


In my first three articles I’ve discussed the transformational process of getting out of the box, and accessing your true self that is always waiting to be expressed. This is true for everyone—especially you!! Read more

The Sexploitation of Yoga

WIlliam J. Broad's New York Times article "Yoga and Sex Scandals" misleadingly implies that yoga's capacity to improve libido leads to sexual misconduct, Elaine Gavalas.

WIlliam J. Broad's New York Times article on yoga injuries fueled a heated debate regarding the safety of yoga practice. His recent New York Times article, "Yoga and Sex Scandals: No Surprise Here," is now creating a yoga sexploitation.

His article claims yoga began as tantric sex cult. It also mentions sexual scandals of yoga gurus. The article misleadingly implies that yoga's capacity to improve libido leads to sexual misconduct. Read more

Evidence Builds That Meditation Strengthens the Brain

Evidence builds that meditation strengthens the brain.

Earlier evidence out of UCLA suggested that meditating for years thickens the brain (in a good way) and strengthens the connections between brain cells. Now a further report by UCLA researchers suggests yet another benefit.

Eileen Luders, an assistant professor at the UCLA Laboratory of Neuro Imaging, and colleagues, have found that long-term meditators have larger amounts of gyrification ("folding" of the cortex, which may allow the brain to process information faster) than people who do not meditate. Further, a direct correlation was found between the amount of gyrification and the number of meditation years, possibly providing further proof of the brain's neuroplasticity, or ability to adapt to environmental changes. Read more

Ancient Secrets of Seduction

Tantra can help you discover the ancient secrets of seduction, says Lisa Coffey.

For some people, attempting to be romantic can be the source of a great deal of anxiety.

Never fear! An age-old practice from India can help us to discover the secrets of seduction. Ancient wisdom explains why, and modern style how!

The word “Tantra” means “instrument of the body.” It may sound exotic, but it is actually very simple. Tantra teaches us to use all five of our senses consciously, because it is through our senses that we are connected with the physical world. Read more

How to Be a Sensual Lover

 One of the tenets of Tantric sex is that the process of lovemaking is just as or more important than the goal of orgasm. Michael Webb says that a boring lover thinks that sex is only about intercourse, but a great lover is a sensual lover.

Sex tips can help you perfect your technique, but how do you become a sweet, kind and giving lover? Sex tips aren’t going to tell you THIS!

What Does It Take To Be Great At Lovemaking?

A great lover’s heightened sensuality is his ace. He understands what the senses are for and rouses them with full abandon. He offers stimulus bombardment and makes a woman feel so alive. With him, she experiences excitement, exhilaration, romance, danger, passion, even cluelessness. With the sensual one, sex becomes something else entirely.

The boring dude, his antithesis, couldn’t even stir up emotions and he barely knows how to touch – he thinks sex is a penis and vagina affair. He’s so dull and mundane, being with him is like watching paint peel.

So take your pick – do you want to be sensual or boring? One type of guy gets laid much more than the other.

Can you guess which one? Read more

Is Yoga Really All about Your Genitals?

Is yoga really all about your genitals? Only if you believe the mainstream media's typical combination of titillation and misinformation.

OMG you guys, have you heard? Yoga is all about ... how to put this gently without scaring the children? It's all about your naughty bits. Your genitals. It's true.

It's also all about kinky superstar "gurus," sexual healing and drug-crazed orgies where everyone gets naked, sleeps with married people and prays to weird Hindu gods with ten arms, flaming red tongues and giant stone phalluses that crazed devotees pour lots of milk, butter, honey and flowers all over as regular ritual. I know! What's not to like?

How do I know all this? I just read it in the New York Times. I just read, more specifically, all about the great John Friend/Anusara yoga sex scandal of 2012 -- a very big deal indeed in the yoga world right now, by the way -- as covered, in small part, by the Times' sole yoga-practicing writer in a hundred-mile radius (apparently), a seemingly nice but largely misinformed science guy named William Broad. Read more

Reading the Sacred Sex Bible

To many people, sacred sex seems like a contradiction in terms, but The Sacred Sex Bible discusses how to incorporate sex into a spiritual path.

"In making love with a sense of the sacred, your body becomes a temple and your partner’s body a shrine."

Sex Magick Revisited

The idea of “sacred sex” frightens some people. The independent erotica author Roy Askham recently started a blog called Sex and Spiritual Life. Its purpose is to ask the question, “Can sex be incorporated into a spiritual path?” Askham has written a novel that combines BDSM themes with the theme of spiritual progress. The protagonist, Edward, discovers that sexual desires and spiritual seeking are not incompatible. Askham has received both positive and negative feedback on the combination. One blog commenter wrote, “I think our earthly desires have little to do with our spiritual path, unless we allow them to interfere.” Read more

Soft Penetration: A Great Way to Connect

Men (and women) have been programmed to believe that a man should have a rock-hard erection at all times during lovemaking, but Lawrence Lanoff says that soft penetration is a great way to deepen our connection.

A friend asked me about soft penetration with her lover, so I thought I would share a bit about this very misunderstood subject.

We live in a culture where a stiff cock means everything. However, thinking a stiff cock is all there is - and that something is wrong if it ain’t - is like trying to inhale all the time. You can’t. We need the inhale and the exhale.

It was through tantra I first noticed the sexual exhale that I call ‘soft penetration’. It was something that occurred naturally and often. That is to say, when I was completely immersed in the energy of the moment, my cock wasn’t always hard. I began referring to this as my lunar cock - the opposite of a solar cock. Instead of it being fully locked and loaded, it tended to be soft and receptive. Read more

6 Signs You Are Being Scammed by a Fake Guru

Not every self-proclaimed guru is a genuine spiritual master, says Mike Bundrant. He reveals six signs that you are being scammed by a fake guru.

All over the web, self-proclaimed gurus are telling you lie after blatant lie in order to get your money and pump their ego. Chances are you have fallen for some of their tactics, even if you have never been taken for thousands of dollars in exchange for some relatively worthless information. Here are a few of their favorite tactics. Buyer beware.

They tell you there are no limits

Gurus love to preach that you'll have no limitations (if you buy their products). Their "proven" strategies will either 1) catapult you past anything in your way or 2) give you unlimited power. Outside of the trance induced state their marketing materials tend to foster, it is easy for any sane person to understand that nobody has unlimited power and no person can give special powers to another. Yet, the claim is made all the time - no limits, beyond all boundaries, you can have everything you want, achieve unlimited wealth and abundance, etc...and other lies. Read more

Under the Covers, Between the Sheets

Ryan Bloom reviews a new translation of the Kama Sutra, and says it's not all about sex.

Sex sells. If you want to push a product, add a dash of sex appeal. Even Sir Richard Francis Burton and his band of co-translators realized this back in 1883: When they first introduced Vatsyayana’s Kama Sutra to the Western world, they sold it as a sex manual. More than a hundred years later, the publishers at Penguin Books know that not much has changed.

Orientalist scholar and Sanskrit translator A.N.D. Haksar’s new interpretation of the 2,000-year-old Indian text allows a fresh opportunity for Penguin to play upon our eroticized beliefs about the Kama Sutra. For this latest incarnation, the publishers hired French graphic designer Malika Favre to create a series of alluring alphabet images for the book’s cover. Each image, composed of a sexually positioned man and woman, forms a letter in the title, such that when you unfold the flaps and lay the book flat, Kama Sutra is spelled out in scenes of cavorting couples. Read more

Is There Such a Thing as a Soul Mate?

Is there such a thing as a soul mate? Sadhguru J. Vasudev says that the soul cannot mate with anything.

To some extent, the process of mating belongs to the body and the mind. The soul cannot mate with anything, nor does the soul need a mate because it is absolute and boundless. Only what is limited needs a mate in order feel a little better.

If you choose a mate because you want your body to feel a little better, we call that sexuality, and it can be quite beautiful. If we choose a mate because we want our minds to feel a little better, we call that companionship. If we want our emotions to feel better, we call that love. Read more

4 Cunnilingus Tongue Techniques

Svetlana Ivanova says it's the tongue strokes that make cunnilingus special. She reveals four tongue techniques that you can use to pleasure your lover.

The word cunnilingus mean “licking the vulva.” However, many cunnilingus tutorials don’t really get into the specifics of how to lick. Though using your mouth and fingers may be part of cunnilingus, it’s the tongue strokes that make cunnilingus special.

Before describing four tongue techniques that you can use to pleasure your lover, let me remind you of a very important point: do not head straight for her clitoris when you first go down on her. The clitoris can be painfully sensitive if a woman is not aroused enough, so make sure that you continue to turn her on so that she is fully receptive before stimulating her clitoris. Otherwise, it can have the opposite effect of what you want it to have, Read more

A Tantra Partner Exercise

This exercise, led by Luba Evans (Saraswati), is a great example of two people being guided beautifully to breathe and tone together and comfort and support each other. The video begins with the partners just completing toning out each chakra. Even just leaning your head back on another person's shoulder while standing back to back, which you will see in the video, is incredibly healing and comforting.

Celebrating a Tantric Valentine's Day

Whatever you decide to do today on Valentine’s Day, try puting a little Tantric thought into the process.

Romance isn’t always easy. Plus, there's so much pressure around Valentine’s Day, that it's easy to miss the mark. Sure, you can play it safe and go a little overboard spending money on flowers, dinner and jewelry... which is exactly what the commercialized PTB - the Powers That Be - want you to do. However, putting a little tantric thought into the process will save you a few bucks so you can "Occupy Valentines Day" as well as your lover's heart.The very first thing you should do is read "The Five Love Languages", which explains that both men and women need to receive affirmation of love withing the five traditional love languages -- Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service or Physical Touch.

In this book, Dr. Gary Chapman guides you in identifying, understanding, and speaking your beloved’s primary love language. By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. The 5 Love Languages is a consistent new York Times bestseller - with over 5 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages. Read more

Exercise for Ejaculatory Control

Suppress Sampson reveals an exercise for ejaculatory control.

Men, to keep your utmost attention and sexual interest on your partner longer; avoid ejaculation. Don’t squirt from your lingam (penis) until you're ready to reduce your sexual excitation.

You might, if you’re older than 30, want to avoid ejaculating even longer--for a week or two.

But don’t avoid intercourse. On the contrary, enjoy intercourse at least once a day, as part of at least one of your two daily tantric connects. Read more

What Meditation Can Do for Your Relationship

Ed and Deb Shapiro, authors of Be the Change: How Meditation Can Transform You and the World, say that meditation can help us confront our own issues so that we can allow love into our lives.

... To love ourselves is seeing and accepting the more hidden side of ourselves. Most of us have issues with past hurts, traumas and conflicts. Meditation enables us to see the deception, jealousy, grief, envy, trauma and other issues that dwell in our heads. It gives us a spaciousness where we can step back to be more honest. It also gives us the chance to make friends with our demons. Do we let our issues rule us, or can we see them for what they are and release the hold they have? Read more

Signs and Symptoms of the Kundalini Awakening Experience

One of the goals of Tantra is to awaken Kundalini. However, that process is seldom easy or comfortable. Anmol Mehta describes the signs of the Kundalini awakening experience and offers some tips for dealing with Kundalini Syndrome.

To help people identify that what they were feeling and experiencing were actually signs of Kundalini Awakening and not symptoms of a mental or medical condition, I created a list of Kundalini Awakening Symptoms for them to use as a reference. These symptoms were from my own experience with Kundalini Rising, and were certainly not comprehensive.

Kundalini is a very mysterious process and its awakening and rising tends to always have some unique and personal aspects. Of course there are many common signs, but if you read the hundreds of comments in that article thread, you will notice there are various different ways that people experience kundalini. These varied experiences then gives us more insight into the nature and secrets of kundalini and how she works.

One good thing though with regard to Kundalini Syndrome, which is what the experience of Kundalini Awakening is often referred to as, is that the approach to dealing with the challenges such awakening brings is usually common. Of course there are cases on the extreme end of the spectrum, which need medical intervention and/or psychotherapy, but the vast majority of cases can be handled individually by following the advise laid out in the following 2 articles… Read more

Becoming a Better Lover with The PLEASURE Wave

New World Sex Educator Jaiya reveals how to become a better lover with the pleasure wave.

4 Ways to Take Sex to a Deeper Level

Tantric sex is about taking sex to a deeper level. Here are four ways to create that intense, intimate connection between you and your partner.

Animalistic sack sessions belong waaay up on every Cosmo girl's gotta-have-it list. But slow, soulful encounters shouldn't get second billing just because they don't leave cracks in the bedroom walls. "This kind of sex is deeper than connecting physically," says New York City sex therapist Joy Davidson, PhD, author of Fearless Sex. "It's about losing yourself in the moment and bonding emotionally as well." So do yourselves a favor and, some nights, put the following soulful-sex advice into action. Read more

Exercise to Set Your Sex Life on Fire

Women's Fitness magazine gives some tips on how to boost your sexual stamina and have Olympian orgasms.

Face flushed? Out of breath? Feeling all tingly and satisfied? Whether you’ve had a good session in the gym or the bedroom, your body’s reaction is the same. This is because sex and exercise are inextricably linked: the more you exercise, the better your sex life will be. But, just as certain workouts boost certain parts of the body, there are exercises you can do to really set your sexual exploits on fire. Here’s how to choose the right ones to light the spark… 

How to… BOOST SEXUAL STAMINA
It takes the average woman 12 minutes to reach orgasm. So, in certain positions, that could be equivalent to 12 minutes of non-stop squats! With a few added benefits, of course…
DO IT: Work on your thighs, hamstrings, bum, hip flexors and calf muscles with barbell squats. ‘Do three sets of 12-15 repetitions,’ says personal trainer Ray Klerck. ‘If you can hold the squat for a moment at the bottom, you’ll really work those leg muscles.’ Read more

The Steady Decline of Affection in America

Courtesan Bethany St. James says that more and more these days her stock-in-trade is not sex, but affection. She says that modern Americans have failed miserable when it comes to differentiating between the words sex and sensuality.

... Having been a professional paramour all my adult life, I was struck by the recent resurgence of requests for romantic interludes. I started to wonder: What has caused so many people to suddenly feel so alone and in need of an ear, a hand to hold, or casual dinner conversation? The answer is simple.

In my opinion, modern Americans have failed miserably when it comes to differentiating between the words "sex" and "sensuality." Our view of what is "sexy" has become so askew that many women and men don't even know what their own desires are anymore. With most contemporary portrayals of sexuality being outright promiscuity and tactless drunken debauchery, it's not surprising that women and men have lost sight of the joys and need for sensuality. Between this severely misguided view of human sexuality and the pressures of our everyday lives, the sex lives of most Americans have been stunted. Those involved in relationships, and even those who are battling through the "dating scene," are faced with the pressures to conform to what society is telling us sex should be. Read more

Awaken Kundalini with Yoga Spinal Twists

Tantra teacher Anmol Mehta demonstrates yoga spinal twists and explains how they can stimulate kundalini. Note: these are not the typical spinal twists from yoga class.

Veteran yogis know that as soon as we start to mention lower back exercises or spinal workouts, we are entering the domain of kundalini shakti. This is because kundalini energy resides as pure potential at the base of the spine, and exercises which target this lower back region, inevitably tend to stimulate this latent energy, often causing her to stir and awaken. Kundalini Yoga Spinal Twists is no different. Read more

Tantric Sex Tip: Ejaculation Control

Tantric sex coach Layla Riley explains a simple technique for ejaculation control.