Talking Tantric Sex

Sarah Gibson gives some helpful hints to couples wanting to try Tantric sex for the first time.

American Pie, Sex and the City and other feature films have referenced it, Sting and sex therapists are raving about it, people everywhere are talking about it, but what is Tantric Sex? In this article I will give you the low-down on this new (or maybe not so new) phenomenon. If you are ready to give this well-kept secret a go, keep reading for my quick-start guide.

What is Tantric Sex?

Tantric sex utilises the ancient Eastern practices of Tantra, using breath, sounds and movements to activate sexual energy. It is said to bring you and your partner’s sex life to greater states of sensual pleasure and intimacy. Tantric sex is different from other well-known practices, such as Kama Sutra, as it is not solely based on sex positions but is a whole new way of life. The focus is not on achieving multiple or even quick orgasms, but in fact the complete opposite, its aim is to prolong the act of sex thus increasing the sexual energy between you and your partner.

So if you want to experience a powerful flow of energy and intimacy between you and your partner, decreased stress and greater sexual satisfaction, here are some helpful hints. Read more

Tantra, Taoist Sexual Alchemy, and Egyptian Sex Magic

Tantra teacher Jaiya discusses Tantra, Taoist sexual alchemy, and Egyptian sex magic.

Getting Less Serious with Tantra

Tantra teacher Shakti Padmini says that God is not always serious, and enlightenment is not the exclusive domain of hard workers or the intellectual elite. You don't have to meditate for years to have grand cosmic experiences.

Some time ago I came across an amusing article written by 'serious' spiritual practitioners, castigating modern day tantrikas for "cheating" - taking shortcuts to spirituality and doubting their spiritual sincerity. Apparently, what typically takes 'serious' meditators years of intense spiritual discipline to achieve is available to a Tantrika in just a few months.

Therefore, they questioned whether something might be amiss, as you certainly couldn't have all those grand cosmic experiences simply by just 'indulging' in extended pleasure time! You need to seriously meditate 'the proper way', in order to achieve these fruits of hard labor and concentration!

Well, I'm here to say that God is not always serious, and enlightenment is not the exclusive domain of hard workers or the intellectual elite... if so, the world would have collapsed long ago. Instead, I believe that we are ALL innately equipped to experience our divinity through doing what we enjoy, realizing our true essence - love - by making love. And I mean that literally - when consciousness penetrates... energy love is the result. Read more

Tantric Exercises: Spiral Core Energetics

antra offers a wide array of exercises using breathing, sounds, certain muscles, and the energy centers of the body. This clears blocks interfering with the movement of energy, and guides us into altered states of consciousness. Carla Tara demonstrates spiral core energetics.

A Meditation to Live Life More Fully after Death

There is one fact of life which is universally applicable to all of us : All of us will die one day. Tantra teacher Mahasatvaa Ma Ananda Sarita gives a meditation to live life more fully after death.

From the Vigyan Bhairav Tantra: “Focus on fire rising through your form from the toes up until the body burns to ashes but not you.”

The meditations in the Vigyan Bhairav Tantra cover all aspects of life, including death. This sutra allows us to experience death before physically dying, which in turn means we are more able to live.

What is that which transcends death? All the mystics down the ages have spoken about the deathless, that which is never born and never dies, which is what we are focusing on in this particular sutra. To practise this meditation: Read more

8 Tantric Sex Positions

Even Cosmo has discovered Tantric sex. Though the names Cosmo gives some of the eight Tantric sex positions it describes are sort of silly, the positions themselves are worth trying.

Inspired by the sexual success of these ancient love teachings (who wouldn't be?), Cosmo came up with a list of tantric sex positions to tempt, tease, then thoroughly please. Grab your guy and get ready for a trip toward erotic enlightenment. Read more

Tantric Exercise for Amazing Orgasms

Learn how to increase your capacity for amazing orgasms with this simple Tantric exercise demonstrated by Rhoda Jordan.. If you want more information about Kegel exercises, this program from Svetlana Ivanova is the one I follw to maintain sexual fitness. These exercises absolutely will make a difference in your capacity for orgasm, particularly during sexual intercourse.

The Yoga of Tantric Love: 7 Reasons Why It Is Not Just about Sex

The word Tantra means sex to many people, but Ramesh Bjonnes reveals seven reason why Tantra is not just about sex.

Tantra is not the yoga of sex. Tantra is the yoga of everything.

On some yogic and spiritual paths, the attitude to life is via negativa, and the world is seen as a cause for suffering, as giving us a sense of false identity when we are attached to it. So the yogi’s task becomes to disengage, to free ourselves from suffering or from the attachment, to become a witness to it all.

But that is not the attitude of Tantra. In Tantra we actually want to get engaged, tangled up in the world with our spirit still shining.

The attitude of Tantra is that even our suffering, even our attachment is our yoga, our spirituality. In Tantra all problems are potential friends, allies, a support system for deeper understanding, deeper love.

The key to being a Tantric yogi or yogini is to embrace duality and then go deep into and then beyond it. Why? Because duality is just another expression of nonduality. In other words, there is, according to Tantra, Spirit, God, Awareness, Consciousness in everything. Even in suffering. Even in pleasure.

This knowledge, this wisdom is called Madhuvidya, or honey knowledge, the idea that the bees of Sprit can turn everything we do and feel, even failure, into nectar.

Here are 7 unique ways of Tantric spirituality: Read more

Chakra Balancing Yoga Breathing Exercise

Balancing your chakras improves your health and wellbeing, physically, mentally and emotionally. Yoga and meditation teacher Anmol Mehta describes how to perform the chakra balancing breathing exercise Anuloma Viloma.

Background of Chakra Balancing Breathing Exercise (Anuloma Viloma Pranayama):

This is a wonderful and essential breathing exercise to practice before moving on to the practice of other more advanced pranayamas. This breath control technique comes from Patnajali’s Yoga Sutras and actually goes by several different names. It is called Nadi Shodhana Pranayama, Nadi Shuddhi Pranayama, Anuloma Viloma Pranyanama, Alternate Nostril Breathing Technique, but I think the name that will describe it best is Chakra Balancing Breathing Exercise. The version given here is the basic technique which must be mastered first, later in this book I will give the more advanced versions of this pranayama.

Chakra Balancing Breathing Exercise is designed to purify the psychic channels (nadis) through which Kundalini Energy and Prana (Life-Force) flow. There are 3 primary channels for the flow of this energy: Ida, Pingala and Shusumna. It is essential to balance the flow of energy between the Ida and Pingala channels which run alongside and intertwine the spine. Through the spinal column runs the Shushumna Nadi, the central master channel. The Ida and Pingala can be considered the lunar and solar channels respectively. With the Ida Nadi responsible for cooling, feminine, passive, mental energy and the Pingala Nadi responsible for hot, male, active, physical energy. As the flow through these 2 channels is harmonized, prana and Kundalini start to flow through Shushumna. This flow through the Shushumna Nadi activates and balances all the seven chakras. Read more

Pranic Intimacy Rituals

This video shows Dr Lisa Alchemy Devi in her NYC temple practicing pranic intimacy rituals.

Is "Comfort Sex" the New Casual Sex?

Sex doesn't always have to be ecstatic, says Jill Di Donato. Sometimes it can just be comforting, and that's not a bad thing.

Have you ever gotten that craving for sex, but not for the usual reasons? After a particularly rotten date, a silly fight with one of my best friends, or maybe just one of those days when nothing seems to go my way, I tend to call a certain "acquaintance" who is more than happy to have me over for a few hours between the sheets. This guy isn't someone I'd date, or even consider a friend, but he does have a knack for taking me from forlorn to very content faster than any other remedy I've tried.

Here's the strange part, though: These aren't wild, amazing, did-it-on-every-surface-of-the-apartment liaisons. The sex is good, but it's not life-changing. And even stranger, that's why I like it. Every time it goes pretty much the way I expect, no more, no less. Our encounters don't rock my world -- but they do leave me full of endorphins and also that warm, safe feeling you get from simply being held. Exactly what I needed. Read more

10 Steps for Awakening the Full-Body Orgasm Tonight

If you've explored Tantric sex at all, you've probably heard of full-body orgasms. If you've never had one but would like to, Tantra teacher Crystal Dawn Morris lists ten steps for awakening the full-body orgasm tonight.

Tantra uses sexual energy to expand awareness and experience ecstasy. It teaches people how to move their sexual energy from their genitals, up to the top of their head, and everywhere in between, allowing the entire physical and energetic body to become ecstatic. When the sexual energy reaches the crown it can expand a persons awareness of the mystical realms, allowing them to recognize they are Divine Consciousness in human form.

A full body orgasm is the experience of feeling your whole body vibrating with orgasmic energy. This can be done outside of a sexual context as well as while making love. Anyone can learn how to have a full body orgasm by following the steps below. Read more

Meditate Your Way to an Orgasm

A recent study found that meditation isn't only a form of rest and relaxation:  it can also improve your sex life.

Meditation has become a popular practice over the years, helping to combat stress and promote mental well-being.

But it seems the daily ritual isn't only a form of rest and relaxation - it can also improve your sex life.

Women who are able to train their thoughts while love-making experience more pleasure between the sheets, a study has revealed. Read more

Sex: Plain or Profound, What's Your Style?

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Debunking the Myths of Tantra

Tantra teachers Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson are on a mission to squelch the myths about Tantra.

Perhaps you've heard of musician Sting's boast of his seven-hour love-making sessions with wife, Trudie Styler.

It was his practice of tantra and yoga that allowed him to keep going, he had said.

Or maybe you heard buzzing of tantra and many sexual positions, erotic massage or orgies.

Turns out, none of those are really true of the ancient Hindu tradition, which practices the idea that personal fulfillment, enlightenment and a connection to the divine come through life's energies, including sexual energy. It is a mystical experience its practitioners seek.

(Sting later amended his initial remarks, explaining that Trudie "is my connection to the sacred.")

While the masses have linked tantric sex to the more salacious, tantra is a discipline, a way of life. It employs meditation and uses the body as a tool, and the romantic relationship as a microcosm for reflection and awareness. In the tradition of tantra, sex is intrinsically sacred.

However, tantra is more spiritual as a practice and can be the secret of finding bliss in all areas of life, explain Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson of Yorktown, N.Y. Read more

Want a Better Sex Life? Take Yoga

I've never heard of a yogasm, but I do know that practicing yoga can improve your sex life.

Have you ever heard of a yogasm? It may sound like the punchline to a joke, but having an orgasm in yoga class is apparently rather real and slowly becoming all the rage. In studios across New York and California, women are coming into class to bend, breathe, and strengthen their bodies and coming out of class, well, very satisfied. Read more

Tantric Sex: 5 Ways to Transform Your Relationship

Tantric sex is more than just sex. Tantric sex can also transform your relationship.

Tantric sex can bring you and your lover closer than you ever have been. Here’s how to get started – your sex life (and relationship) will never be the same!

Great sex can be any kind of sex – hard, fast, thrusting is good, but your partner will get bored of this easily, because there is little emotional connection involved This is where Tantric sex comes in. In tantric sex there is no goal of getting anywhere, of striving for an orgasm. Read more

4 Pieces of Relationship Advice Movies Need to Stop Giving

If you watch movies, you can get some strange ideas about relationships. Daniel O'Brien has found four pieces of relationship advice that movies need to stop giving.

If you're anything like me, you had two parents: The Streets, and Pop Culture. When it comes to The Streets, I cannot give a higher recommendation, every kid should be so lucky to spend a few years in the school of hard knocks and so forth. As far as Pop Culture goes, however, there are a lot of irresponsible lessons being thrown around, especially when it comes to romance and dating. Lessons like ...

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What Is Tantra? Tantra Expert Layla Tells All

Tantric Sex Coach Layla Riley discusses what you need to know about Tantra sex.

Is Deep Penetration the Key to Female Sexual Ecstasy?

Diana Richardson explains why deep penetration of the vagina is essential for women to experience sexual ecstasy.

Generations of women have failed to experience their divine orgasmic potential, the female delight of sensuality and love through sex. The Garden of Love, the secret gateway to sexual ecstasy for women and men, lies abandoned, untouched, and overgrown with straying weeds. All the emotional memories of a woman’s painful sexual experiences such as rape, abortion, aggression, and abuse leave their psychological imprint in this deepest part of the vagina. This causes constriction in the vaginal tissues making the walls tough and unyielding. In this way, there is an ongoing protective defense set up in the tissues, and the vagina contracts instinctively during intercourse, inhibiting deeper penetration. This means that the powerful positive penis head is unable to correspond smoothly and directly with its negative counterpart in the very depths of the vagina, thus affecting the energy flow. Read more

Karezza: Victorian Tantra

David Haenke and catherine yronwode explain how to practice karezza, a sexual practice developed by one of the first female doctors in the U.S. Alice Bunker Stockham.

The longing for the genital embrace is profoundly expressed in the belief in a "universal spirit," in "God," the "creator."

-- Wilhelm Reich, "Cosmic Superimposition"

Until recently, it was possible to read many volumes on the subject of Tantra Yoga without realizing that sexual energy was its central motif. over the thousands of years during which this complex philosophy, religion, and science of sexual union has evolved, its central source often remained hidden.

Today a number of spiritual teachers will show anyone with the time and money the actual practice of spiritual sexual union. Still, the essence of what they impart is shrouded in the terms of the teacher's particular religion, and subject to their sometimes tyrannical control. New Age revelations of Tantra's ancient central secret still leave the seven veils of belief and dogma intact.

Has anyone ever tried to remove the veils, to lay down simply and clearly, without intermediaries or the trappings of any particular religious trip, the essential lpractice of sexual spiritual union?

In the last half of the nineteenth century Alice Bunker Stockham, one of the first woman doctors in the U.S., did just that. In her book, "The Ethics of Marriage" (available from Health Research, Box 70, Mokelumme, CA 95245), she promoted women's rights and equality of the sexes, urged the prevention of "wedding night rape," and advocated a safe, free method of birth control through a practice she termed "karezza" (pronounced kar-ET'-za), from the Italian "carezza," or "caress." Read more

10 Common Meditation Mistakes

Learn from Axel Gjertsen how to avoid the most common meditation mista

It’s good to make mistakes as long as we learn from them. In this post we’ll take a look at 10 of the most common mistakes beginners and intermediate meditators make. As always, focus on the pointers that inspire and make the most sense to you.

1) For Beginners:
Opt to meditate when you are calm and feel at ease. It’s not a good idea for a novice meditator to practice immediately after a busy day at work, which makes it more difficult to concentrate. If you want to meditate after a stressful day, take a short nap beforehand.

For intermediate and experienced meditators on the other hand, it’s essential to learn as much as possible about the mind. Then, it’s worthwhile to occasionally meditate for example while tired, angry or under stress. This is to familiarize oneself with various mental states. Read more

What Is Tantra?

Tantra teacher Deva Charu gives a brief introduction to demystify Tantra.

Can Tantric Sex Be Short and Sweet?

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6 Tips for Choosing a Meditation Practice

Have you tried meditation but gave it up because it didn't seem to suit you? It could be that you chose the wrong meditation practice. Meditation teacher Susan Piver givers six great tips for choosing the right meditation practice for you.

When I started practicing meditation in 1995, I didn't tell too many people about it for fear they would think I had joined a cult or turned into some kind of new-aged oddball. If I mention it today, however, I'm more likely to be greeted by comments like, "I just came back from a 10-day silent Vipassana retreat," or "Yes, my doctor told me I should meditate to stabilize my blood pressure." I knew that this ancient practice had officially entered our culture when I saw a billboard advertising a new sleeping pill called Zazen. It's here.

Now, we're faced with a plethora of choices for developing a meditation practice. I say go for it! Explore the practice of "Vipassana" or "Insight Meditation." Ask your doctor to refer you to a clinic where they teach mindfulness based stress reduction, which is connected to Vipassana. Visit your local Shambhala center or another Tibetan Buddhist center and learn "Shamatha" or the practice of tranquility. Try "Zazen" (the Zen meditation practice, not the sleeping pill).

There are many other forms of meditation practice, but as a Buddhist, these are the ones I am familiar with and can vouch for. And as you do your research, I suggest you consider these parameters: Read more

15-Minute Female Orgasm

Timothy Ferris, author of The 4-Hour Body, lays out the five steps needed to give a woman a 15=minute orgasm.

Step 1:

First, get undressed and lie on your back using a pillow for neck support. Your legs should be bent and spread, feet together in butterfly position. If this makes your hips uncomfortable on one or both sides, just put pillows underneath the knees.

Your guy should sit to your right side on top of at least two pillows and straddle his bent left leg perpendicularly across her torso, foot flat on the opposite side. (It almost looks as if he's on top in reverse cowgirl position, except his weight will be to the side of your torso.) Read more

How to Sleep Correctly: Advice from the Enlightened

Anmol Mehta reveals how to use sleep and the nighttime to maximize spiritual growth.

Sleep and the nighttime are a very important and interesting part of spiritual evolution and in this two part series I am going to go into some of the more fascinating and unusual suggestions of how to get the most out of sleep time. This series will be helpful to both, those who are suffering from insomnia or disturbed sleep and those who are interested in maximizing spiritual growth during sleep time. Read more

3 Principles of Sexual Healing

Tantric Healer and Reiki Master Sunyata Satchitanada discusses three principles of sexual healing.

As the "healer" in a sexual healing session, I've found that the central question is: "What applied principles enable the client to have a healing experience and not reinforce or reignite the wounding he/she is endeavoring to recover from?" Here are my thoughts and reflections about the answer.

First, one fundamental understanding for clarity: The client is choosing to have a healing session with the healer because he/she has an expectation/desire to receive a healing experience and is not doing so to meet the healer's sexual, relationship, or intimacy needs. If a healer feels the client is coming to the healer to fulfill the healer's personal needs there is a fundamental flaw present in the session. A healer serves as such for the benefit, growth, integration, fulfillment, healthful well-being of others -it is transpersonal service -not to serve the healer's personal needs. While a healer experiences great satisfaction in being of service and may also benefit from solutions turned up during the session for the client -these are secondary to the prime directive of serving another.

With that in mind, here are three principles I feel are fundamental to serving as a Healer. Read more

A Hot Guide to Fat Sex

Fat people have sex, too, says Kitty Stryker. She shares "some tips and tricks some tips and tricks to explore sex whether you’re chubby, thick, zaftig, plus-sized, or just plain fat."

Ever read the sex tips in Cosmo and thought “seriously, I am not a yoga master, how the hell am I supposed to do that position” or thought “wow, are the only people who have experimental sex skinny?” I know I’ve certainly scoffed at sex position cards that suggested acrobatics that would qualify me for the Olympics!

It’s really sad when you look up “fat sex how to” or “bbw sex guide” it only takes about 5 entries before you get to either degrading porn or weight loss tips. Ugh. And then, of course, there’s all the body-negative bullshit to wade through. Way to remove sexual agency from fat people!

Well, fat people have sex too, I’m here to tell you, and it can be as varied and exciting as it is for everyone else. Here’s some tips and tricks to explore sex whether you’re chubby, thick, zaftig, plus-sized, or just plain fat. Read more

For more on this topic, see my post The 6 Best Sex Positions for Large Couples.

Kegel Exercises and Female Orgasm

Ashley Clark says that  a fitter, well-toned pelvic floor will almost certainly increase sexual pleasure for you and your partner. 

Since the pelvic floor muscles are the muscles that that surround the vaginal opening and contract rhythmically during orgasm, it is not surprising that sex therapist emphasize the importance of the PC muscles in the orgasmic response. Nevertheless, there is controversy over the exact effects of the PC muscles on orgasmic response but certain benefits of a strong pelvic floor are well accepted.

A fitter, well-toned pelvic floor will almost certainly increase sexual pleasure for you and your partner, and it can dramatically improve your sexual confidence. The physiological reasons for the improvement go far beyond the increased tactile sensations resulting from a tighter vagina. Read more

How Yoga Increases Romance and Intimacy

Yoga teacher Jasmine Kaloudis says that yoga can not only improve your mental and physical health, but can also increase romance and intimacy.

Research shows that yoga helps manage or control anxiety, asthma, arthritis, back pain, blood pressure, carpal tunnel syndrome, chronic fatigue, depression, diabetes, epilepsy, headaches, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, stress and other diseases.Yoga also helps improve muscle tone, flexibility, strength, stamina, boost self-esteem, improve concentration and creativity, circulation and stimulate the immune system.

When yoga can help you in these and many other ways, how it is practiced is of utmost importance. And practitioners of yoga are lucky in the sense that it is an extremely versatile art. It can be either practiced in solitude, or in a more social atmosphere of a class.

There is another fruitful way you can practice yoga and that is by combining the skills and support of another person. The benefits and advantages of practicing yoga with partners and friends are many. Read more

Male Genital Massage

Tantric teacher Jaiya gives some tips and techniques for male genital massage.

Tantric Sex Position: Connecting

Tantrachick describes one of her favorite sex positions Connecting. While in this position, a woman can experience clitoral, G-spot, and vaginal orgasm simultaneously.

While I have many, many favorite sex positions, this is definitely one of my top 5. I like to call it Mingling or Connecting, but the most common name is Scissors. What makes connecting so incredibly delicious is that, while in this position, the woman can adjust her lover’s leg so that she has full access to her clitoris. When my lover and I are connecting, I like to apply a tiny bit of organic tea seed oil to my pointer and middle finger on my right hand and stimulate myself so that I can experience a clitoris , g-spot and vaginal orgasm simultaneously. Read more

2 Techniques to Relax the Pelvic Floor

Relaxing the pelvic floor helps you experience more pleasure. Tao Semko gives two basic techniques for relaxing "down below."

To relax into more pleasure, whether you're a man or a woman, start by relaxing the muscles of your pelvic floor. You'll benefit in the following ways:

1. you'll feel more varied and subtle levels of pleasure when you make love, moving through your genitals and then throughout your body.

2. if you're a woman, you'll feel pleasure more immediately and fully, allowing for rapid and multiple orgasms

3. if you're a man, you'll last much longer and become multiorgasmic

How to relax the pelvic floor: Read more

Tantric Breathing Tips and Tricks

Get in touch with your breath and learn how it can help your sex life!

How to Give Your Woman a Nipple Orgasm

Not everyone knows that women can have orgasms from breast stimulation only. Svetlana Ivanova explains the nipple orgasm and tells men how to give one to their woman.

Many people see nipples and breasts as the second most erogenous area of the body next to the genitals. For women, having our breasts caressed and nipples sucked releases oxytocin, the chemical that makes us feel like we’re in love. The nipples, in particular, are filled with nerve endings, making them especially tuned in to touch. Men enjoy stimulating the breasts during foreplay, but relatively few women have ever had an orgasms strictly form breast stimulation. Given that there is very little information on breast or nipple orgasm, most people discover nipple orgasm purely by accident. Read more

How to Give the Perfect Massage

An incredible massage could be your ticket to nirvana. Here's how to make it happen.

Admit it, you've probably given your woman more than one half-assed rubdown thinking it was all you had to do to warm her up for sex. But you can do better. "Think of massage as sex without the penetration," says Juan Urosa, a licensed massage therapist from New York City's acclaimed Great Jones Spa. Do it right, and she'll be putty in your hands.

Soak her muscles
Get her relaxed before you amaze her. "Prepare a bath and pour in some essential oils," Urosa says. (You'll find them in any "chick" store.) "The bath will get her muscles ready for the massage." And it gives you an excuse to towel her off.

Make her comfy
Have her lie on your bed, facedown. Soften your hands with massage oil, then start rubbing her feet, not her back. "We have thousands of nerve endings in our soles that stimulate the entire nervous system," Urosa says. "Massage each foot, then slowly move up to her calves, then legs, and so on." Keep the progression slow. Read more

The Art of Receiving Pleasure

Most of us are not talented receivers when it comes to love, says Wendy Strgar.

“There is a secret about human love that is commonly overlooked: Receiving it is much more scary and threatening than giving it. How many times in your life have you been unable to let in someone’s love or even pushed it away? Much as we proclaim the wish to be truly loved, we are often afraid of that, and so find it difficult to open to love or let it all the way in.” –John Welwood
 
Most of us are not talented receivers when it comes to love. Whether or not we are able to give love has surprisingly little to do with its polar opposite of being able to open to the love coming towards us. We refuse the love we say we want when we complain about the packaging it arrives in. We refuse the lover we say we want when we blame them for what they are not. We refuse the love and the lover we say we want when we justify our refusal in the storylines of anger, guilt and inadequacy. In fact, most people when pushed to the edge of their refusal to receive love will admit to what may be the most painful universal wound of all – the belief that underneath it all we don’t deserve the love we say we want. Read more

Rewire Your Brain for Love

Psychologist Marsha Lucas explains how to change your brain in ways which support healthier, more satisfying relationships.

As a psychologist, I see people in my practice all the time who complain that the thrill of sex dies down after awhile. It gets, well, routine. Same-old, same-old. Going through the motions. Sometimes, they get around to asking what they can do to spice things up.

"Yes, there is," I say.

Their eyes get a little wider, their hearts jump a bit.

They're not always thrilled when I tell them they need to change their brain structure. And sometimes even less thrilled when I tell them one of the best ways to change their brain for better sex, is mindfulness meditation. Read more

Have a Wegasm Tonight!

Simultaneous orgasms aren't just stuff of legend. Sarah Kennedy reveals how to have a "wegasm" tonight!

Any kind of orgasm is pretty awesome, but without a doubt, the pinnacle of peaking is the simultaneous Big O, or Wegasm, to borrow a term coined by the condom connoisseurs at Durex. Sex can be spectacular no matter who blasts off first, but there's good reason to try for the somewhat elusive synchronized O: According to a recent study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, concurrent climaxes during intercourse are associated with stronger relationships, more sizzling sex lives, and a happier outlook on life. "Plus, physically and emotionally, there may be a momentary loss of individual boundaries, a sense of truly becoming one with the other," explains study author Stuart Brody, Ph.D.

A deeper understanding of how everything can click at once may be all you really need to experience a synced-up grand finale. But there's no need to shoot for the moon every single time—even the occasional Wegasm will have you seeing stars. Read more

Naked Yoga: Would You Try It?

Naked yoga allegedly boosts self-confidence. Would that be enough to get you to try it, asks Bliss Tree?

OK, so apparently I’m the only one who thought naked yoga was something to be done in the privacy of one’s own home — preferably in a dim-lit area void of mirrors, windows and nosy, sniffing dogs. But, according to a new report, “exposing” yourself to the benefits of this practice in a public class along with other sans-clothes enthusiasts is a growing trend.

I’m all for a little nakedness from time to time, but all of this brings up more questions than answers. Like, how exactly is one supposed to focus in class when you have someone else’s asana all up in your space? Is that boob or butt supposed to be your new drishti? What happens during poses like wide-leg straddle, crow and half-moon when your lady parts are on full display? Won’t men be wagging their dog all over the place? How are you supposed to react when the teacher comes up behind you to give you an assist during downward dog? Doesn’t your mat get all kinds of yuck on it? And, what’s a girl supposed to do during that time of the month? See? Questions.

But according to some naked yoga aficionados, shedding one’s clothes brings a new level of honesty and authenticity to the practice — something that can easily get lost in the fashion and branding surrounding yoga, Isis Phoenix, a yoga instructor at Naked Yoga NYC told MyHealthNewsDaily. Read more

How to Female Ejaculate

New World Sex Educator Jaiya talks about how you can learn to female ejaculate. What is female ejaculation? Can all women do it?

Meditation: A Portal to a New Dimension

Meditation has many benefits, but one you may not realize is that meditation is a portal to a new dimension. Andrew Z. Cohen describes this dimension.

One of the many miraculous functions of meditation is that it is a portal to a different dimension.

When you go deeply into the meditative state, your awareness detaches itself from the thought-stream. Then your identification with emotion, memory, time and body begins to fall away. You become aware of something very mysterious. Imagine that you had been fast asleep in a small dark chamber and then you suddenly awakened to find yourself floating in the infinite depth of a vast, peaceful ocean. You literally become aware of a new dimension, when moments before you had experienced yourself as being trapped, a prisoner of your body, mind and emotions. When you awaken to this new dimension, all sense of confinement disappears. You feel that you have access to the whole universe and also to that which the universe exists within. You're aware of body, mind, time, and space, but there's another dimension that extends in all directions, unlimited by any of it. Meditation is the portal to this dimension, a door to the realization of limitlessness. Read more

The Low-Down on Tantric Sex

Tantric sex makes an appearance in College Candy, where readers get the "low-down" on Tantric sex.

Cue two naked couples, both in sexual scenarios.

Couple 1 attacks each other like wild animals, both racing to the big O.

Couple 2 takes their time, pleasing each other in various kama sutra-like positions, aiming to prolong the act of sex by channeling sexual energy and increasing intimacy, letting go of all reservations and connecting to their sexual experience spiritually before engaging in the physical.

So, which couple are you? If you’re an ordinary lover like myself, then you can probably identify with couple 1. If couple 2′s experience sounds more appealing, then the increasingly popular “tantric sex” might be of some interest to you. Read more

6 Warning Signs of a Fake Guru

One hazard of seeking a spiritual guru is that the guru you find may be a fraud. Alison Rose Levy gives six warning signs of a fake guru.

By now, most people know that in his so-called "sweat lodge," James Arthur Ray disrespectfully borrowed traditional Native American sacred practices for use in his endurance boot camp, in order to produce "abundance" in the gullible participants. Two of those participants died. Like many, I feel sad for the families of the victims, and agree that it's appropriate for the legal system to hold Ray accountable. But it's a mistake to dismiss Ray as just one "bad apple." Why? because he exemplifies a bona-fide risk for spiritual seekers. Until people can learn to distinguish between spiritual authority and authoritarianism, and between spirituality and spiritual materialism, some will fall prey to charismatic individuals, like James Arthur Ray.

There were warning signs aplenty. Read more

To her list, I would add that if a guru actively solicits disciples, he's probably a fraud. By "actively solicit," I don't mean that anyone who advertises his books, workshops, or school is a fraud. I mean personal recruitment by the "guru" himself. For example, since starting this blog, I've been contacted by several "masters"who offered to teach me "secret" Tantric sexual practices. So far, I haven't taken advantage of these generous offers, and if you ever receeive one yourself, I would suggest that you don't either.

Buddhist Lama Death Meditation Baffles Science

When a Tibetan Buddhist lama died, his body remained odorless and with no rigor mortis for twenty days before his cremation, due to what his fellow monks called his "death meditation." Many spiritual masters, including Paramahansa Yogananda, are claimed to been in this state after their deaths by their devotees, but this case was documented by outsiders.

Orgasm Meditation

Can every woman really become orgasmic in just fifteen minutes?

"In just fifteen minutes every woman can become orgasmic," the PDF promised. It was part of a press kit for a new book about sex called Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm by Nicole Daedone. That the PDF told me all kinds of other things about the book, its philosophy and practice and its author, didn't matter, all I could do was groan.

I've become weary over the years of advice writers, self-help gurus, and authors who capitalize on sex by perpetuating messages that further hinder the enjoyment of our bodies instead of helping us. You’ve seen me rail against the lie-detector techniques perpetuated by AskMen.com, GQ's sex-for-chores barter system and even this new craze with the 40 beads. I worry because these suggestions focus on sex in a way that makes it about everything but sex. Read more

Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman

Nicole Daedone is the founder of OneTaste and OM and the author of the author of Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm. She speaks on the topic "Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman."

Study Says Meditation Increases Brain Size

Researchers have found evidence that meditation can alter the physical structure of our brains. People who meditate grow bigger brains than those who don't.

So if you want to develop bigger muscles and stronger bones, you pump iron. But what do you do to build a bigger brain? Meditate.

Research has confirmed the beneficial aspects of meditation. In addition to having better focus and control over their emotions, many people who meditate regularly have reduced levels of stress and bolstered immune systems. But this new research is about much more than stress management... it's about meditation changing the actual structure of the brain.

First, in an article in the Jan. 30 issue of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, researchers report that those who meditated for about 30 minutes a day for eight weeks had measurable changes in gray-matter density in parts of the brain associated with memory, sense of self, empathy and stress. Previous studies have also shown that there are structural differences between the brains of meditators and those who don’t meditate, but this was the first to document changes in gray matter over time through meditation. Read more

Achieving Tantric Orgasm with Tantra Positions

Tantra teacher Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta discusses how women can achieve Tantric orgasm with Tantra positions. I agree with what Dasgupta says about female orgasm, but I don't agree with the assertion that Tantra is dangerous unless practiced under the direct supervision of a teacher. Personal instruction is extremely helpful, but just isn't available to many people. My post The 4 Best Positions for Reaching a Tantric G-spot Orgasms  reveals some of what Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta's article does not.

The mystery of the tantra orgasm by use of tantra positions can never really be understood by the uninitiated. There is simply too little authentic information about this phenomenon available.

Only a genuine student of tantra can receive this precious knowledge from a tantra teacher. Under his tutelage, even the secrets of a woman’s tantra orgasm can unfold and be put to use.

The woman’s tantra orgasm certainly cannot be understood by study of the works of Dr. Freud and veteran sexologists like Masters and Johnson. All that these stalwarts seem to agree on is that women can experience a basic level of orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

Even today, this is the only way many women can achieve an orgasm, but not through clitoral stimulation alone. Ancient tantra answers a burning question: why do men respond so well to genitals stimulation, while most women tend to remain unresponsive to it unless they are already aroused? Read more

Chesea Clinto Consults Tantric Sex Guru

Chelsea Clinton and her husband Marc Mez­vinsky join the list of celebrities reputed to be interested in practicing Tantric sex.

Chelsea Clinton‘s marriage to husband Marc Mez­vinsky is back on track — and it’s all thanks to a tantric sex guru.

Hard-bodied blonde Sim­one Ayesa — who’s worked with A-listers including Matt Damon and Kirsten Dunst — has used several techniques to get Chelsea and Marc — who wed last July — to relax, find inner peace and get in shape. Read more

Whole Body Energetic Orgasm

Dakini Sophie demonstrates a type of energy work called "whole body energetic orgasm" which she learned from Andrew Barnes. This reminds me of Annie Sprinkle's energy orgasm technique.

Tap Into Tantra for an Intimacy Infusion

Looking for a way to improve your relationship? Try Tantra. Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver, founders of TantraNova, share their Tantric tips to bring you and your partner closer.

The Yin-Yang of Love
Tantra has its roots in the religions of India and has long been practiced in other Eastern countries, including China, Nepal, Tibet, Bhutan, Pakistan, and Sri Lanka. Here, we tend to associate Tantra with the sexual staying power of men (thank you, Sting!), but the practice isn’t simply about being better in bed.

The Tantra discipline uses ritual, energy and breathing in order to achieve harmony with the universe (the divine), yourself and your partner. It can help you learn about yourself and open the door to longer, more satisfying sex. And yes, men who practice Tantra are able to last longer through a combination of breathing, relaxation and muscle contraction. Read more

Prana as Applied to Tantric Sexual Union

There are many Prana breaths which apply directly to Tantric practice and Tantric lovemaking. Here are several of the most important and how to apply them to Tantric sexual union..

... Prana as Applied to Tantric Sexual Union

The above beginning prana practices should be mastered first. They form the basis for deeper exploration into pranayama. There are many Prana breaths which apply directly to Tantric practice and Tantric lovemaking. A true follower of the Tantric path should develop complete breath until it is totally natural; then healing breath to purify the vital and subtle channels of the body.

Thus, physical and emotional damage from the highly-charged, intense energies created by Tantric Union can be prevented.

The flows of prana, the mind, and sexual energy are interdependent. Breath control is vital to correct Tantric Union; breath is power. Fear not the power; but lean to use it carefully. Yoga and Tantric traditions believe in a five-fold division of Prana. Read more

Meditation for Developing Psychic Powers

Anmol Mehta demonstrates a Kundalini Yoga meditation technique known for bestowing psychic powers. It uses the power of mantra to open the Third Eye chakra, which is the seat of psychic abilities.

5 Easy Tantric Sex Techniques You Can Try Tonight

You don't need to take a class to get started with Tantric sex. Kaylen Jackson reveals five easy Tantric sex techniques you can try tonight.

Tantric sex is a great way to connect emotionally and sexually to your partner. Instead of focusing on techniques to get to orgasm faster, Tantra focuses on the emotional and physical intimacy you share with someone during sex. It also teaches you to focus more on each individual sensation during sex rather than thinking of them as a means to an end. Here are five easy things to do now to have amazing orgasms with your lover.

Sanctify Your Space

If you read the morning newspaper in your bed, or you work from home in bed, eat in bed or do anything else besides sleep and have sex in your bed, then you need to start by sanctifying your space. You’re never going to feel sexual or connected to your partner in the same space that you change diapers in! Start making your bedroom a sex and sleeping only place, so when you walk into the room, you are already starting to get psychologically prepared for sex. You can also splurge on some new silky sheets and a few aromatherapy candles. Anything that you can do to appeal to your senses and get them involved will help you experience sex in a new way. Read more

What Is Meditation?

Meditation teachers Ed and Deb Shapiro say that meditation is not what you think.

However you try to define meditation, it's not that. -- Swami Brahmananda

Through many years of being involved with meditation we have seen how easily people miss the point, mainly because they take the practice and themselves too seriously. Many "try" to meditate but their minds are so busy they get frustrated and quickly believe they are no good at it. Others turn into diehard advocates of a particular method or technique and become like a salesperson trying to sell a product.

Just like yoga, people want to own meditation and to believe that their technique is the best one. They give it a name: TM, Vipassana or Kundalini meditation and sometimes make outrageous claims of what can be achieved, but that is not the point. Meditation is not a technique -- being quiet happens by itself, not because of following the breath in and out, reciting a specific mantra or creating a visualization.

Teachers, through their compassion, have created the many methods and techniques in order to help their students to concentrate and focus their minds, to be one-pointed. No one technique is better than another; they equally give our monkey minds something to do other than drive us bananas. Many of the practices known as meditation are actually concentration; they bring the mental energy together so the mind is less fragmented. But this is not meditation. Read more

Tantric Massage Tips

Tantra teacher Al Link gives some Tantric massage tips that can make both giving and receiving a massage more pleasurable.

Massages are easy to do as well as fun to give and receive. You do not have to have any training to give your mate a thoroughly satisfying massage, although if you would like more guidance there are some excellent books and videos available.

Giving each other a massage as a first course of sexual play adds to your entire experience. Both partners are able to relax, leave the world behind, and be in the moment together. With massage, a woman’s body begins to awaken for arousal—her erotic side receives the time and attention she needs to “get in the mood”. A man whose body is relaxed so that his energy can flow more freely is able to last much longer. Read more

Share All Chakras in Yab Yum

Tantra teacher Sasha Lessin gives a chakra exercise that couples can practice together.

Sit facing each other. Have your partner drape her or his legs over your thighs; bring his or her feet together behind your tailbone. Snuggle your genitals together. Rest your left hands on each others’ lower backs; right hands behind each other shoulder blades.

Together, chant and, as you do, waken each chakra. Imagine running energy from your perineum, genitals, belly, throat, heart, brow and crown--chakras 1-7--into each other’s.

Breathe in and out when your partner does; synchronize your breath. Then syncopate your breath: inhale through your nose as she or he exhales through the mouth. Exhale through your mouth toward her or his nose as s/he inhales through it. Pause together after each inhale and exhale. Read more

Qigong Demo with Master "John Chang"

This video shows a demonstration of chi energy by a qigong master. He claims no special powers, saying meditation is his secret.

How Meditation Might Ward Off the Effects of Aging

A study at a US Buddhist retreat suggests eastern relaxation techniques can protect our chromosomes from degenerating.

... After several years of number-crunching, data from the so-called Shamatha project is finally starting to be published. So far the research has shown some not hugely surprising psychological and cognitive changes – improvements in perception and wellbeing, for example. But one result in particular has potentially stunning implications: that by protecting caps called telomeres on the ends of our chromosomes, meditation might help to delay the process of ageing. Read more

6 Reasons Why You Should Take a Look at the Kama Sutra

The Kama Sutra could teach you a thing or two in the bedroom, from making a deeper connection, or why you should stock up on candles.

Not enjoying sex as much as you feel you should? It could be that you haven't yet discovered the best position (or positions) for providing the both of you with maximum pleasure. While the missionary position is nice, there is a world of alternative bodily arrangements out there. For some of the best, I suggest turning to the Kama Sutra.

The Kama Sutra is an ancient Hindu love manual. It was once considered valuable for its psychological insights on love and relationships, though most people today know it primarily as a how-to text on sexual behavior. In reality, only one section of the book -- out of seven -- focuses on sexual intercourse. Still, it's a valuable section (especially for our purposes) and it's where you should turn when considering alternative sexual positions. Read more

How to Give an Erotic Massage

Sarah Gibson offers simple massage techniques that range from the sensual to the sexual. For more specifics, I have written six articles about Tantric massage.

As the nights get colder you can earn some serious brownie points from your partner by wooing her with an erotic massage. Read on for simple massage techniques that range from the sensual to the explicit - and adapt them to your own desires.

Warm Up

An erotic massage involves getting up close and personal with your partner - so the clothes should come off right away. Very few women want to get naked in sub-zero conditions so make sure you pre-heat the room to a decent temperature before hand. Also, make sure you warm the massage oil; either in the microwave or under a hot tap; and test the temperature before you put it on your partner’s skin – to avoid any nasty accidents. Read more

Conquer Stress through Ujjayi Breathing

When done properly, Ujjayi breathing, aka "ocean-sounding" breathing, should be both energizing and relaxing, but it can be confusing at first. Garry Alesio shares some insight and tips into making this effective breathing exercise a natural stress-reducing solution.

Tantric Sex: 7 Ways to Please Your Lover

Tantra teacher Crystal Dawn Morris gives couples seven ways to please their lovers using Tantric sex.

Tantra is a spiritual path that embraces sexuality as a doorway to the Divine. If you experience love making as a living prayer and see our beloved as a God or Goddess, then sex can take you beyond the world of form, into the formless mystical realms. Here are 7 Tantric tips to help you turn sex into a spiritual practice.

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Erotic Massage
Give your beloved an erotic massage. Take your time, use long slow strokes, and go slow. Discover new ways to give them pleasure. Help them expand their "pleasure body" by using, the 3 Keys of Sky Dancing Tantra, breath, sound and movement. Read more

Meditation for Pain Relief

You may have read about a recent study that explained how meditation reduces pain. One of the best things about the study is that it showed that pain relief meditation is easy to learn. Anmol Mehta explains how to do meditation for pain relief.

Pain Management Technique

What was most amazing about the recent research which showed meditation reduced the intensity of pain by 40% and reduced the unpleasantness associated with pain by almost 60%, was that these benefits were attained with just 4 meditation sessions of 20 minutes each! That’s really incredible. Normally much more consistent practice is needed and the benefits of meditation are procured over time, but here we find that after just a few practice session, meditation helped enormously with pain management and pain relief.

This study, on the powers of meditation for pain management, was conducted at the Wake Forest University School of Medicine, NC and published in the Journal of Neuroscience on April 6th. Even the researchers were amazed at the results.

How Meditation Helps with Pain Management: Read more

Ejaculatory Control with Conscious Masturbation

Carlin Ross and Betty Dodson explain how to use conscious masturbation for ejaculatory control.

How Does Meditation Reduce Pain?

It's becoming well-known that meditation reduces pain, and a new study explains how.

Meditation produces powerful pain-relieving effects in the brain, according to new research published in the April 6 edition of the Journal of Neuroscience.

"This is the first study to show that only a little over an hour of meditation training can dramatically reduce both the experience of pain and pain-related brain activation," said Fadel Zeidan, Ph.D., lead author of the study and post-doctoral research fellow at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center.

"We found a big effect – about a 40 percent reduction in pain intensity and a 57 percent reduction in pain unpleasantness. Meditation produced a greater reduction in pain than even morphine or other pain-relieving drugs, which typically reduce pain ratings by about 25 percent." Read more

Which Sex PositionsWork Best during Pregnancy?

Tantra teacher discusses which sex positions work best during each trimester of pregnancy.

Saffron and Ginseng Can Spice Up Your Sex Life

Aphrodisiacs have been used all around the world for thousands of years. Now a new study has proven that at least some of them really work.

People looking to spice up their love life should try adding saffron and ginseng to their diet, according to a new study.

Both are proven to increase sexual desire, according to the latest scientific review of natural aphrodisiacs.

Saffron, which is produced from the dried stigmas of the Crocus sativus flower, is a spice commonly used in Spanish, Italian and Indian cuisine. Gingseng is a root which is also reupted to boost memory and stamina. Read more

5 Explosive Tantric Sex Techniques

For those interested in Tantric sex, but who don't want to convert to a Tantric lifestyle, here are five explosive techniques you can try.

This isn't Philosophy 101. There won't be any debates or unearthing and dissecting of the secrets of tantric sex. You're not interested in converting to a tantric lifestyle, but you would like to try some techniques that will enable you to last longer, orgasm harder and leap tall buildings. Okay, so you won't be able to leap tall buildings, but you will be able to keep your pleasure at its precipice while you take her over the edge again and again. If you're interested in giving her a good time that she won't soon forget, read on. With these tips, you won't succumb to sexual pleasures until you're both gasping and you decide to take that plunge. It's all in your control.

PC Muscle Contractions
You may notice that it is difficult to keep going or even to stay awake after you've ejaculated; in tantra, it is believed that ejaculation depletes your energy. This belief has led to new practices that train the man and his muscles to recognize energy flows and release them without losing his own vitality. Read more

3 Deep Breathing Exercises for Stress Relief, Energy, and Health

Learn three cleansing breaths to balance your body, clear your mind, and awaken your innate bliss.

Meditation for Beginners: 20 Practical Tips for Quieting the Mind

You may know that meditation is beneficial, but establishing a practice is another thing..If you're having trouble meditating, these twenty practical tips for quieting the mind may help.

Meditation is the art of focusing 100% of your attention in one area. The practice comes with a myriad of well-publicized health benefits including increased concentration, decreased anxiety, and a general feeling of happiness.

Although a great number of people try meditation at some point in their lives, a small percentage actually stick with it for the long-term. This is unfortunate, and a possible reason is that many beginners do not begin with a mindset needed to make the practice sustainable.

The purpose of this article is to provide 20 practical recommendations to help beginners get past the initial hurdles and integrate meditation over the long term: Read more

John F. Kennedy Jr. Loved Tantric Sex

John F. Kennedy Jr. was among the celebrities who was interested in Tantric sex, according to an ex-girlfriend's memoir.

John F Kennedy Jr smoked marijuana and took a book about tantric sex on a holiday to Jamaica, according to a former girlfriend.

Christina Haag said the pair were offered an ‘enormous spliff’ by some islanders after they almost drowned at sea while kayaking.

The actress makes the disclosures in her forthcoming memoir about her five years of dating JFK’s tragic eldest son in the 1980s. Read more

Tantric Sex: The Road To Ecstasy

Dr. Judy Kuriansky.gives couples seven tips for achieving more bliss and  intimacy with Tantric sex.

My boyfriend knows how to bring me to a fantastic orgasm, but he says he would like to feel more closeness between us. Something more than "just sex." How can we make this happen?

You can reach new excitement, bliss and intimacy through ancient techniques of tantric sex. This originated in India, China and Nepal and is being revived and adapted in the West. Using breath, intention, sounds, meditations, movements and rituals you can relax, arouse and exchange love energy. Follow these steps for sacred and spiritual sex: Read more

5 Health Benefits of Practicing Tantra

Many, if not most, people explore Tantra to improve their sex lives, but there is so much more you can gain from Tantra, including health benefits, says Laurie Handlers.

When people hear the word Tantra, they usually think of kinky sex, the Kama Sutra, something they saw on HBO or on Sex & the City. That’s if they’ve heard of it at all.

I have found many unexpected health benefits from practicing this ancient form of meditation and related breath practices.

I began Tantra like anybody else thinking it would enhance sex making it hotter and maybe even wilder. I had no idea back then how powerful Tantra was to become in every aspect of my life.

Very soon, after embarking on this path, I became aware of a quieting down in the mind, something I had been trying to accomplish for years to no avail. This alone helped me to reduce my stress levels. But that’s not all; that was only the beginning.

Now, after 10 years of practicing Tantra, I am aware that I am not suffering  Read more

Tantric Meditation for Couples

Tantra teacher Rhoda Jordan Shapiro shares a Tantric meditation for couples that you can use whenever you like, including before lovemaking.

... It is with much excitement that I share this Couples’ Meditation with you! You and your partner can use this whenever you like. It’s a good one to help you plug into one another after a long day apart. It’s also a good way to energize and start the day, and on the opposite end, it can be a relaxing thing to do before bedtime. And if you do this meditation right before lovemaking, it can really strengthen your chemistry!

Whenever you choose to do it, be sure to approach the meditation with complete awareness and an open mind!

Here we go… Read more

5 Tantra Tips for Getting More out of Sex

Addison Prescot reveals five Tantra tips for improving sex and getting more out of it.

... While most people are interested in Tantra primarily due to its sexual implications, it can also help you to enjoy a more intense relationship and improve your romantic life. But for this article, I will just continue to offer the Tantra that people are wanting, Sexual Tantra.

Five beginner tips for Tantric Sex:

Tip Number One For Tantric Sex.

In Yoga, Pranayama is a term that means Control of Breath or Regularising of Breath. This is one very simple tantric tip for sexual improvements. Try to breath in unison with each other. Synchronizing your breathing together will no doubt enhance the sexual experience for you both. It can help keep distractions to a minimum and connect you in focus. If it becomes difficult in any way, just relax and stop trying so hard. It should then come back with relative ease. Read more

Is Tantric Sex rhe Ultimate Workout?

 It's definitely a sign that Tantric sex has gone mainstream when a bodybuilding website has a long article about the topic. If you're relatively new to Tantric sex, this article gives you some techniques to get you started.

The old adage- "all sex is good, but some is better than others"- is a bunch of hooey. After all, if every day is a good day, how do you know a good one from a bad one? For some "great sex" is a rarity or something they've only read about. Others think they have great sex all the time. For still others, "great sex" is an oxymoron, a contradiction in terms. There is such a thing as bad sex. Just ask a teenage girl fresh out of the back seat of a dirty old car after 3-1/2 minutes of wham-bam-thank-you-mam-style high school affection.

On average, Western sex practices yield roughly ten minutes of bliss. However, in India and parts of the Far East, sex is practiced as a form of spirituality called "Tantric Sex," enveloping its practitioners in ecstasy that can last hours. Call me pragmatic, but if you're going to go through all that trouble to bump uglies, why not spend a few hours riding the wave, instead of 10 minutes? If it were that easy, we'd all be chronically late for work, wouldn't we? It's not just about drawing out the process; some women might actually be glad their men are 10-minute wonders- any more plain humping and they might be tempted to file their nails.

Studies show couples are struggling to reconcile their high expectations of sex with their inability to express their sexual needs. A Details magazine survey found that 85 percent of respondents believed "perfect sex" exists. However, far fewer were having it. Only 38 percent of men and 45 percent of women reported they were "very satisfied" with their sex lives. Many couples are banking on Tantric techniques to better these odds. Read more

3 Tips for Inducing Altered States of Consciousness

An altered state of consciousness is a brain state wherein one loses the sense of identity with one's body or with one's normal sense perceptions. A person may enter an altered state of consciousness through such things as sensory deprivation or overload, neurochemical imbalance, fever, or trauma. One may also achieve an altered state by chanting, meditating, entering a trance state, or ingesting psychedelic drugs. Ammol Mehta gives three tips for inducing altered states naturally.

... Tips for Inducing Altered States of Consciousness

It is very difficult to pinpoint the reasons why these altered states take place when they do. If such states do interest you and you would like to explore them in your own life, I would give the following advise as starters…

1. Ask How You Spend Your Energy:

Start with that question. See how you spend the energy you are given. Do you simply waste it away or are you putting it to good use? If you are wasting your time and energy, then it is wise to start making modifications to your life in order to better gather and use your energy. Perhaps enlightenment is simply a reward for doing this. Read more

Ganesh Mantra: Obstacle Breaker

The Ganesh mantra, Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha, invokes the Lord Ganesha to remove every impediment in your life and in your works. By constant meditation on this mantra, all obstacles and blocked energy in your physical and astral bodies are released.

What Are the Benefits of Tantric Sex?

Tantric sex offers more than just whole body orgasms and all night sex, says Tantric sex expert Cassandra Lorius  It can increase your energy, sensual awareness, and enhance the quality of your life. 

Good sex is an art that requires time and attention to flourish. Busy and stressful lifestyles can take their toll and our sex lives are often the first thing to suffer. We could all do with more of the feel-good factor that comes from good sex.

Tantric sex seduces us with its promise of endless ecstasy. It guarantees orgasm and feelings of emotional satisfaction for women. And men find tantric techniques can help them to keep it up longer, even all night!

One goal of tantric sex is to expand your orgasms from local genital experiences to 'whole body' orgasms. These expanded orgasms are where you feel energy rushing up through your body and into the crown of your head.

The claims of tantra may seem hype - but before you dismiss it, try it out. You might end up having the last laugh - or better still, a big self-satisfied grin that comes from recollecting your sexual highs. Read more

The Floating Meditation of Kundalini Tantra

Rev. David Howell explains how to do the floating exercise of Kundalini Tantra, which can be used to attain such things as astral projection, psychic powers, or even just stress relief.

The floating exercise is an important part of the meditation practices of kundalini Tantra, and as such is normally one of the first exercises taught to a new student. Mastery of the floating exercise can bring alignment to virtually any technique or physical world method wished. The floating exercise can also open the student to alignment to any spiritual world method or benefit imagined. It is important to remember that the simple method of active meditation allows one to find the total universe within and the connections to the total universe without (Microcosm within, Macrocosm without).

Examples of the things the floating exercise can attain include astral projection, alignment with some physical item the person wishes such as a new automobile, job, money, or other mundane requirement. In the spiritual realm, the student can attain mastery over clairvoyance, become a prophet, seer, psychic, or any other spiritual ability imagined. The Floating Exercise is one of the most powerful tools in the Tantric Path. A simpler and even more important benefit of the floating exercise is that of peace, joy, happiness, and internal rest. The floating exercise allows practitioners a space that is uniquely their own and gives them the space and place to practice happiness in a world of their own making. Read more

Gayatri Mantra Meditation for Opening the Third Eye

This mantra meditation technique uses the Gayatri mantra to help activate and open the Third Eye Chakra. In addition to the Gayatri Mantra, the meditation also uses the Gyan Mudra and Shambhavi Mudra to further stimulate the Third Eye Center. This combination of techniques makes this one of the most effective meditations for Opening the Third Eye.

Mindfulness Meditation Benefits and Changes Brain Structures in 8 Weeks

Meditation isn't just good for the soul. It affects your body and mind, too. A recent study concluded that mindfulness meditation benefits and changes the brain structures associated with memory, sense of self, empathy and stress in just eight weeks.

Meditation is just a way to relax and maybe calm you down for the moment, right? Wrong. Not only will most regular meditators tell you that meditation makes them feel better emotionally and physically, but now there is also scientific evidence that regular meditation literally changes the body -- specifically, it changes the brain in ways that appear to be beneficial.

In a study published in the January 30 edition of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, Massachusetts General Hospital (MGH) researchers concluded that an eight week mindful meditation practice produced measurable changes in participants' brain regions associated with memory, sense of self, empathy and stress. This is the first study to document meditation-produced changes in the brain's grey matter over time. Read more

10 Tips for Exciting Tantric Lovemaking

Many people are interested in Tantric sex, but confused about exactly what that is. Maxine Fraser gives a good overview of Tantric sex with ten tips for exciting Tantric lovemaking.

Tantra is a set of teachings and practices that are specifically designed to help us feel more and to increase our awareness of our own energy and the energy around us. Applying these teachings to love making enriches the whole experience by deepening the sexual connection between partners and creating orgasms that will blow your mind!

1. Keep your eyes open:

When we keep our eyes open during lovemaking, we can't hide our feelings, fears or our love. Hold hands and gaze into each others eyes for five minutes. This may be difficult to start with but try to stick with it. It starts to build the sexualintensity and connection that you have between you. Read more

Tantric Ejaculation Mastery

Like a surfer on a wave, you can ride orgasmic energy, guys, and stay in perfect control for as long as you choose, says Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann.

Ecstatic Sex Versus Tantric Sex

Lisa Love compares Tantric sex to ecstatic sex. Ecstatic sex is not possible, she says, without intimacy and commitment.

Just as many people plunge into instant sex and end up having sex for all the wrong reasons, people dive into the pool of instant intimacy and end up in deep waters before they really know how to swim. Especially in the realm of tantra where sex, body work, and emotions are tied more deeply together, the waters can not only get deep, but rather murky really fast.

Why Tantra Once Required Commitment and Intimacy
To avoid throwing non-swimmers into deep waters, tantra, as it was orignally practiced in the East, ironically required a long period of time where the tantric partners got to know each other without any sexual contact whatsoever. An example of this might even include lying side by side next to each other in bed fully clothed for months. Why? Because giving into junk food sex and sex for all the wrong reasons is extremely easy and not much of a discipline at all. Learning to develop a deep bond of love, intimacy, integrity, honesty, and respect before having a sexual encounter, that is quite another matter. Read more

5 Celebrities You Probably Didn’t Realize Were into Tantric Sex

Dan Seltz discusses five celebrities you probalby didn't realize were into Tantric sex. I think Sting is someone everyone knew about, but maybe not the others (Tom Hanks?)

Let’s be honest, part of the appeal of celebrities is that they’re hot and we like to think about them doin’ it. Especially for long periods of time. That’s what makes the ancient marathon lovemaking technique known as Tantric sex particularly interesting when celebrities are involved. Here are five you may not realize are getting a little bendy in the bedroom. Read more

The 7 Basic Kama Sutra Positions

The Kama Sutra is renoowned for its multitude of sexual positions. However, all of those sex positions can be classified into seven basic sex positions.

The Kama Sutra is ancient text that revolves around human sexual behavior. It is believed to be written by Vatsyayana around 4 AD. The Kama Sutra is an integral part of Tantric Sex. Its basic seven positions can be used greatly to your and your partner’s advantage during Tantric lovemaking.

Kama Sutra Positions – Which One is BEST for You?

The Kama Sutra has seven basic positions. Read more

6 Ways to Develop Your Intuition

How intuitive are you? Do you just rely on logic or do you follow your gut? When you feel strongly about something without logical basis to it, it's called intuition. Some say only a few people are gifted with intuition, but the truth is that anyone can develop intuition.

Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? First of all, intuition promotes good communication. It makes you more sensitive to the people around you. It often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. Intuition also has a healing power. This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate negative energy buried in it.

If you ready to develop your intuition, here are six ways to unlock this gift:

1) Trust your first impressions.

When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually is correct. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition.

2) Just let go.

If you are faced with a major decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place where you can find out where the letting go has brought you. Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that voice can't speak to you unless you let go.

3) Never expect.

After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop you from thinking and feeling clearly, never expect an answer right away, or that the "hunch" will come to you immediately. Give it some time.

4) Stay positive!

A worry-free, fear-free state can do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By staying positive, you attract positive energy that will be able to easily recognize imminent feelings and events.

5) Be happy!

Happiness attracts immense power, and such power includes intuition. In tapping your intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. In that emotional state, intuition comes to you more easily.

6) Meditate

Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too much baggage and pain,  you won't be able to reach that part of you that can eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate. All of them work iff you practice them.

Intuition is helpful, because sometimes it leads you to knowledge that cannot be attained otherwise. Decisions are made more easily if informed by this gift. Develop intuition now and reap benefits you never imagined.

Tantric Relationship: A Divine Union of Sacred Partnership

Tantra teacher Luminessa Enjara explains how embracing a Tantric relationship will enable your life to become a sacred partnership with all things.

"Sharing the Divine Union with a partner can be as easy as energy flowing on the path of least resistance, and it is immensely entertaining. But make no mistake, it can also be the hardest thing you ever had to face! It all depends on who the lovers are, and what consciousness and intention each brings to the moment of Divine Union". (Lokita Carter, Institute of Ecstatic Living).

A Tantric relationship is one where there is a divine union and perfect balance of the masculine and feminine energies within your self and with your partner. Energy is represented by the female divine power, Shakti and Consciousness is represented by the male divine power, Shiva. The dance between Shiva and Shakti never ends, there is a constant flowing of this energy from one to the other, a giving and a receiving of this energy. In the ancient myth of India, the marriage of Shiva and Shakti is considered to be Divine Union, a fundamental concept of Tantra. Read more

Tantra: The Art of Sexual Healing

Evalena Rose tells how, at a time when she was feeling so little pleasure from sex that she didn't care if she ever made love again, a Tantra workshop led to her sexual healing.

... Tantra opens and activates the chakras and, by moving sexual energy through them, brings up whatever blocks true passion. My workshop leaders and dakinis (assistants who come to support sexual healing) created a sacred temple in which I felt safe to explore the pain of being sexually violated as a child, breathing through it to the pleasure beneath. In the exercises I could explode in rage, shake out the blocks, and reclaim a body ravaged by incest and years of reenactment through casual sex. It was amazing to be so accepted with all of my pain, respected and supported for my deep commitment to heal. Read more

Analingus and Anal Play

Jaiya discusses analingus and anal play and why it's a such a source of potential pleasure.

Delay Ejaculation by Controlling Your Breathing

If you want to last longer in bed, one of the easiest ways is to simply learn how to breathe correctly. As you come near orgasm, your breathing usually gets faster and your heart rate increases. During sexual arousal, your rate of breathing increases from a resting rate to 35-40 breaths per minute. During orgasm, it may increase to over 50 breaths per minute.

Of all the physiological changes that take place in sexual intercourse, breathing is the only one that can be voluntarily controlled. This leads to the obvious conclusion that breathing more slowly will slow your heart rate and make it easier to delay ejaculation. If you learn the simple techniques below, you will last longer and enjoy a more satisfying sexual experience.

During intercourse, here is what you need to do:

1) Take a long, deep inhale, wait a few seconds, and exhale slowly.

2) Maintain slow, rhythmic, controlled breathing when you do so.

3) When you feel you are coming close to orgasm, your breathing will become faster as your excitement mounts. Pay attention and try to concentrate on doing the following:

Concentrate on long, slow breaths. To do this, inhale, hold for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly. As your breathing slows, your body will become more relaxed. Orgasms always feature fast breaths, so it's obvious that slower breathing helps you last longer in bed. You simply fool your body into thinking that it is not time for the process to be completed.

Another trick to slow your breathing is to not use your mouth to inhale. Instead, breathe slowly through your nose. Nose breathing means slower breaths simply because the nostrils are smaller than your mouth. Concentrate on breathing slowly when you get near orgasm. Keep your mouth closed at this time. Don't force yout breathing. Keep it slow and rhythmic.

When you want to delay orgasm, do the following:

1) Breathe slowly and deeply through the nose.

2) Inhale deeply, hold, and then slowly exhale. Concentrate on your breathing.

3) If you feel you have to stop and pause to delay ejaculation, keep the slow nose breathing going during the break

Controlling your breathing is vital for better sex. Breathing correctly can not only help you last longer in bed, but it can also enhance the sexual experience. Try synchronizing your breathing with that of your partner. This creates a feeling of deep connection and can lead to incredible orgasms!

When personal Tantra instruction is either inconvenient or too expensive, Al Link and Pala Copeland's Sexual Mastery Course and Kerry and Diane Riley's Ultimate Home Tantra Course are two excellent self-teaching courses. I highly recommend either of these courses for those who can't find a local Tantra teacher, attend a Tantra workshop, or just want to explore Tantra in the privacy of their own home.

6 Kissing Lessons

Many men and women complain that their partners don't kiss very well, so Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann gives six lessons in kissing to help lovers master this erotic art.

Kissing is one of the most sensuous, erotic and thrilling things couples can do together. It can be done just about anywhere. So, what's to keep you from being a great kisser?

Many men and women complain that their lover doesn't know how to kiss very well, and that their kissing actually turns them off. How do you kiss? How does your lover do it? Has your technique gotten a bit stale and is there something you can learn about kissing?

Our mouths, lips and tongues are alive with nerve endings. Voluptuous lips are one of the sexual stimuli that turn on both men and women. We wouldn't love eating nearly as much if we didn't like the texture of things in our mouths. Kissing has an erotic power over us and the better you are at it the more you'll get kissed. The pleasure you can deliver and derive from kissing can be expanded to take on an importance of its own. Take a step back to 'innocent mind' and start over to find the thrill in it again. Read more

Sacred Sexuality Unraveled

Tantra teacher Pam Babbit explains how sacred sexuality can help anyone experience a deeper richness of life, health, and appreciation of themselves and others.

Does the term sacred sexuality intrigue you?
Are you open to inviting rituals, new techniques and a spiritual practice into your sex and love life?

Sacred sexuality can transform you, your life experiences, and your relationships. I’ll tell you how:

The good news is:
You can enjoy sacred sexuality on any level of experience and dedication, and all rituals, techniques and exercises can be modified for solo practice or same sex couples. Select those that you enjoy and weave them into your current lovemaking practice. You will experience a deeper richness of life, health, and appreciation of yourself and others. Read more

Yoga Nidra: An Ancient Tantra Meditation Technique For Conscious Relaxation

Yoga Nidra has been known for thousands of years by yogis. Yoga Nidra means Yogic Sleep. In Yoga Nidra, you leave the waking state, go past the dreaming state, and go to deep sleep, yet remain awake.

Yoga Nidra is a systematic meditation technique of providing a complete relaxation to the body mind. It caters to our deepest neurological, physiological and subconscious needs in a holistic manner.

It is an ancient Tantric meditation technique and is also known as "sleep with awareness" or "yogic sleep". It helps to provide a full body relaxation as well as enhancing deep meditative state of awareness.

Yogic Sleep is a very powerful and effective technique to achieve a total self-transformation and get rid of all negativities. It is very beneficial to overcome stress-related disorders and physical problems such as asthma, insomnia, hypertension, digestive disorders, depression, etc.

The word Yoga Nidra is made out of a combination of the two Sanskrit words "yoga" which means 'unity' and "Nidra" which means 'sleep'. It is a process of conscious relaxation. While the mind and intellect are in a state of relaxation, the awareness continues to function at a deeper level. Read more

A Preparatory Tantra Technique for Tantric Massage

Tantric massage allows your body to be in total ecstasy. Spiritual, emotional and physical preparation is a key component of Tantric massage.

There are many ways in which to practice tantra massage, but you must first experience the basic energy that this ancient tantra technique unfolds within you. Before you can proceed to enjoy the full benefits of this ultimate form of erotic massage, you need to prepare yourselves spiritually and emotionally. Read more

The White Tigress Oral Sex Practices

Jaiya talks about the ancient White Tigress oral sex practices.