Tuesday, April 10, 2007

A Beginner's Guide to Tantric Sex

Tantric sex attempts to bring two loving partners together in more than just a physical manner. The word Tantra is Sanskrit and is derived from the root word tan meaning "to extend, expand, spread, continue, spin out, weave, to put forth or manifest.” The idea is to extend your mind and encompass your body to achieve the ultimate satisfaction. In the practice of Tantra, there is a sort of "being- consciousness-bliss" which has the power of self-evolution and self-involution (learning and expanding and looking into oneself). Therefore, the evolution of self helps to bring two people closer together.

One essential element of Tantra is taking time to become absorbed in oneself and your partner. The methods learned and used in Tantric sex provide sensations and sexual pleasure far more intense and complex than just a simple orgasm. In Tantric sex, the orgasm is simply a by-product of the connectedness we feel with our partner.

You begin by creating an environment that is free from distractions, an area that is calm, quiet and peaceful. Your sacred space should be clean of clutter, decorated peacefully, warm, and inviting. Since you will be naked, the room should be warm in temperature as well. Nothing disconnects you from your lover like a shivering body. Playing soft music, lighting candles, and being comfortable are all especially important in creating a Tantric environment.

Once you are in your love haven, sit on the bed, face each other, look into each other’s eyes, and simply breathe. You have to get in touch with each other’s rhythm. You breathe in and out purposefully, paying attention to your lover’s rhythm. As you continue to breathe together, you become closer spiritually, more relaxed, and more in tune. The more attuned you are, the more aware and connected.

Tantric sex is not a race to the finish. Tantric sex is slow and purposeful, but fun. While traditional Tantrists will practice the slow lovemaking for hours upon hours, the average person trying to learn Tantra is not going to have the patience or, quite frankly, the willpower to devote such time. The idea is to not rush, to enjoy yourself, and get as highly aroused as you can.

The basic idea here is to caress, stroke, lick, touch, kiss, and otherwise tease and enjoy each other. You can take turns with a slow, seductive massage or simply sit and touch each other slowly. Pay homage to your lover’s body – all of it. That means ears, nose, neck, stomach, thighs, feet, and so on. The goal is to become familiar, relaxed, and aroused by the whole person, not just the penis or the vagina though you may wish to include a Lingam and Yoni massage as part of your lovemaking.

When you begin the actual sexual intercourse stage, it is important to bring yourself to a heightened state of arousal and then let yourself down. This means, while you are making love, when the man feels his orgasm impending, he should stop, breathe, come down a bit, and then continue to pleasure his partner and himself. This not only builds a tremendous level of sexual tension, but it also develops self-control, heightens the emotional connection, and makes the final release ten times more intense.

Eventually, both partners will get to the point when they have to release. Since Tantric sex involves a total connection, as you are preparing to release your sexual tension, make sure to look deeply into your lover’s eyes, feel their breathing, and communicate your feelings. When a couple is connected in this way, the orgasm that comes will be totally engulfing. Orgasm does not mean that journey ends though. Take the time to connect with one another, and your own road to enlightenment will begin.

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20 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is very informative and helpful, particularly for my long distance lover and myself. We do not see each other often, so using these techniques with visual imaging results in some very intimate moments. Thank you~!

Anonymous said...

background is very distracting and makes the text difficult to read

Anonymous said...

We just had tantric sex and it was phenomenonal.

Anonymous said...

I just had tantric sex with myself and it wasn't half-bad. It was half phenomenal!

Anonymous said...

That is what you take from this amazing text! You ate plain rediculous.

This powerful read has bought new life into my life! Thanks!

'the background makes the text har to read' lol, moron. Open your eyes, let pleasure engulf you!

Laughable innitial comment.

Anonymous said...

I'm going to this out.

Anonymous said...

My husband and I have done this on a few occasions and it is truly refreshing and exhilerating! It almost as if our souls connect and extend into each other. No other way of having sexual intercourse can give you that, even if your intoxicated. It's mind blowing!

Anonymous said...

Someone needs to get on the ball annd monitoring these posts properly, removing the moronic comments left by some. They do nothing to enhnace the discussion and in fact, take away from the validity of the sight. Not impressed.

Jennifer Lawless said...

I am on the ball and do monitor the posts properly. No comment is posted without my approval. I do not post abusive or spam comments, but otherwise, I allow people their right to be morons. It's called free speech.

Anonymous said...

I love your brief description, I have met who I believe will be the love of my life, and I encouraged him to read up on the subject. He's been reviewing online info like this, and it has heightened both of our anticipation of joy and harmoneous times to come.

Anonymous said...

Very informative and quite encouraging for a beginner. I picked up a kama sutra book once and was completely overwhelmed; this discouraging further exploration of tantric sex. Thank you for re-opening the doors :)

Anonymous said...

is it better to not masturbate for a week or two before you try tantric sex with a partner?

Anonymous said...

jennifer lawless you are a beauty :)

Jennifer Lawless said...

Building up sexual tension is a good idea if your ejaculatory control is good. If you're prone to premature ejaculation when you're sexually excited, it isn't.

yadukrishnan said...

madam jenniffer , i had sexual intercourse with a number of women ,i can enjoy the preliminary stages like kissing , massaging etc. but in fact i cant really enjoy the intercourse . when i put my organ to theirs i cant feel anything.but in case of self masturbation i can hold it even for one hour,and i enjoy it very much. can you give me any methods for making my intercourse a big pleasure

Jennifer Lawless said...

You will need to stop masturbating. You have trained yourself only to respond to a grip tighter than any vagina is likely to be able to grip. Your nerves have been overstimulated, so now they can't respond to more subtle sensations.

Anonymous said...

Dear jen my man unfortunatley doesnt last too long (prem ejaculation) yet im really interested in tantra... Will any of this work for him??

Jennifer Lawless said...

It will if he is interested.

jwf2.tao said...

Enjoying your article (s) and related pages. I studied and have practiced since Tantra of the Taoist lineage. I studied with the partner of my qi gong master in Asheville, NC, who passed over several years ago. I now live in Hawaii, and due to some recent experiences have renewed interest in furthering my studies and learning to teach. A lot of the schools seem to have dubious reputations. Any suggestions? And finance is an issue. Thank you.

Jennifer Lawless said...

Tantra.com lists Tantra teachers by state and region.