When you experience, as I did, two or more of your male poly lovers simultaneous entering you in tantric oneness, you open your inner stargate, touch the face of God and remember your source. As you embrace two or even three magic wands, the lingams (as we call penises) with your most sensitive inner sensual shrines, you feel ecstasy, get total personal and transpersonal recall. You drop concepts of physics, science and religion and instead zoom, as your multidimensional self, through space and time. You and the beloveds entering you merge with divinity, source of all inchoate forms. Home, you experience everything everyone told you as illusion and, at the same time, truth. Read more
Tuesday, December 23, 2014
Tantra teacher Janet Kira Lessin reveals how double penetration can be a path to enlightenment.
Tuesday, December 16, 2014
According to Aly Walansky, yoga poses are not only good for health and fitness, but some can double as awesome sex positions.
Yoga is one of the best mind-body experiences you can give yourself. Naturally, it translates really well in the sack with your partner helping you build both intimacy—AND a better body.
So why don't we try some easy yoga moves that lend themselves perfectly to the bedroom? We love multi-tasking—and being creative.
From dead bug to child's pose, these moves are fun, exciting and yoga-instructor approved. And you don't have to be a total yogi to try these out either. Read more
Saturday, November 29, 2014
If you have a situation in your life that you can't seem to move on from, Yogi Bhajan said a certain mantra could open up the blockage.
One day Yogi Bhajan told his students, "Now suppose something happens in your life which you want to move and it's not moving. There is a block which you want to move, and it's not moveable. Then chant, ‘Aad Such, Jugaad Such, Hai Bhay Such, Nanak Hosee Bhay Such.' It's a lever. It is the biggest lever available to you among mantras.” Read more
Tuesday, November 18, 2014
The Kama Sutra isn't just a manual of sex positions. Among other things, it also explains how to seduce someone.
Most people think of the Kama Sutra as a guide of sexual positions, and although there is a portion that goes into great detail about sex positions, that's not all of the information it provides. The Kama Sutra also explains how to seduce someone and what a successful marriage looks like. Some of it is sound advice, but other parts of it are pretty wacky. We decided to gather 10 weird rules of seduction from the Kama Sutra.
Like most ancient texts there are different set rules for each gender. So let's start off with the weird seduction rules for men, according to the Kama Sutra: Read more
Thursday, November 13, 2014
Monica Loren guides readers through a Tantric meditation to reconnect with your partner and yourself.
This is a great meditation to help re-connect with your partner and yourself.
Set the Ambiance:
Get comfortable. Find a comfortable place to sit with cushions and blankets. Play ambient meditation music. Light candles.
Start of Meditation: Read more
Tuesday, October 14, 2014
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
Tuesday, September 23, 2014
Charles Muir and Leah Alchin explain their approach to sexual healing.
Sexual Healing, with Charles Muir & Leah Alchin, for "Like Wow" from Craig K. Comstock on Vimeo.
Sexual Healing, with Charles Muir & Leah Alchin, for "Like Wow" from Craig K. Comstock on Vimeo.
Saturday, September 6, 2014
A new study has found that expressing gratitude helps people create new relationships.
A new study from the University of New South Wales has found that expressing gratitude to new acquaintances will earn you friends. The study was put together to explore a theory that suggests that gratitude helps people create new relationships, build on the ones they already have, and help to maintain both. In an effort to test the “new relationships” aspect of that theory, researchers studied 70 university students who gave advice to younger peers. The students were told that they were mentoring high school students and critique their university admissions essays. Afterwards, the mentors received handwritten notes from their faux mentees, and only about half of those notes included an expression of thanks for assisting them with their essays. The mentors who were thanked were more likely to give the younger students their contact information and presumably continue the friendship. The mentors also reported warmer personalities when it came to the grateful mentees, and that warmth is probably why grateful people make lots of friends. Read more
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
Tuesday, August 19, 2014
Erwan Davon reveals the single biggest factor that determines the success of a romantic relationship.
What is the single biggest factor that determines the success of a romantic relationship? We all know that most romantic relationships don't last as long as they could. Most of us have done our share of dating, and there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, this can be fun, so long as this is what we want. But what about when we want a lasting relationship? When we want that special person to become a soulmate and partner? That's a different ball game -- the kind of relationship most of us want in the end. My wife Alicia and I call it the "Eternal Date" -- a relationship that reaches higher and higher peaks of intimacy and sexual attraction. A relationship with soul that also has the sexy! Read more
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
Saturday, August 9, 2014
New research suggests that your relationship may work better if you're not made for each other.
Time to change your Tinder profile: New research suggests that believing you and your significant other are soul mates can actually hurt your relationship, NYMag.com's Science of Us blog reports. The study, led by University of Toronto professor Spike W.S. Lee, found that the idea of being MFEO (or "made for each other," for those who haven't seen Sleepless in Seattle, which you should), leads to more dissatisfaction when conflict arises. Read more
Thursday, August 7, 2014
If you have heard of mantras in Tantra, but are not sure of what they are or why they are used, this brief introduction to the practice of Tantra mantras should clear things up.
Mantra means in Sanskrit language, 'liberation of the mind' referring to the techniques employed, known as Mantra Yoga. Mantra Yoga is according to the yoga tradition, a valid way to obtain liberation (Moksha) (see note 1). A widely accepted classification is to be of five kinds viz. Pinda, Kartari, Bija, Mantra and Mala. This classification takes into account the number of syllables, thus for the Bija Mantra there are three to nine syllables. Basically the tantric Mantras are Bija Mantras with some rare exceptions when the number of syllables could be more or less than the usual range. This article is mainly about Bija Mantras. Read more
Tuesday, August 5, 2014
This documentary film brings to convergence studies in sexology, physiology, and holistic female sexuality against the experiential backdrop of explosive female eroticism. Featuring Suzie Heumann, author and sex educator; and Jaiya, somatic sexologist and author.
Saturday, August 2, 2014
Patricia Monaghan reveals how to find and stick with a meditation practice that meets your needs.
In 1902, the great American philosopher William James published a seminal book, Varieties of Religious Experience. Not himself religious, he asked a number of people what they meant by “religion.” Perhaps not surprisingly, he found that this common word had many meanings, ranging from piety to mysticism to saintliness.
In the same way, the term “meditation” has many possible meanings, from a state of deep relaxation conducive to better physical health, to a spiritual union with something beyond the human — with dozens of possibilities between. Read more
Thursday, July 31, 2014
Svetlana Ivanova says that when vaginal penetration is deep, both men and women tend to enjoy sex more. She describes five great positions to get deep penetrations during intercourse.
When vaginal penetration is deep, both men and women tend to enjoy sex more. The feeling of longer, deeper strokes can be really exciting and pleasurable. There are many sex positions that you can try to get deeper penetration. These five great positions for deep penetration may be positions you are already using, just not to the extent needed to reach full penetration. Read more
Saturday, July 26, 2014
Shanie Mathews says that Tantra can help physical and psychological health, as well as sexual intimacy.
Imagine feeling completely satisfied with your sexual experiences. It is great to not feel rushed because of the kids or work because the ultimate bliss of an orgasm stays with you for longer than the few seconds after sex. Now imagine that transcending into all others facets of life. It is possible with the practice of Tantra.
Tantra is more than having sex for multiple hours or a man extending the time before ejaculation. It is a practice that helps physical and psychological health, as well as sexual intimacy. It is more about truly loving yourself and allowing that love to flow into the relationship with your partner and beyond. Read more
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Mandalas are symbols used in Tantra. Here is how to make your own erotic mandala.
Magic circles, or mandala, are symbols that form part of the knowledge you need to access the magic of eroticism. According to Tantric philosophy, once upon a time, the gods found an unnamed energy that vibrated in a perfect way between the heavens and the earth. They called it mandala, which means circle or circuit in Hindu.
The Tao mandala: Ying and Yang
Reading and studying have allowed us to reveal the millenary secrets of sexual magic. All the mysteries have been interpreted and explained in a practical manner, as exercises to be carried out in a certain amount of time and in a simple way, with the aim of heightening our level of sexual and spiritual consciousness through the different techniques. Read more
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Clinical psychologist Donna Rockwell, PsyD, lists six steps to enhancing your sex life.
A couple of years ago, I presented a paper on mindfulness in China, touring some of that country's major cities. I was reminded of being a young girl growing up in New Jersey, digging a hole in my backyard with a kitchen spoon all the way through the earth to China. That was how I imagined getting there. Though traveling on an airplane instead of by spoon, I finally did find my way there.
Interestingly, among the local people I met and spoke with, what was most discussed -- without me asking -- was the same theme I hear repeated in this country, a bemoaned lack of sex education available to young couples, who say they want to start their lives together in a more fully engaged way, built upon a strong, sustaining relationship throughout their lives. But in China, as in most countries around the world, what is reportedly missing from people's education and life skills training are the very tools that would be most helpful in figuring out how to live a more successful, meaningful and happy life. Read more
Saturday, July 19, 2014
Kelly McDonnell Arnold gives ten tips to increase eroticism and desire in your relationship.
Never in the mood? Faking it? or just doing "it" out of obligation? If this sounds familiar, here are some tips to get your groove back.
Never in the mood? Faking it? or just doing it out of obligation? If this sounds familiar, low desire may have entered your relationship. It is completely normal for desire discrepancy to occur between partners who are engaged in a long-term relationship. Just like every other enjoyable thing in life, sex takes time and effort, but the good news is that with some practice, you can absolutely get your groove back.
Here are 10 tips to cultivate eroticism and increase desire in your sex life. Read more
Thursday, July 17, 2014
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Victor Gold says the kind of sexual exchange that most men employ, friction sex, has uts shortcomings.
If you have paid careful attention, you may have noticed that ordinary friction sex, the kind of sexual exchange that most men employ, is characterized by a series of incessant, robotic, pelvic pumping actions combined with rapid breathing. There is no doubt that this is the fast and hard version of sex that has been glorified in pornography and elsewhere. Though it may generate delicious physical sensations and escalating excitement while it lasts (at least for the man), its usefulness in sexual intercourse must be tempered if sexual intimacy and heart-centered lovemaking becomes more of a priority. If not, as far as men are concerned, the physically taxing and athletic nature of this type of sex inevitably leads to increased muscular tension and male ejaculation followed by energy loss, fatigue and lower consciousness. This is essentially the familiar masculine (yang) version of lovemaking that we as a society have come to embrace. Read more
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Thursday, July 3, 2014
If you're feeling adventurous, here is a couple's guide to performing the five most dangerous positions.
Here is a couple's guide to 5 sex positions that will sooner lead to sprained muscles and torn ligaments than to orgasm. I mean what's more fun than adding some danger to sex...right? I'm not just talking about advanced sex positions.These sex moves are definitely not meant for drunk people, nor are they taught in sex books. Attempt these moves at your own risk. Feel free to use this on your next one night stand. Who knows, they might turn out to be marriage material. Read more
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
Saturday, June 28, 2014
These five sex position secrets will bring you closer to your partner and increase the intimacy in your relationship.
Do you want to explore new sex positions to improve your love life? If so, you are not alone. Many people think that new positions will rekindle the lost spark of intimacy and set their sex life on fire. If only it were as easy as switching positions!
The truth is that acrobatic sex positions won't improve your sex life if you don't also make an effort to increase the intimacy you are willing to share with your partner. If you are emotionally detached from one another, even swinging from the chandelier won't help. But if you want to improve your sex life and deepen your intimacy, trying new sex positions can help. Read more
Thursday, June 26, 2014
Orgasms are selfish experiences, says sexpert Tracey Cox, but there ARE ways to have yours together.
The myth of the simultaneous orgasm is still clutching onto the bed sheets tenaciously - and judging by the amount of couples on telly still moaning 'Yes! Yes! Yes!' in unison, it's going to hang on there for some time yet.
The reality is, you'd be hard pressed to find the same scene recreated in bedrooms at home because couples rarely climax together.
Let's take a look at the facts. Roughly 75% of men in relationships always have an orgasm with their partner, compared to 30% of women. Read more
Tuesday, June 24, 2014
Saturday, June 21, 2014
Too busy to meditate? Rhoda Jordan suggests five ways to sneak meditation into a busy day.
Isn’t it crazy how the busier our lives become, the more and more we need Meditation to anchor us, yet the less and less time we actually have to do it?!
That’s why I created the list below. So on those days where you really can’t find the time to meditate, you can use some of these tips to insert the act of Meditation during the things you normally do, like – Read more
Tuesday, June 17, 2014
Saturday, June 14, 2014
The simple act of breathing can help women orgasm, says Anna Breslaw.
Of all the things you need to remember when you're in the sack with a dude — Did I clean my toilet? Do I look hot? Am I making weird noises? Is this condom gonna break? Should I go back to grad school? Am I adopted? — you may not think breathing is one of them. However, apparently many of us are forgetting to breathe deeply during sex, and that's (forgive me) cockblocking us from our orgasm. Read more
Thursday, June 12, 2014
Tuesday, June 10, 2014
Saturday, June 7, 2014
The connection between sex and intimacy can be tenuous, says Jonathan Lenbuck. He explains how sex is different from intimacy.
Are sex and intimacy different things? Can you have one without the other? Or does one lead to another?
It seems that there are many conflicting opinions on the roles of sex and intimacy within a relationship (and out of one, too).
It is difficult to really get to the bottom of this problem because no two people have exactly the same ideas on sex. In a traditional framework, sex would come with long-term commitment, or marriage, which would be associated with the couple having an intimate connection with each other (and usually wishing to procreate).
However, in an increasingly promiscuous society, the connection between sex and intimacy can be a tenuous one. Read more
Thursday, June 5, 2014
In this video, Leora Lightwoman responds to a man who has contacted Diamond Light Tantra to ask for advice. He finds that he has trouble maintaining an erection during sex. Leora gives some valuable advice from a Tantric perspective
Tuesday, June 3, 2014
Saturday, May 31, 2014
Instead of waiting until they grow apart, these three Tantra techniques from Charles and Caroline Muir can help couples create lasting intimacy..
Each of us has days when we arrive home tired and cranky, wake up on the wrong side of bed, or get stuck in a conflict with our partner. Rather than waiting until you drift apart, couples can proactively build love by bonding twice a day through practices that Western Tantra teachers Charles and Caroline Muir call "10-Minute Connects." Here are three such techniques. Read more
Thursday, May 29, 2014
Thursday, May 22, 2014
Spending some time on the mat can improve the time you spend in the bedroom with your partner .
Has your love life gone from sizzle to fizzle? You don’t have to memorize the Kama Sutra to spice things up between the sheets. In fact, it’s the positions you assume outside the bedroom that could really heat things up. According to research in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, sexually dissatisfied women who took up yoga and practiced mindfulness techniques reported higher levels of arousal and desire, and better orgasms. To reap similar benefits, perform the 10 poses below at least three times a week, spending a minute or so in each position. If this is your first time practicing yoga, don’t worry; we’ve linked each pose to a video tutorial so you can learn them at your own pace. Read more
Thursday, May 1, 2014
These ten yoga poses are designed to take your sex life from good to better to best.
Forget whipped cream and sexy mix CDs — if you really want to spice things up between the sheets, try one of these yoga poses that increase flexibility, blood flow, stamina, relaxation, and all of those other factors that take sex from good to better to best night ever. Remember to breathe! Read more
Tuesday, April 29, 2014
Increase the pleasure of lovemaking by deepening the spiritual connection between you and your partner.
Sex is always fun and creates multiple physical benefits, such as increased circulation, circulation of happy and bonding hormones, and release of stress—just to mention a few.
However, when you add Tantric knowledge to sex, you can greatly increase the benefits and deepen the connection and the pleasure you experience in lovemaking by learning how to use the vibrant erotic energy to deepen the spiritual connection with each other. Some ways to do it are: Read more
Saturday, April 26, 2014
Do you still believe any of these ten myths about sexual pleasure?
Most of us don’t learn about sex and pleasure in any meaningful way. What we learn from our culture especially from pornography, the movies and magazines is limited, unrealistic and fundamentally flawed. Yet many believe this is how sex is and the messages filter into our sex lives from day one. When our sexual experiences don’t match up to this cultural fantasy, we blame ourselves or our partners; we’re/they’re not getting it right, there’s something wrong with us/them, we’re not good enough. I could go on. Read more
Saturday, April 12, 2014
This video shows Andrew Barnes opening a woman's sexual energy channels. This type of energy work enables women and men to connect to their bodies sexual energetic system and to let go of resistance to experience more bliss in their life.
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
How to Give a Tantric Lingam Massage tells how to give a Lingam massage if you have no previous experience performing this Tantric massage. For those who have, these ten strokes can add some variety to your practice.
Thursday, March 27, 2014
Sarina Stone teaches simple lifestyle changes to enhance or improve physical and mental well being. Subjects include, but are not limited to: Effects of the mind on the body,
Saturday, March 22, 2014
When it comes to sex, positions matter, says Kata Hakala.
You probably associate feng shui, the Chinese philosophy of harmonizing your own life with your surroundings, with that time in high school when your mom started frantically repositioning the La-Z-Boy sofa. But according to clinical sexologist and couples' therapist Dr. Kat Van Kirk, designing your bedroom so that it creates positive flows of energy (or "chi") can actually enliven your sex life. We've been hiding under several feet of snow, mothy sweaters, inches of leg hair, and dusty floors for many months now. Spring seems like the perfect opportunity to take on some feng shui practices and make our personal living spaces as sex-friendly as possible. Whether you believe in feng shui or not, most of Dr. Kat's tips will still make your bedroom a whole lot more inviting for an overnight guest. Read more
Saturday, March 15, 2014
Want to get to the bottom of your less-than-desirable sex life? Try writing down your feelings, says psychologist and author John M. Grohol.
... A client once said to me, "I'm nervous to talk with my wife about my sexual needs, because you are the only person who knows that part of my life." This statement struck me as wildly paradoxical. How could I, a person with whom my client has a strictly professional relationship, know more about his sexual life than the woman with whom he has sex? Read more
Thursday, March 6, 2014
If you haven't yet found your ideal lover, you may not be searching in the right way.
Love does not belong to anybody, it is divine. It comes from God and it is for God only, manifested in the Created Universe.
One of the most important aspects, if we want to find our ideal lover, the one to complete us and to make our heart happy and fulfilled, is the complete transformation of the negative mind patterns that we maintain.
All those who complain about not finding the right lover have a negative idea in their subconscious mind regarding the couple relationship. In most situations, it is a prior traumatizing experience. Look into yourself and realize that if you lack self-confidence, if you think you do not deserve it, that there is so much in you to transform, that now you have a difficult period, etc., this is the projection you emit mentally and you will receive an answer to this projection. Read more
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Thursday, February 27, 2014
Research has found that sex increases the production of neutrons in the brain.
Next time your other half says they’re not in the mood for a romantic interlude, try telling them that it could make them brainier.
Although it sounds like a clever ploy, psychologists say that making love can boost intelligence.
That’s in addition to previous research which shows that sex not only helps to decrease your stress levels but also burns up calories. Read more
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
If you dins ir difficult to sit in meditation, it could be because your body isn't prepared.
Stretches can help you prepare your body for meditation and strengthen your lower back so you can sit for extended periods and focus on your practice, pain-free. Here are three animal-inspired stretches to try: Read more
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
Although Tantra is well-known in the West nowadays, kunyara is a centuries-old sex tradition, you've probably never heard of.
For many North American men, female ejaculation is one of the mysteries of female sexuality. Its origins and triggers are contested among women and sexologists, so it’s not surprising that few men can comment on it with much confidence. That was certainly my experience — until I moved to Rwanda, a country where female ejaculation, or kunyara, as it’s known locally, is a matter of social import.
The tradition dates back more than a century, to the Third Dynasty of the Rwandan monarchy. The story goes that while the king was away on a military campaign, the queen demanded that a guard named Kamagere have sex with her. Kamagere acquiesced, but he was so nervous about the possible repercussions that his body trembled uncontrollably. His penis, instead of penetrating the queen, rubbed up and down against her labia and clitoris — a technique that became known as kunyaza. The torrent of liquid or “water” the motion provoked from the queen was called kunyara. Read more
Thursday, January 23, 2014
Ava Cadell describes six Tantra games you can play with your lover.
Tantra is a Sanskrit (ancient Hindu language) word that means to weave energy, specifically Yin (female) and Yang (male) energy, between two lovers. This energy includes our thoughts, feelings, physical, and sexual actions.
I’d like to welcome you to a unique journey of sensual and sexual exploration that will prepare you for the 5000 year old practice of Tantra. Tantra can improve intimate communication and enhance a relationship that has lost its sizzle and spice. Read more
Thursday, January 2, 2014
New research on fruit flies discovered some pretty surprising facts about the effect of sexual frustration.
Can’t get no satisfaction? The situation could be worse than you think. Sure, sexual frustration is … well, frustrating. But new research suggests it could also be bad for your physical health.
OK, granted the research was done with fruit flies — not exactly our closest animal counterparts. But the intriguing findings may pave the way for human studies on the subject. “It may not be a myth that sexual frustration is a health issue,” according to lead researcher and University of Michigan professor Scott D. Pletcher. Expecting sex and then not getting it was harmful to flies’ health and cut their lifespans short. Read more