A couple of years ago, I presented a paper on mindfulness in China, touring some of that country's major cities. I was reminded of being a young girl growing up in New Jersey, digging a hole in my backyard with a kitchen spoon all the way through the earth to China. That was how I imagined getting there. Though traveling on an airplane instead of by spoon, I finally did find my way there.
Interestingly, among the local people I met and spoke with, what was most discussed -- without me asking -- was the same theme I hear repeated in this country, a bemoaned lack of sex education available to young couples, who say they want to start their lives together in a more fully engaged way, built upon a strong, sustaining relationship throughout their lives. But in China, as in most countries around the world, what is reportedly missing from people's education and life skills training are the very tools that would be most helpful in figuring out how to live a more successful, meaningful and happy life. Read more
Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Clinical psychologist Donna Rockwell, PsyD, lists six steps to enhancing your sex life.
Saturday, July 19, 2014
Kelly McDonnell Arnold gives ten tips to increase eroticism and desire in your relationship.
Never in the mood? Faking it? or just doing "it" out of obligation? If this sounds familiar, here are some tips to get your groove back.
Never in the mood? Faking it? or just doing it out of obligation? If this sounds familiar, low desire may have entered your relationship. It is completely normal for desire discrepancy to occur between partners who are engaged in a long-term relationship. Just like every other enjoyable thing in life, sex takes time and effort, but the good news is that with some practice, you can absolutely get your groove back.
Here are 10 tips to cultivate eroticism and increase desire in your sex life. Read more
Thursday, July 17, 2014
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Victor Gold says the kind of sexual exchange that most men employ, friction sex, has uts shortcomings.
If you have paid careful attention, you may have noticed that ordinary friction sex, the kind of sexual exchange that most men employ, is characterized by a series of incessant, robotic, pelvic pumping actions combined with rapid breathing. There is no doubt that this is the fast and hard version of sex that has been glorified in pornography and elsewhere. Though it may generate delicious physical sensations and escalating excitement while it lasts (at least for the man), its usefulness in sexual intercourse must be tempered if sexual intimacy and heart-centered lovemaking becomes more of a priority. If not, as far as men are concerned, the physically taxing and athletic nature of this type of sex inevitably leads to increased muscular tension and male ejaculation followed by energy loss, fatigue and lower consciousness. This is essentially the familiar masculine (yang) version of lovemaking that we as a society have come to embrace. Read more
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Thursday, July 3, 2014
If you're feeling adventurous, here is a couple's guide to performing the five most dangerous positions.
Here is a couple's guide to 5 sex positions that will sooner lead to sprained muscles and torn ligaments than to orgasm. I mean what's more fun than adding some danger to sex...right? I'm not just talking about advanced sex positions.These sex moves are definitely not meant for drunk people, nor are they taught in sex books. Attempt these moves at your own risk. Feel free to use this on your next one night stand. Who knows, they might turn out to be marriage material. Read more