Tuesday, December 28, 2010

How Tantric Yoga Practices Enhance Potency and Bliss in the Body

Tantric educator Grace Rosen explains how Tantric yoga practices easily enhance potency and bliss in the body.
Question for Grace:
How do PC muscle pull ups help with ejaculation control or fitness?


WEBMD physician acknowledges that kegels for men may be beneficial for strengthening bladder control yet claims there is no evidence the kegel pull ups help with ED (erectile dysfunction) concerns.

Kegels are an inner exercise of engaging the web of 7 muscles I call the “lower bowl” of the body. This inner exercise is similar to a yogic banda or “energy lock” of the lower bowl of the body.

Tantric view is developing the agility and functioning of the lower bowl and the awareness of one’s levels or plateaus of arousal is a developmental milestone as important as the developmental milestone of anal sphincter awareness and consciousness of colonic peristalsis that enables us to have a bowl movement when nature calls. Read more

Thursday, December 23, 2010

How to Experience More Sexual Pleasure

Tantra teacher Tao Semko explains how to relax the pelvic floor in order to experience more sexual pleasure.
To relax into more pleasure, whether you're a man or a woman, start by relaxing the muscles of your pelvic floor. You'll benefit in the following ways:

1. you'll feel more varied and subtle levels of pleasure when you make love, moving through your genitals and then throughout your body.

2. if you're a woman, you'll feel pleasure more immediately and fully, allowing for rapid and multiple orgasms

3. if you're a man, you'll last much longer and become multiorgasmic

How to relax the pelvic floor: Read more

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Improve Your Body Image at the Naked Spa

The MamaSutra explains how a visit to the local spa helps improve your body image.
I went out to dinner last weekend for a girlfriend’s birthday. The party was made up of about 10 women; a few women that I already knew and a few that I hadn’t yet met. At the end of the table where I was sitting, we spoke a lot about my field of study… shocker! Basically, we talked about sex for most of the dinner.

(On a side note, it’s important for me to mention here that it does not matter who I tell what I’m doing with my life; everyone has a story that is important about sexuality and about what they’ve experienced in their life up to this point. For example, I’ve had conversations with my accountant talking about grandkids’ sexuality, with the online tech support person in India about societal differences in dealing with sexuality, and with my business banker talking about how early to start the conversations with children. One woman, who was a bit older than me, was told by her own mother that pregnancy was caused by kissing. She said she was so afraid to kiss her own father and brothers after that! As you can see, misinformation does not protect a child. But it can give them anxiety about something else.)

As the night went on and the group got smaller, we moved our chairs in closer and started visiting with people at the other end of the table. These were women I hadn’t met before and they were parents of kids at the birthday girl’s daughter’s elementary school. Our mutual girlfriend made the introductions and introduced me as The MamaSutra. One mom had a 12 year old daughter and we got started talking about the book “Queen Bees & Wannabes” by Rosalind Wiseman. We talked about “Girl World” and about girl’s self-confidence at that age. She said she was starting to be concerned with her daughter’s body image. I told her it might be an interesting exercise to go together to the Kabuki Spa (The Kabuki Spa is a spot in San Francisco, in Japantown to be specific, that has a communal bath. A few times a week they offer women-only days where use of the spa is clothing-optional). Read more

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Premature Ejaculation and Tantra

Premature ejaculation is a common malady among males and can be taken care of by following the principles of Tantra sex, says Madan Singh.
Recently a friend of mine confessed that he was on the verge of a breakup with his wife. On delving a little deeper in the matter, I learned that my friends problem was premature ejaculation. It appears that on making an entry and moving a couple of times excited him so much that he suffered a premature discharge.

Premature Ejaculation and Tantra

This is a problem not confined to my friend, but is prevalent among many males. There are many sex therapists in the market, who give varied advise, but one piece of advice that I learned from a swami is worth relating. Premature ejaculation can be attended to through the ancient art of Tantra. Read more

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Lube Makes Sex Better for Women

A scientific study has found that using sexual lubricants leads to greater sexual pleasure and satisfaction among women.
Most of us keep lube in that drawer of our nightstand. But do you only use it for certain acts, or when the oven isn't quite preheated (so to speak)? Or do you actually think of it as, uh, "fun"?

Nobody has really applied the scientific method to these pressing lube questions ... until now. After conducting a study of almost 2,500 women, researchers in Indiana have discovered one thing definitively: Water-based lubricant is good for you! GO SCIENCE! Read more

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Swami Rama: Tantra Kundalini Kriya Yoga Meditation

This video shows the beginning of the first of four lecturea by Swami Rama. The lectures contain practical advice on advanced meditation practices of Yoga, Vedanta, and Tantra.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Rajneesh and His Reinterpretation of Tantric Sex

Madan Singh says that Acharaya Rajneesh gave a new interpretation to Tantric sex that has survived him.
Acharya Rajneesh is one name that rouses diverse passions. Some consider him a charlatan, while others swear by him. What ever his faults the teachings of Rajneesh have survived him. I had an opportunity to visit his Ashram at Koregaon Park at Pune and came away greatly impressed. There is no doubt that he was a very brilliant man, who at one time had a vast following.

Rajneesh and his reinterpretation of Tantra Sex

Though Rajneesh is no more, yet his concept and re-interpretations of Tantra sex is worth more than a cursory study. He interpreted the ancient tantra sex as enjoined in the scriptures of Hinduism and gave it a new direction. Rajneesh had his faults, but his interpretation of the ancient Vedic age tantric sex rituals is without peer.

Hinduism has laid down many paths to attain Moksha (Salvation). Among the paths are meditation, prayer, knowledge, penance and the sex act. Hinduism considers the spermatozoa of a man as having the power to ignite Extra Sensory and similar powers. Rajneesh re-interpreted this theory as a means to eternal bliss. Read more

Saturday, December 4, 2010

3 Kama Sutra "Clasping Positions"

The "Clasping Positions" of the Kama Sutra are perfect for Tantric sex. They are very balanced and meditative since they don't allow for much movement. Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann explains how to do them.
In the "Clasping Positions" of the Kama Sutra, the woman and man maintain a straight-legged, rather rigid posture in respect to one another. The term "clasping" comes as the woman clasps or holds onto the man's Lingam (penis) with her tight Yoni (vaginal) muscles and thighs (practice your Kegel exercises!).

These positions, or Asanas (Sanskrit), don't allow for much movement. They can be, however, very balanced and meditative, focusing not so much on hard thrusting as on a more gentle movement. The couple is in this way able to be in a kind of prayer together, holding and channeling the energy.

The couple may lay in any of the following combinations: woman on back/man on top; man on back/woman on top; woman on stomach/man face down on top; side-by-side facing each other; side-by-side and back to front, as in spooning. These are excellent positions for older couples because they're generally very easy on the body. Read more

Thursday, December 2, 2010

The Secret to Tantric Sex

Cosmopolitan took the ancient teachings of Tantra and came up with its own version of Tantric sex: an updated, totally modern, four-step program for erotic enlightenment, including some new twists on classic Tantric moves.
Imagine: Your man strolls through your front door and announces, "Baby, forget Must-See TV. Tonight, I want to worship your body, massage you head to heel, make love to you on a higher spiritual plane, then provoke an out-of-this-world orgasm so you reach a whole new pleasure plateau."

Probably, you'd think either you were dreaming or your guy had temporarily lost touch with reality. Well, in the case of tantric sex, you'd essentially be right on both counts. Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion play to reach new levels of lusty satisfaction. "The idea is to build arousal very slowly so you both stay just below the boiling point for as long as possible," explains Nitya Lacroix, author of The Art of Tantric Sex. "That way you really focus on the full sexual journey — getting turned on, stimulating each of your five senses for maximum passion, harmonizing your sexual rhythms." The result is an out-of-body bond with your partner plus very physical ecstatic orgasms.

Inspired by the sexual success of these ancient love teachings (who wouldn't be?), Cosmo came up with its own turbo-charged version of tantra. Here, our updated, totally modern four-step passion program (plus twists on classic tantric moves) to tempt, tease, then thoroughly please. Grab your guy and get ready for a trip toward erotic enlightenment. Read more

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Tantric Sex Tips for Better Lovemaking

This short video about Tantric sex by Niyaso Carter gives you tips that you can use right away - tonight if you like.

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Intense Intimacy through Tantra

Tantric intimacy exercises can bring you even closer to your partner. They use the body as a conduit between the two of you, says Tantra Bensko.
Do you feel that you want to get even closer to your lover than you can get with skin to skin contact? Do you feel you want to merge so closely that you become unity itself? Do you want to experience his soul, feel his soul inside you? Dissolve the pain of separation, push up so close to his being that you are his being?

Tantric exercises let you do that. Tantra is about the unification of seeming duality by using the body as a conduit between the two.

A conduit between one and two: it's a strange concept. Read more

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Hindu Cosmology and the Cyclical Universe

Is modern science on the verge of confirming ancient wisdom? Hindu cosmology upholds the idea that creation is timeless, having no beginning in time. Each creation is preceded by dissolution and each dissolution is followed by creation. From Wikipedia:
According to Hindu Philosophy, the universe (or multiverse) never came to be at some particular point, but always has been, always will be, but is perpetually in flux. Space and time are of cyclical nature. This universe is simply the current one, which is in flux and constantly changing, when it finally ceases to manifest, a new one will arise.
Now a legendary physicist says he has found the first evidence of an eternal cyclical cosmos.
The current cosmological consensus is that the universe began 13.7 billion years ago with the Big Bang. But a legendary physicist says he's found the first evidence of an eternal, cyclic cosmos.

The Big Bang model holds that everything that now comprises the universe was once concentrated in a single point of near-infinite density. Before this singularity exploded and the universe began, there was absolutely nothing - indeed, it's not clear whether one can even use the term "before" in reference to a pre-Big-Bang cosmos, as time itself may not have existed yet. In the current model, the universe began with the Big Bang, underwent cosmic inflation for a fraction of a second, then settled into the much more gradual expansion that is still going on, and likely will end with the universe as an infinitely expanded, featureless cosmos. Read more
The ancient wisdom of Tantra may not yet be entirely accepted by science either, but it may be just a matter of time.

Saturday, November 20, 2010

What Is Higher Tantra?

What is higher Tantra? Is is "better" than lower Tantra? Not exactly, says Tantra teacher Tao Semko.
Among the arbitrary distinctions between tantric practices made by tantric scholars are classifications of "Lower" and "Higher" Tantra.
More on Lower Tantra may be found here.

Higher Tantra is made up of the practices which re-link you directly with the divine - the divine within you, the divine within the manifested universe, and finally the ineffable Absolute. Read more

Thursday, November 18, 2010

The Benefits of Tantra and Sacred Sexuality

Does Tantric sex have any benefit beyond sexual pleasure? Robert Frey says it does.
Having taught a blend of traditional and modern Western Tantra for nearly twenty years, I am well aware of the many benefits available to its students and practitioners. From my experience and perspective it is much more than a non-essential luxury item. In response to common curiosity about Tantra, here then is an overview of some of its most notable benefits.
  • Tantra, the ancient sacred approach to sexuality, has much to offer modern men and women. Tantric teachings are both a spiritual approach to sexuality and a sexual/sensual approach to spirituality. As such we can learn to use our natural sexual energy to enliven and heighten our spiritual awareness. Also Tantra offers a well-developed spiritual orientation to sex­uality that is based on respect, honoring, openness, and love.
  • Tantra offers easy, effective, reliable methods for medi­tat­ing, quieting the mind, and reaching positive states of consciousness. These methods often work well for Westerners who either haven't been able to learn to meditate or who are beginners. Tantric meditations utilizing breathing, undulation, and energy awareness, especially when coupled with sensual or sexual arousal, have been measured to consistently pro­duce alpha and theta brain wave shifts more significantly and rapidly than any other traditional or non-technological tech­nique. Read more

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Tantric Uses of Sex

Tantric sex is not primarily about pleasure and orgasm. Tantra uses sex as a way to explode yourself into a new being, says Tantra Bensko.
Since ancient times, Tantric sex has been used as an incredibly powerful tool for the complete transformation of both the psyche and body. It is a pleasurable and evolutionary method of masturbation and exchange of sexual energies between people, with or without engaging in intercourse. Our bodies have been designed with special pathways of electromagnetic energies through which sexual energies can be directed.

Sacred sexual practices are very specific and elaborate and have been passed down through the generations, sometimes so secretly they are forbidden to be written. Secret societies use Tantra in their upper echelons. These societies know how the procedures work, though they may miss some of the more loving aspects of Tantra. Read more

Saturday, November 13, 2010

What Is Lower Tantra?

You may have come across the terms "lower Tantra" and "higher Tantra." A lot of students hear "higher" and think "better." So, why not just skip the lower Tantras and jump right to the higher Tantras if they deal more directly with the Divine? Tantra teacher Tao Semko explains what lower Tantra is.
Lower tantra: Transformative practices which integrate your physical and energetic bodies. These include hatha yoga, "tantric sex," kriya yoga, laya yoga, tibetan trul khor, taoist and buddhist qigong, and more.

Each of those practices includes relaxed controlled breathing, postures, physical sensitivity practices, internal muscle contractions, sexual techniques, mental and emotional attitudes, and awareness of the subtle anatomy (energy centers, channels, and vital breath). They are designed to increase your awareness of your subtle energy body, to teach you to manipulate, balance, and amplify the subtle energy in the body, and to safely "arouse kundalini sakti."

Skeptical? In biological terms, you are learning to rejuvenate and reactivate your endocrine glands and central nervous system, increasing nerve "links" between the brain and the rest of the central nervous system. In the process you gain relaxed control over your "involuntary" bodily systems, and can attain and maintain a relaxed, focused mind. Read more

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Tantric Yoga: Fire and Water Shaking

Shaking is a very powerful Tantric yoga practice, and this variation focuses on coupling the yin and yang, fire and water aspects of awareness.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

How to Have Slower, More Sensual Sex

Why slowing down in bed could help your sex life.
If you want to make sex a more sensual experience, slow down. Take your time. Banning the quickie from your sex life will have a startling and sensual effect, taking your lovemaking to the next level.

Slow sex isn't about endurance, marathon sessions or complicated positions. It's about really being there in the moment, enjoying one another fully. It's about taking the time to touch and to kiss. The point isn't just to have sex, but rather to feel real sensual joy. Read more

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Nude Yoga: A Step Too Far?

Some yoga traditionalists do not approve of the nude trend in yoga, claiming that it's crass commercialization.
American yoga practitioners are abuzz with a new controversy rocking their once boutique but now rapidly commercialising industry: magazine advertising and public yoga classes featuring unabashed nudity. The controversy pits seasoned yoga teachers and other spiritual purists, who abhor the growing trend, against a new generation of aggressive yoga "entrepreneurs", anxious to promote the ancient Hindu practice as America's premier "wellness" lifestyle – even if it means exploiting, as critics maintain, the female "beauty myth" and embracing a "sex-sells" marketing strategy. Read more

Saturday, October 30, 2010

Divine Union in Tantric Relationship

Tantra teacher Lokita Carter discusses how Tantric relationships can be a path to ecstatic living.
In the bedroom, most of us have (some more, some less) experienced the great moments when time and space disappear, and merely the togetherness of two lovers remains. At the moment of merging the bodies and souls together into the orgasmic flow, our gates open to a new dimension and we reach a state of altered consciousness. For me and my partner, this is a spiritual experience. Thus I have found Tantra with my partner to be the easiest, the hardest and most sacred form of spiritual practice. Ultimately, Tantric practices give me the opportunity for more love, better sex and practical spirituality.

Tantra mythology suggests that union is achieved by merging our male and female principles—pure consciousness and pure energy. Energy is represented by the female divine power, Shakti. Consciousness is represented by the male divine power, Shiva. In the ancient myth of India, the marriage of Shiva and Shakti is considered to be Divine Union, a fundamental concept of Tantra. Read more

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Awakening Tantra Energy with Your Lover

"Awakening Tantra Energy with Your Lover" shows you a simple practice for moving sexual energy throughout your body. Presented by Pala Copeland and Al Link of 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Kama Sutra Updated

A new version of the Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian book long seen as the ultimate sex guide, will be published as a "lifestyle guide for the modern man and woman."
For years it has been seen as the ultimate sex guide – the first point of reference for young men eager to learn about the art of adventurous lovemaking.

But now, the Kama Sutra is to be updated in a new version, presented as a "lifestyle guide for the modern man and woman".

Gone are the erotic drawings and sexual illustrations that have accompanied various translations of the ancient Hindu text.

Instead, the new edition, to be published by Penguin, will be a text-only pocket-sized handbook, described as a "classy" manual "covering every aspect of love and relationships". Read more

Saturday, October 23, 2010

8 Secrets to Great Sex

A new study confirms what Tantra has always taught: that the real secrets to great sex are emotional connection between partners, communication, and focus.
Forget Viagra, sex toys or master Kama Sutra-style sexual gymnastics, the key ingredients to a great sex are all in your mind, according to recent study.

Contrary to the pop culture notion that hot looks and masterful technique are what that matter, a recent research in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality found that the real essentials are emotional connection between partners, communication and focus.

The study, conducted on namely married couples over the age 60, also found that the best sex comes with relationships as they become more mature, reports Fox News.

The key ingredients to rock star sex are:

1. Being present, focused and embodied
More than any other factor is the need for lovers to be completely absorbed in the moment, feeling completely merged in one another. Read more

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Slow Down for Hot Sex

When you feel a strong connection with someone, it's tempting to just go at it, but taking taking things slowly will lead to a more explosive orgasm when you finally do peak, says certified sexuality educator Logan Levkoff..
When you feel a strong sexual connection with someone, it's tempting to tear off his clothes and go at it. But taking time to savor the experience has a big pleasure payoff. "When you engage your body and mind in bed, you'll feel more relaxed, connected to your partner, and aroused—all of which result in better sex," says Logan Levkoff, Ph.D., a certified sexuality educator. "Plus, taking things slowly will stave off your orgasm so that when you finally do peak, it will feel more explosive." Here, tips that will help you extend the act. Read more

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Love, the Ultimate Painkiller

Researchers say just a photo of one's beloved activates the brain's reward centers something like a drug might. Learning how to harness this could help relieve pain without drug-induced side effects, scientists suggest.
Sooner or later, love usually ends up hurting. But in its early, blissful throes, it actually lessens pain — at least of the physical kind. That's the finding, reported Wednesday, of a study by pain scientists and a psychologist who studies love.

The study, published online in the journal PLoS ONE, sprang from a meeting of minds between Arthur Aron of State University of New York at Stony Brook, a longtime researcher of the science of love, and Dr. Sean Mackey, a pain scientist at Stanford University. The two shared a hotel room while attending a neuroscience conference a few years back. Their epiphany came one evening over drinks.

"I'd had a couple glasses of Zinfandel and was chatting about pain and the brain systems involved … and he was chatting about love and the brain systems involved," Mackey said. "And we realized, you know, they could be influencing each other." Read more

Saturday, October 16, 2010

The Secret of Shiva and Shakti

There is one energy that keeps taking on new names and forms. In Tantra the name of that energy is Shakti, the feminine force, which is actually one and the same as its only apparent companion Shiva, the masculine force.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Karezza Lovemaking for Singles

Marnia Robinson relates how a 28-year-old single woman practices karezza, making love without the goal of orgasm,
"I like the idea of karezza (making love without the goal of orgasm)," explained a 28-year old friend, "but I'm not married yet ... and I'm certainly not going to live without sex!" I asked her how she proposed to explain the concept to her 20-something peers, and she said she already had--quite successfully. Here's Joni Renee's account: Read more

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Foreplay the Yin Way

Tantra teacher Pam Babbitt explains how you and your partner can use foreplay the Yin way to harmonize and balance your energy systems so that they open the door for incredible bliss.
There is a belief in many Eastern cultures that male and female energies run opposite each other. According to the Taoists energy system, yang is the masculine or active energy and yin is the female or receptive energy. The male pulls his sexual and life energy (yang) up from his feet, through his genitals and into his heart, whereas the woman’s energy (yin) starts from the top of her head, through her heart and then into her genitals. The result of these opposing energy systems is – the woman needs a heart connection before she desires sex and the man needs sex before he can feel a heart connection. Are you ready to allow your energy systems to harmonize and balance as they open the door for incredible bliss?

Another perspective on yin-yang energy is viewing it as the union of opposites. No biological system is entirely yin or yang and no person is entirely masculine or feminine. Following this concept, your yin-yang relationship will be influenced by your chosen techniques and sexual positions used in your dance of energies. This is not a “War of the Sexes,” but rather an opportunity for you and your partner to expand and become more balanced energetically as you both embrace your yin and yang. A sensual bath or water ritual can be very relaxing. Hair brushing, foot massage, poetry reading, chanting or partner yoga are other calming ways to start your sensual-spiritual connection.. Read more

Saturday, October 9, 2010

Tantra for Security and Prosperity

Umaa Tantra teacher Tao Semko explains why so many self-proclaimed "yoga practitioners," "meditators," and "new-age tantrics" are unappealingly unhealthy and unable able to hold down a job, maintain real relationships, or create a prosperous life for themselves and their loved ones, and how Tantric technqiues can be used for security and prosperity.
Have you ever wondered why so many self-proclaimed "yoga practitioners," "meditators," and "new-age tantrics" are unappealingly unhealthy and spaced-out? Or why these people who live a supposedly healthy, "spiritual" lifestyle, often feel insecure and seem disconnected from their family and fellow human beings? Sometimes they're unable able to hold down a job, maintain real relationships, much less create a prosperous life for themselves and their loved ones... Read more

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Two Sex Positions for Ejaculatory Control

Tantric sex includes ejaculation control. This is an essential skill to master so that during lovemaking, instead of ejaculating at the first peak of energy which a lot of men do, they can learn instead to peak with that energy and use techniques to spread that energy throughout the entire body. Svetlana Ivanova says two sex positions make ejaculatory control easier.
Premature ejaculation is a condition in which a man ejaculates earlier than he or his partner would like him to. There are numerous reasons why a man ejaculates too quickly. Some are stress-related, some are mental, and some can be physical. When there is to much friction, or continual thrusting, or a great deal of mutual movement, a man’s ejaculation can be too quick, for both partners. To delay premature ejaculation, a man needs to avoid some sexual positions completely. Furthermore, there are two sex position that can be used that are guaranteed to avoid premature ejaculation. Read more

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

Can Sex Lead to Enlightenment?

What are the Tantric and Buddhist views on the connection between sex and enlightenment? Can sex lead to enlightenment?
Tantra, which originated in post-vedic India, may be defined as a form of yoga that teaches the attainment of spiritual ecstasy via esoteric and erotic techniques. One of its goals is to further spiritual evolution through sexual energy.

The practice of tantric sex has been growing in the West. This is often referred to as pop tantra because it is bereft of the other more important aspects of the practice. Many are attempting to attain enlightenment through this ancient practice. But the majority are interested in either enhancing sexual pleasure or creating "spiritual bonds" with their lovers. Read more

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Foreplay the Yang Way

Tantra teacher Pam Babbitt explains how you and your partner can use foreplay the Yang way to harmonize and balance your energy systems so that they open the door for incredible bliss.
Yin and Yang
There is a belief in many Eastern cultures that male and female energies run opposite each other. According to the Taoists energy system, yang is the masculine or active energy and yin is the female or receptive energy. The male pulls his sexual and life energy (yang) up from his feet, through his genitals and into his heart, whereas the woman’s energy (yin) starts from the top of her head, through her heart and then into her genitals. The result of these opposing energy systems is – the woman needs a heart connection before she desires sex and the man needs sex before he can feel a heart connection. Are you ready to allow your energy systems to harmonize and balance as they open the door for incredible bliss?

Another perspective on yin-yang energy is viewing it as the union of opposites. No biological system is entirely yin or yang and no person is entirely masculine or feminine. Following this concept, your yin-yang relationship will be influenced by your chosen techniques and sexual positions used in your dance of energies. This is not a “War of the Sexes,” but rather an opportunity for you and your partner to expand and become more balanced energetically as you both embrace your yin and yang. Read more

Thursday, September 30, 2010

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Taste a Tantra Puja in Seven Minutes

Kamala Devi shares a video of the puja conducted by her mentor Francoise at Tantra Palooza.
This is a monumental moment for me. This video is my imperfect attempt to share a sacred ritual that is the foundation of my spiritual path: My mentor and friend, Francoise facilitated this puja to about 60 people at the opening ceremony of Tantra Palooza last year.
I wrestled with my demons about whether or not to "put it out there," but decided I am willing to be judged, misunderstood and even misrepresented in the name of education and enlightenment. Read more

Saturday, September 25, 2010

The Joy of Spiritual Sex

The joy of spiritual sex is about more than going Tantric, says Hannah Borno. Being open to transcendent experiences can help us reach our sexual potential.
Jenna and her husband Mike had sex last Saturday morning. Nothing remarkable about that, but something happened to Jenna that she’d never experienced before. ‘Something clicked and I completely lost my sense of self,’ she says. ‘It’s hard to explain. It was as though I was transported outside my body and I lost myself, but simultaneously discovered something far bigger. I didn’t have any sense of “me” at all. Afterwards, I remember lying in Mike’s arms, tears running down my cheeks, suffused with a feeling of love for him and for everything. I don’t think I’ve ever had such an intense emotional experience, and it left me feeling incredibly centred, positive and strong.’ Read more

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Methods of Oral Sex in the Kama Sutra

The Kama Sutra is famous for its descriptions of acrobatic sex positions, but the Kama Sutra also explains how to perform oral sex. Dane Stanton describes the methods of oral sex in the Kama Sutra
Vatsyayana was a wise man who recognized the sometimes necessary desire for discretion. He knew very well that a sudden outbreak of unexpected pregnancies in the kings harem or of another fellows wife might have some rather serious consequences but as the saying goes "It is better to be a live dog than a dead lion," and sometimes temptation is just a bit too much.

As the Kama Sutra stated of these clandestine sexual relationships, "No place is as poorly guarded as a harem. And no women more accessible than the king's wives. A determined young man only has to choose how to achieve his ends.

Hidden inside a barrel or disguised as a maidservant, he will easily deceive the casual sentinels and the overworked stewards. He can also try to make himself invisible by using an appropriate potion. But the result is uncertain. The king's wives like to play games with strangers that are forbidden with their husband. The young man and the noble lady are lying against each other, head to tail.

He explores her yoni while her pretty mouth gobbles up his lingam greedily. It is Kalila the crow, the posture of slaves and maidservants, that queens are so fond of." Vatsyayana went on to describe the steps and variations of oral sex in hopes that his pupils might live to enjoy another day. Read more

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Touching Can Save Lives

Touch is not only pleasurable, but healing. Suzie Heumann explains how touching can save lives.
I'm a sensual kind of person. My body informs me. As a species, we humans have generally forgotten to pay attention to the information our bodies are revealing to us. We're a thinking species and by being thus we think ourselves through situations rather than feeling through situations. This leads to a systematic demise of our abilities to recognize bodily functions that can lead us to healing modalities we used to know about back when our brains weren't so big.

Scientists, with the aid of new tools and resources, are leading us back to an understanding that will help us reincorporate this deep and ancient knowledge. For instance, recent studies have revealed an incredible healing facet through touch. These studies have come about through the curious representation of whiskers and the understanding that some parts of our bodies take up larger areas of our brain matter than other areas do. Remember the homunculus? This is that odd looking little "man" that is superimposed over the brain with big hands, lips, genitals, feet, head and other features that are out of proportion to the rest of his body. He is a representation of our brain parts and an illustration of how they are mapped on our brain. Some parts have much more sensory input than other parts hence the bigger representation on the homunculus.
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Saturday, September 18, 2010

Deep Anal Pleasure: From Anal Massage to Anal Sex Orgasms

For many people, anal sex is the ultimate taboo. Many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious. Some people love anal sex. Others hate it. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious.

Sex with Jaiya talks about deep anal pleasure, from anal massage to anal sex orgasms. What are the secrets to the P-Spot? What are some of the benefits of anal lovemaking? What makes analingus great? If you're interested in exploring anal sex listen in as Jaiya and co-host D. Love share the secrets to success. Listen now

Thursday, September 16, 2010

Prevent Premature Ejaculation: A Simple Exercise to Last Longer in Bed

Sex therapist Mukee Okan gives men a simple exercise to prolong sex and increase sexual stamina.
Sometimes overcoming premature ejaculation is a matter of learning effective relaxa­tion techniques and bringing more awareness into your sexual experiences. Inter­estingly, this idea contradicts a lot of prevailing wisdom around 'numbing' sexual sen­sations and distracting oneself from the experi­ence.

I want to share a very simple exercise to increase what I call your "cock awareness". Read more

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Om Namah Shivaya Gurave Mantra

OM Namah Shivaya Gurave - "I bow to the goodness within myself, known as Lord Shiva, who is the true teacher..." - begins a chant that yogis and meditation practitioners from all over the globe sing as a prayer to invoke grace and blessings on their practices.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Finding the Clitoris: Inside and Out

Tantra teacher Jaiya provides two newlyweds a guide to finding the clitoris.
... When it comes to the clitoris, we are really in the dark. For example, many people have no idea that the clitoris has two legs that extend into the body. There are parts that you can find externally and parts that you can find internally. Many of women’s most pleasurable parts have been left out of anatomy books. Even my book doesn’t have the whole picture, and the illustrators kept illustrating things in the wrong place. It was quite a feat just to get what we got into the book. I am glad that more attention is starting to be placed on the subject of anatomy, especially when it comes to the clitoris. Read more

Thursday, September 9, 2010

A Visit to a Tantric Sex Therapist

Lucy Cavendish visits a Tantric sex therapist to see if he could really rekindle her middle-aged libido.
As I arrive outside Mike Lousada's house in North London, I am so nervous I am almost tempted to walk straight past, cancel my appointment and forget I'd ever heard his name.

This is hardly surprising because, though I have never met him before, I have come to him to rediscover my libido. Mike is a tantric sex therapist. He charges £95 a time to help women reach heights of ecstasy they never imagined existed.

His methods involve conversation, meditation and - ahem! - sensual massage, which can (if the client requests it) become rather startlingly intimate. It sounds, if not sleazy, then somewhat suspect. After all, what sort of woman would pay a stranger to rekindle her sex drive? Read more

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Trataka Gazing with So Ham Mantra

Trataka is gazing and is a traditional meditation practice of Yoga and Tantra. So Ham (or So Hum) is a Universal Mantra, as it relates to the breath, and everybody breaths. So Ham is a Sanskrit word that means I am that, or I am that I am.

Inhale with the sound So, and exhale with the sound Hum. Allow the sounds to silently repeat in your mind, without speaking them aloud. There are a total of 40 So Hum and breath repetitions The speed of one repetition is 9 seconds per breath, which is 6 2/3 breaths per minute. This rate is ideal for relaxing the autonomic nervous system, and also preparing for deep meditation. Breathe with your diaphragm, while gazing at the center, silently remembering So with inhalation and Hum with exhalation.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Full Body and Multiple Orgasm with Tantra

Steve and Lokita Carter explain how Tantric lovemaking can lead to full body and multiple orgasms in women and men.
Does Tantra help to achieve a full body orgasm? Can both men and women enjoy multiple orgasms? Does tantric lovemaking last long­er? These questions are asked often by individuals who are start­ing on the tantric path, and they have as many answers as there are people asking it.


In ordinary lovemaking, the feelings, attention, and energy are fo­cused mainly in one area: the genitals. The sensations in our geni­tals are delightful, however, by being focused on “down there” there is a goal and when that goal is realized, this particular sexual episode is over.

In tantric lovemaking, movement, breath, sound and presence are the keys to expand our ecstatic energy and spread it throughout the whole body. Using these keys allows the expansion of bliss and ecstasy rather than release of energy. This is what we call "orgas­mic bliss". Read more

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

3 Big Tantric Secrets

Tao Semko says his traditional e-mail sign-off, "Keep your tongue up," refers to three big Tantric secrets.
My traditional email sign-off refers to three yogic meditation secrets, which among those taught at the very beginning of all our courses:

1) The inner, or secret smile.

2) The complete, healthy, or baby's breath

3) Nabho Mudra and Kechari Mudra, performed with the tongue. Read more

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Is It the Penis Length or the Thickness?

Men describe their penis size in terms of length, but it's girth that gives women the feeling of fullness.
Q: Dear Dr. Patti,
What is more important for the woman: The length or thickness of a man’s penis? - Curious Shortie

A: Dear Curious Shortie,
Science tells us that the average length of an erect human penis is 5.5-6 inches; and the thickness, or girth, is about 4” around.

Most women report that although length can be an issue (either too short or too long), the girth is what matters most. Read more

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

How to Find a Spiritual Teacher

Mariana Caplan, author of When the Student Is Ready: The Perils and Rewards of Choosing a Spiritual Teacher, lists the criteria for a prospective spiritual teacher and the criteria for a prospective spiritual student.
Rarely does a week of my life go by, without someone writing to me either looking for a spiritual teacher, confused about a spiritual teacher, or upset by a deep disillusionment by their spiritual teacher. The question of the spiritual teacher is a perennial question that in many ways is so less real and relevant among seekers as it was 500 years ago. The difference is that the stage is different. Unlike the great Buddhist hero Milarepa who transversed the Indo-Tibetan subcontinent by foot and then built nine houses before his teacher would begin to instruct him, we can simply click on google and within minutes have access to almost every prominent spiritual teacher there is, living or dead, and likely even some type of cyber-transmission. Read more

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Tantric Sex Positions for Intimacy and Ecstasy

Tantra teacher Lokita Carter answers a reader's questions about Tantric sex positions: "What are they? How are they different from the usual sex positions? Can you explain how to do some?"
Q: I keep hearing about tantric sex positions and how sensational they are. What are they? How are they different from the usual sex positions? Can you explain how to do some? (My partner and I are not limber enough to do those Kama Sutra pretzel-y ones.) John, Princeton, NJ

A: Dear John,
You don’t have to be a yogi in order to experience sensa­tional tantric sex! Any body posture that feels good and com­fortable to both of you and gets your sexual energy flowing is a tantric sex position. One of the ideas in tantric sex is “to stay re­laxed in high states of arousal”. How can you be relaxed when you are uncomfortable?

The Keys to Sensational Tantric Sex
Tantric sex is all about intention, attitude and being present. In Tantra, all techniques lead us to the point where our own personal spring merges with the ocean of great bliss, and where we relax into being rather than doing. At that point we become one with our partner, and the Divine Mystery, and there is true communion. Read more

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

The 4 Myths about Meditation

If you resist meditation, you may be buying into one of four common myths about it, says Ronald Alexander.
The majority of my clients resist mindfulness meditation at first, although the time commitment is small and the payoff is enormous. One insisted that it wasn't necessary and that she didn't have enough time in her day to devote to a regular practice. Then she went through the loss of a parent, and had such trouble coping that she couldn't even drag herself out of bed. After missing work 10 days straight, she called me for my advice. I told her to mindfully meditate while in bed. Terrified and bewildered, my client did and, in a few days, found that she could face going to work again. After that, whenever she was in an overwhelming state of grief or so distracted that she couldn't focus, she would close her door, tell her assistant to hold all her calls and do a five minute meditation. Slowly, her grief lessened.

Typically, those who resist meditation are buying in to one of the following four common myths from my book, "Wise Mind, Open Mind" that create resistance to regular mindfulness meditation practice. Read more

Saturday, August 14, 2010

What Happens in a Tantric Coaching Session?

What happens in a Tantric coaching session? This video describes the benefits of a coaching session led by Tantra teacher Crystal Dawn Morris.

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Good Breathing Equals Great Sex

Tantra teacher Pam Babbitt describes two Tantric breathing techniques to promote a better sex life.
Good breathing can promote a better sex life. Sound outrageous? Too simple? The truth is it’s outrageously simple. Breath is the ultimate catalyst for sexual pleasure. It is the bridge between mind and body, and focusing on it can anchor us to the present. It unhooks us from all those thoughts cursing through our brains and connects us with our essential life energy (prana, chi, ki). Breath­ing creates receptivity in our body and an intimate connection with our partner. Are you breathing? Read more

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Saturday, August 7, 2010

Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras and the 8 Limbs of Yoga

Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras is a book that covers many aspects of life, beginning with a code of conduct and ending with the goal of yoga, a vision of one’s true Self.  The Yoga Sutras is probably the most authoritative text on yoga.  It defines yoga as a focusing of the attention to whatever object is being contemplated to the exclusion of all others.  Yoga isn’t only about postures or meditation. It is a way of life.  In this influential scripture, there are eight steps to enlightenment through yoga.  These eight astanga or limbs of yoga are yamas, niyamas, asanas, pranayama, pratyahara, dharana, dhyana, and samadhi. 

The yamas consist of lessons in moral and social conduct in our environment. It teaches us to restrain from lying, stealing, and greed.  Non-violence and consideration toward all living things is the key.  Communication with sensitivity towards others and moderation in all things we do is revered.

The niyama focuses on attitudes towards ourselves: compromising, cleanliness, serenity, devotion, and asceticism. One should study and give reverence to a higher intelligence.  There is an acceptance of our limitations in relation to God.  It is key to have removed the impurities from the mind and body.

In the asanas, one focuses on posture practice, positioning the body while incorporating the breath to achieve a greater awareness in the mind. One is alert and relaxed without tension, while observing the reactions of the body and breath to various postures.  This minimizes the effect of the external influences on the body, such as diet and climate.

Pranayama is the restraint and control of the breath. Pranayama helps with concentration and energizing and balancing of the mind and body. 

Pratyahara is the relaxation of the senses, where no distractions actually activate the mind.

Dharana, or concentration, is the ability to direct the mind toward a chosen object and focus in on it alone.

Dhyana, or meditation, is the ability to develop focused interactions with what we seek to understand.

Lastly, but most importantly, Samadhi is the ultimate state of self-realization, or union with the Source.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Play the Tantra Sex Pleasure Game

For a fun and effective way to rekindle the passion and romance in your relationship, play the Tantra sex pleasure game, says Tantra teacher Crystal Dawn Morris.
At the beginning of a relationship sex is often spontaneous, intense and erotic. This phenomenon is called the 'Honeymoon phase.' It is when the 'New Relationship Energy' or NRE, makes everything exciting. Over time the NRE naturally fades, ro­mance dwindles, passion begins to wane and sex often becomes routine.

The Pleasure Game is a fun and effective way to rekindle the passion and romance in your relationship. Read more

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Getting in Touch with Your Chakras

Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann gives a simple technique for getting in touch with your chakras.
I think about my charkas all of the time. They’re kind of ingrained in my mind. I have a relationship with my charkas. They inform me about how I’m doing, what I might want to shift about what I’m doing, how to perfect a certain posture or attitude, when to connect my heart with my powerful drive and more things like that. By using the understanding I have of my chakras in these ways I can promote my own better wellbeing.

One of the best ways I get in touch with my charkas is to sit and breathe from the base of my spine up to my crown, following my spine all the way up with my mind and breath. Read more

Saturday, July 31, 2010

Touch His Perineum to Enhance His Climax

The perineum is the area of skin rich in nerve endings that is located below the anus. Because the perineum is so rich in nerve endings, it often feels pleasing to have it touched or stroked. Jessica Perez tells how to touch your man's perineum to enhance his climax.
The perineum is one of the most sensual sex zones of the human anatomy. It is the bit of skin between the anus and sex organs. It is a hot spot for sexual sensations for both males and females, so you had better learn more about it if you want to learn the best way to please your man.

Slight stroking of the perineum area can stimulate your man even if you have not touched his member yet. This area is so rich in nerve endings that simply stroking it rhythmically to complement a blowjob can make a man climax in minutes. Read more

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Deep Connection Really Does Lead to Mind Meld

The Vulcan mind meld was a telepathic link between two individuals, allowing the participants to become one mind. Tantric sex aims to create a similar link between partners. A recent scientific experiment using brain scans demonstrated that this link isn't just metaphorical.
When two people experience a deep connection, they’re informally described as being on the same wavelength. There may be neurological truth to that.

Brain scans of a speaker and listener showed their neural activity synchronizing during storytelling. The stronger their reported connection, the closer the coupling. Read more

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Stay Fit with Pranayama in Twenty Minutes a Day

V.N. Mittal explains how to perform the seven pranayama techniques that he learned from Swami RamDev. The original program is supposed to take from 45 minutes to 2 hours, but Mittal has condensed it to a twenty minutes routine, by reducing the length of time for performing each technique.
When I started learning the package of seven yogic pranayama techniques of Yogiraj Swamy Ram Dev in India about two years back, I did not realize that it would turn out to be the greatest healer for me and would become a part of my regular practice, eventually. I was already into natural healing arts through teaching of Reiki, Art of Living ,Sujok therapy, Acupressure and Reflexology, which I practiced regularly to keep my body and soul together in my late sixties but I always missed something which could bring me to a deeper meditative state besides addressing my physical problems effectively. The amazing package which has healed hundreds of thousands of people in India and worldwide provided me the answer.

The importance of Prana or the breath as an instrument to control diseases is recognized universally. In fact, no life is possible without breathing. Breathing may be considered as the most important of all the functions of the body for indeed all the other functions depend on it. .Prana (Chi) is thus rightly called as the life force energy and the art of modification of normal form of prana through its conscious control is known as pranayama. In view of its importance, the Yogis from times immemorial have emphasized on the need of regular practice of Pranayama for harmony of body, mind and spirit. Pranayama is the fourth limb of the eightfold Yoga system founded by Maharishi Patanjali and is capable of addressing all kinds of physical and mental ailments effectively. Read more

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Comparing Taoist Sexuality with Karezza

Taoism is a spiritual tradition that embraces our sexual desire and uses it within our bodies as a force for healing and spiritual growth. The physical techniques of karezza are designed to teach control of the orgasm response in both men and women, for the purposes of physical pleasure, partnership bonding, better health, and spiritual benefit. How does Taoist sexuality compare with karezza?
Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Mantak Chia (with Michael Winn) was my first introduction to the wisdom of making love without striving for orgasm. This book made a big impression on me and I am very grateful to its authors. Chia, a neo-Taoist master, teaches men another way to manage their sexual energy, as well as the weakness in humanity's current habits. His book greatly expanded my understanding of my role as a lover, helping me to become a safer lover.

However, even before I stumbled upon the ancient account of Taoist lovemaking in the work ascribed to the famous Taoist sage, Laozi (or "Lao Tzu"), I realized that there was an inherent inconsistency in Chia’s teachings. The mystical, merging experience which he calls “the valley orgasm” is a state of “not doing.” Yet, much of Chia’s book is about performance-oriented techniques, such as clenching the teeth, the buttocks and the muscles around the prostate gland, counting intercourse strokes, and so forth. These vigorous measures permit a skilled man to approach the edge of orgasm, and then maintain his control sufficiently to make love rather vigorously…indefinitely. Read more

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Creating Sensual Spaces for Lovemaking

Jaiya discusses how to turn your bedroom - or any other room - into a sensual space for lovemaking.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

What Is Black Tantra?

What is Black Tantra? Tantra teacher Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta explains what you need to know about this lesser known subdivision of ancient Tantra.
Black tantra is a lesser known sub-division of ancient tantra. Its rather ominous name derives from the fact that black tantra always concludes with orgasm and ejaculation in order to awaken consciousness, whereas tantra and its practices oppose any loss of sexual energy and favour spiritual pursuits (tantra sadhana).

Black tantra is about altering mental reality through a series of techniques, and it involves an advanced form of mental projection. As your tantra teacher will inform you, scriptures such as the 'Virat Kaula Sutras' state that the pursuit of orgasmic release can sometimes trigger cravings and suffering. In other words, black tantra may sometimes lead people further away from enlightenment rather than bringing them to it.

To prolong sexual intercourse with the sole objective of enjoying physical pleasure, without regard to achieving higher awareness, may lead one astray. The proper role of this offshoot of the ancient art is to help those who have fallen in this trap by engaging their subconscious creative power, which can be accessed during sexual arousal and eventually lead them to tantric 'samadhi'.

Some people erroneously consider the sexual side of tantra as 'black tantra'. This is an example of the wide-spread ignorance surrounding the art of tantra, resulting in the general rejection of this esoteric variant as dangerous and unusable. Read more

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Marma Massage for Fluidity and Sexual Energy

Tao Semko demonstrates simple pressure point massage to increase fluidity and sexual energy in the pelvis/swadisthana chakra.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Carla Tara: Wisdom from a Tantric Tango Dancer

Carla Tara is a Tantra teacher, relationship counselor, Love Coach and Intimacy Guide. Born in a small Italian village high in the Alps, Carla has turned her remarkable life journey into a collection of lessons and wisdom and, now, a book: Lessons From A Tantric Tango Dancer. Listen to Personal Growth Coach Chip August and Carla talk about relationship communication, the power of breath, healing sexual dysfunction, the illusion of security, and so much more. Carla is a passionate and animated advocate of love, with a profound insight into transformation. Don’t miss Carla’s communication exercise for you to try at home. Listen to podcast

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Tantra Prana Darshana:The Swerving Tantric Technique of Prana-vayu, or Life-breath

Breathing is the single most important technique in Tantra. Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta describes a technique of circular breathing called antra Prana Darshana.
In a Tantra workshop, the Tantra teacher’s first purpose of teaching his pupil the intricacies of Tantra Prana Darshana is to help him or her understand that the act of inhalation and exhalation creates a circle of breath within.

The second purpose of this tantra exercise is to help the pupil comprehend that inhalation and exhalation do not constitute two but one single breath. The breath that comes in also goes out, creating a single internal curve - the incoming breath becomes outgoing. Your Tantra teacher will place great emphasis on this fact.

For this Tantra exercise, you must sit in Padmasana (Lotus position) with your back straight. As you close your eyes, start by inhaling and exhaling effortlessly, feeling the breath entering and exiting your being. As you continue this Tantra exercise for nine cycles, you will feel the sensation of a circle of breath created within your body.

If you stop your breath for a brief moment during this Tantra exercise, you will find that your mind stops suddenly - it cannot function. Your breath is now in intricate symbiosis with your mind, and the connection between the mind and body is snapped for this moment. Read more

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Traits of a Good Tantra Teacher

What are the traits of a good Tantra teacher? Good Tantra teachers have many of the same traits as good teachers of any subject, but there is a specific body of knowledge that they must have, says Tantra Bensko.
What to Look for When Beginning Individual Lessons

If you are considering working individually with a Tantra Yoga teacher, I feel there are certain important aspects to look for. There are of course many schools of Tantra, and they
vary widely, including the Buddhist and Hindu forms and those such as Ipsalu which go back to the shamanic roots and have no claim to be either of those. As regards sexuality, they vary widely also, some advocating celibacy except for householders, some advocating only ritual sex, generally with a spouse, and only on rare and prescribed occasions. Other forms of Tantra are a little more lax with sexual allowances, but traditionally, sex is only to be for the sake of enlightenment. Some forms of Tantra have been used more vampirically, with sex being used to draw energy from the partner, leaving him or her drained. These days, much is made of sex and Tantra, and it has been mistakenly associated far more than it truly is. Sex is only a small part of Tantra Yoga, and in many schools of Tantra, such as Ananda Marga, it plays almost no part at all. Tantra is a practice of using the body in ways the ancient seers of India have found to have specific effects on the subtle anatomy. The subtle anatomy is paid more attention in Tantra than any other form of practice other than Taoism, but the Tantric anatomy is specifically working with the nadis, or astral pathways, specifically the sushumna, which may be the eventual path of the Kundalini for those few for whom it rises. It also deals with countless other nadis, especially the Ida and Pingala, which cross on either side of the sushumna, crossing at the chakras. The chakras are also a strong study specific to Tantra Yoga, and the means of awakening, cleansing, connecting, and developing them are a large part of the practice. A very specific kind of sex is one way of doing this, and having sex Tantrically allows these pathways and the chakras along them to be transformed and the energy moved upwards rather than outwards, and circulated, rather than lost. This fosters cosmic consciousness, being a tool of the Divine, experiencing communion with the Divine and feeling the oneness with bliss. Read more

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Sex Dreams: The Difference between Men and Women

Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann explores the differences between the sex dreams of mena and women.
How often does, say, George Clooney show up in my dreams, or for that matter in any woman's dreams? Of course, I'm specifically referring to sexual dreams. Unfortunately we don't have any research that tells us about good old George and thee but we do have some hints about the content of sexual dreams nevertheless.

It is often suggested that good dreams occur more often when we are in good health and have had positive thoughts right before we go to sleep. Case in point: I sometimes have bad dreams after I've eaten too much, or too late or have had a bit too much to drink. I try to avoid this because, obviously, I don't like bad dreams! Read more

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Tantra with Your Clothes On

Tantra teacher Tanja Diamond explains how Tantra can can enhance your entire life, not just your sex life.
Tantra is like the black sheep of the family, she's a really misunderstood being. Especially here in the west where we have bastardized the word to mean anything we want, but generally related to sex workers, or a type of erotic massage, or endless physical orgasm.

Tantra is a life philosophy, a school of thought, an intimate experience of your own body, soul and the universe. It is a solo practice especially at the start, and it is not a casual undertaking.

My definition of the concept of Tantra is: "Tantra is the ultimate love affair with yourself and all of your existence. In the process of igniting your internal flame, you come to experience all ordinary moments as extraordinary experiences. Immersed in that experience, you realize that you are the divine, there is nothing else to need or want, but that moment."

Only 3 percent of Tantra is even related to sex. Yes, you say, but sex is the part you want to learn about.

Well here's the thing. You can not have a truly spiritual sexual relationship with another until you have a truly spiritual life with yourself and others with your clothes on.

Most people are just plain getting it backwards. Read more

Thursday, July 1, 2010

The 7 Keys of Tantra

The word Tantra is often used to describe so many things that a simplified way of understanding Tantric wisdom is needed. Tantra teacher Shawn Roop explains the seven keys of Tantra.
Tantra can have this fog of mystery. On one hand, it sounds like a super sex cult like system, yet if one looks a bit deeper, Tantra can be a complicated path of ritual, yogic wisdom and religious like dedication. In the west, Tantra has become a weaving of many things. Teachers offer everything from sexual healing to spiritual liberation all under the umbrella of Tantra. Being that I also teach Tantra, I recognize that there massive wisdom available to all of us at any one moment and wanted to create a more simplified way to have a basic understand of Tantric wisdom. Read more

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Do You Need Sexual Intercourse to Create Tantric Union?

Sexual intercourse isn't the only way to share sexual energy with a partner. Francisco Bujan describes several techniques that can stimulate the exchange of energy between your bodies and create Tantric union.
Do you need sexual intercourse to create tantric union?

Good news!

You don't have to have sex to share tantric sexual energies with someone.

There can be dozens of reasons why you might not want to have sex with your tantric partner.

Dozens of techniques can stimulate the exchange of energy between your two bodies and create this intense sense of unity and love between the two of you. Read more

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Meditation Improves Cognitive Skills in Just Four Days

If you are still undecided whether to sign up for that meditation class, perhaps this piece of research news may do the trick. A study published in the April 2 issue of Consciousness and Cognition found that twenty minutes of meditation each day can improve cognitive skills in as little as four days.
Some of us need regular amounts of coffee or other chemical enhancers to make us cognitively sharper. A newly published study suggests perhaps a brief bit of meditation would prepare us just as well.

While past research using neuroimaging technology has shown that meditation techniques can promote significant changes in brain areas associated with concentration, it has always been assumed that extensive training was required to achieve this effect. Though many people would like to boost their cognitive abilities, the monk-like discipline required seems like a daunting time commitment and financial cost for this benefit.

Surprisingly, the benefits may be achievable even without all the work. Though it sounds almost like an advertisement for a "miracle" weight-loss product, new research now suggests that the mind may be easier to cognitively train than we previously believed. Psychologists studying the effects of a meditation technique known as "mindfulness " found that meditation-trained participants showed a significant improvement in their critical cognitive skills (and performed significantly higher in cognitive tests than a control group) after only four days of training for only 20 minutes each day. Read more

Saturday, June 19, 2010

The Secret to Freeing Yourself From Limiting Habits - In Bed

Tantra teacher Tao Semko explains step-by-step how to experience more pleasure and free yourself from limiting habits - in bed.
This weekend I was at a bridal shower where I'd been asked to speak about the sexual side of tantra. Of course, the ladies were a lot of fun, and as always, they had some really good questions. I'll share an answer to one here today.

As I've explained in past issues of Tantra Tips, and as I explained at the bridal shower, if your breath and energy ("chi" or "prana") cannot freely circulate in your body as you make love, the pleasure you can feel is limited. You're cheating yourself of better sex! Your breath, energy, and mind are all linked, so your capacity for spiritual bliss is also limited (your ability to experience samadhi through complete absorption in the love and/or sensuality of lovemaking, or in anything else for that matter).

So here's the question: How can you learn begin to relax, deepen the breath, and maintain relaxed awareness while making love if your body is in the habit of tensing up and panting?

And here's the answer: You don't. Not at first. Just trying to remember to do all those things while "getting it on" will only make you more stressed and tense, and make you stay in your head and worry self-consciously instead of enjoying yourself, right? No fun. And if you start to get carried away by the moment, your breathing will get away from you again.

So then, the *easy* way to change your limiting sexual habits is to start changing your habits and your awareness when you're *not* making love, just a little bit each day, and making the whole process relaxing and fun....
Read more

Thursday, June 17, 2010

How to Have Multiple Orgasms

Any woman can have multiple orgasms. Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross explain what a multiple orgasm is and how women can have them by "riding the wave."

Saturday, June 12, 2010

5 Ways for Women to Achieve Orgasm with Intercourse

According to sex surveys, most women don't have orgasms with intercourse, but Svetlana Ivanova says that's because couples are not using the right positions and techniques.
Sex surveys indicate that only 25-33% of women have orgasms with sexual intercourse. Recently, some researchers have even suggested that the ability to have orgasms with intercourse is genetic, which I find extremely hard to believe. That would mean that a majority of women are genetically unable to perform a basic human function – orgasm from penetration. What’s much more likely is that women who can’t orgasm with intercourse are not using the right positions and techniques. Here are five ways for women to achieve orgasm with intercourse. Read more

Thursday, June 10, 2010

The Art of the Multidimensional Orgasm

Psychologist and sex educator Linda E. Savage says men and women are capable of experiencing orgasms in multiple dimensions because we are actually an organized combination of several energy systems around a unifying field.
... There is something I'll call "conventional" orgasm, which may be what some of you are referencing as you write your comments. Neurochemically, orgasm releases the hormone oxytocin, which promotes good feelings and can lead to mutual comfort, safety, and caring, but not always. For example, if you have an orgasm with a casual encounter, it is unlikely to promote anything but a feeling of release with a strong desire to go home. Many times disconnected or addictive sex can lead to emotional irritability and intense feelings of malaise, self blame or even the blues.

Oxytocin breaks down quickly in the body, so the good feelings dissipate rapidly unless you choose to maintain the powerful relationship bonding that sex can offer. If you remember the exercise called Touching Hearts that I suggested in the second blog, (sadly, some people thought they'd feel silly trying it with their partners) there are great benefits from stimulating emotions that accompany open-heartedness such as appreciation, giving, caring, closeness. These emotions decrease our levels of cortisol, high levels of which are harmful, and increase our levels of the beneficial hormone, DHEA.

However, aside from genitally focused sex, with its relatively rapid release and let down after orgasm, there are two other levels (there are many, but I'm keeping it simple). These are: Read more

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

The Differences Between Hook-Up Sex, Marital Sex, and Making Love

Douglas LaBier explains the differences between hook-up sex, marital sex, and making love. He says that striving for the "Making Love" type of sexual partnership keeps your relationship alive and growing because ouples who build such a relationship feel enduring connection and sustained passion.
Did that title get your attention? No, this isn't a "bait and switch!" It really is about the differences between "Hook-Up Sex," "Marital Sex," and "Making Love." I've found that confusion about those differences play out in many of the conflicts people experience in their sexual-romantic relationships, no matter what their ages or kinds of relationships.

First, some clarification about what I mean by each term. "Hook-Up Sex" refers to just plain f***ing; that is, a purely physical encounter. "Marital Sex" is the kind of sex life that most committed couples tend to have -- married or not, straight or gay. And "Making Love" is a different kind of experience that transcends both of the other two kinds. Read more

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Tantric Loving and the Melting Hug

Luminessa Enjara describes how to do the melting hug or full chakra hug, and for the more adventurous she includes a video of the "Ecstatic Embrace."
The art of hugging you say? Come on, what is there to learn about giving a hug? Lots!

A hug can tell you a lot about a person, whether they are open or closed, relaxed or tense, available for intimacy or not. You may find that hugging is very natural and yet some people find that they are uncomfortable when giving a hug.

Who has not been asked for hug? Read more

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Unplugged Tantra: 3 Easy Steps to Recharging for Two

Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann describes three Tantric practices for improving your emotional awareness, your trust for your partner, and your memory for faces and social experiences.
It’s a crazy life and you probably don’t need to be reminded about it again. The thing is, we get stuck in the rut like hamsters on a wheel, and we can’t see clearly enough to get creative about shifting our experiences. How do you integrate everything you want to do in life and have less stress? Here are some ideas that will help you loosen those wound-up strings, increase your love juice, help you relax better at any given time and radically improve your sex life. Sound too good to be true? Only you will be able to tell, once you give it a try.

What do you think when you hear the word Tantra? You probably think: “A lot of sex for a long period of time.” You can go there if you want to but Western Tantric practices are more about taking the goals out of sexual activities, bringing in the practices of consciousness and relating consciously, sensual expression and the experience of spending time in the realms of oneness with, well, everything. Everything includes your lover, partner, your breath, their body, a “higher power” and even maybe the whole universe. In these times of global change, feeling more a part of everything around you helps to recharge and replenish You. Read more

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

The True Purpose of Relationships

Anmol Mehta says that your relationship is not there for divine male and divine female to merge through you and your partner, and certainly not to make you happy or satisfy your needs. Then what is the true purpose of relationships?
Your relationship is not there to make you happy. It is not there to satisfy your needs. It is not there to help you escape your loneliness. Its purpose is not for you to procreate, although you might. It is not there to provide you with a tax break, although you should take that. It is certainly not there for you to exploit, by exerting power and control over the other. It is not there to hold together the so called moral fiber of society. It is not there because God mandates it. It is not there for divine male and divine female to merge through you and your partner. It is not there to play with Kundalini, although can be used for that. It is there as the mirror in which to see yourself clearly. That’s it. Read more

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Pleasurable Perineal Massage

Research has shown proven benefits for doing prenatal perineal massage, which can be done by you or your sexual partner. Jaiya explains how to do a gentler, more pleasurable perineal massage.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

What Are the Benefits of Tantric Meditation?

The benefits of Tantric meditation go beyond producing a relaxing and calming effect on the mind and body. Tantric meditation also stimulates the sensations and areas of the body involved in sexuality.
In most cases, the intent of meditation is to produce a relaxing and calming effect on the mind and body. The benefits of Tantric Meditation go a bit beyond this by stimulating certain sensations and areas of the body involved in sexuality.


Tantric breathing techniques are the most esoteric area of Tantra. They do not involve simply sitting still and taking deep and slow breaths. Rather, the steps in Tantra breathing uses specific exercises, movements and sounds related to the kind of breathing required. These types of breathing exercises result in some of the major benefits of tantric meditation. They include a heating up of the body, which leads to heavy sweating, improved blood circulation and a resulting detoxification effect. As a related benefit, the breathing exercises release endorphins, improving your feelings about yourself. Read more

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Training for Better Sex

Sex is an athletic activity, and some people are better at it than others. Learn how to train for better sex with these tips!

Saturday, May 22, 2010

The Sexy Prostate

What's the big deal about prostates? Meet Dr. Erika Thost, physician, Tantra teacher, and expert on prostate and G-spot massage. Dr. Thost is a passionate advocate for discovering all the ways that sexualityand life can feel great. In easy-to-understand language Dr. Thost explains the do's and don'ts of prostate play. Listen in as Dr. Thost and Francesca Gentille talk about how to play with a prostate, how to enhance your pleasure, how to improve your prostate health, and don't miss her great exercise for you to try at home. Listen to podcast

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Tantra Yoga Healthful Morning Ritual

HappyTantra.com describes a four-step morning ritual to get ready for your day the yogic way.
According to yoga the best is to wake up early in the morning a few minutes before 6 am. Before starting the new day of your life there are a few cleansing steps to perform to live the day at your best capacity. Read more

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Make Love Not Dinner: Why Putting Sex Back on the Menu Will Help Your Relationship

"Sex isn’t just about sex but about creating a physical bond, a closeness that is crucial in our hectic world," says psychologist Paula Nicolson. Making love, regardless of whether you are in the mood, can improve your relationship.
... For sex therapist Bettina Arndt, the question of whether or not we should be moving physical intimacy closer to the top of that to-do list is increasingly pertinent in a society of spiralling divorce rates. Last year, the highly respected psychotherapist asked 98 couples – from 20-year-old students to those who’d been married for more than 40 years – to keep intimate sex diaries in which they recorded every detail of their behaviour in the bedroom.

The diary results were both poignant and compelling. While women wrote of their dismay and resentment at being ‘pestered’ for sex, most men, she discovered, forlornly documented the fact that they were continually refused sex by their wives, feeling trapped in a sexless marriage where physical intimacy was doled out, as Arndt puts it, ‘like meaty bites to a dog’. Read more

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Yin Yang of Sexual Intimacy

An ancient Taoist love text says that a woman's sexual energy begins in her heart and then moves to her genitals. For the man, the energy starts in the genitals and then moves to the heart.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Naked Mole Rats: Key to Human Sexuality?

What if the key to unlocking the mysteries of human sexuality was… naked mole rats?
Naked mole rats may have much in common with the way humans pair up and mate, according to a British scientist who studies the tiny critters who live in burrows in large groups. Read more

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

3 Meditation Methods for Dealing with Pain

Anyone who has heard of the expression about the power of mind over matter will easily understand the benefit of meditation on people suffering from different forms of physical pain. Meditation can help in alleviating a person’s condition through several methods.

Concentration techniques in meditation can help in easing a person’s suffering by keeping his/her mind away from the source of the pain. Usually, the pain is magnified because people choose to focus on it. If their attention is trained somewhere else, the pain becomes more manageable.

Another method is called mindfulness meditation. This involves being aware of one’s present condition and accepting it as such. If a person accepts that he/she is currently in pain, dealing with it would be much easier.

Then there’s visualization. It could be considered as a form of self-hypnosis. It is done by creating an image of the pain and imagining it moving away from the body.

As suggested by these methods, they do not actually take away pain from the person. Rather, they make dealing with the pain much easier. This is also the reason why methods like those mentioned should be coupled with the proper medical advice. Otherwise, there will be a risk of overlooking more serious conditions that could be causing the pain. Along with the proper medical advice, meditation can help improve a person’s tolerance for pain.

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Yoga Mudras: An Illustrated Guide

A mudra is A gesture or position, usually of the hands, that locks and guides energy flow and reflexes to the brain. By curling, crossing, stretching and touching the fingers and hands, we can talk to the body and mind as each area of the hand reflexes to a certain part of the mind or body. Anmol Mehta presents a comprehensive guide to yoga mudras.
An important aspect of yoga is the subtle, but key practice of hand, body and eye postures, to invoke certain flows of energy and create certain states of consciousness, called yoga mudras. In last month’s newsletter I introduced you all to yoga mudras and provided 5 important mudras to start with. In the newsletter I also mentioned I would be creating a comprehensive guide to yoga mudras, and this is the first part of that guide.

In this part I will provide the 5 hand mudras I gave in the newsletter and in the next part of the series I will illustrate and detail many more important mudras to help you take your yoga and meditation practice to the next level. Read more