Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Saturday, June 26, 2010

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Do You Need Sexual Intercourse to Create Tantric Union?

Sexual intercourse isn't the only way to share sexual energy with a partner. Francisco Bujan describes several techniques that can stimulate the exchange of energy between your bodies and create Tantric union.
Do you need sexual intercourse to create tantric union?

Good news!

You don't have to have sex to share tantric sexual energies with someone.

There can be dozens of reasons why you might not want to have sex with your tantric partner.

Dozens of techniques can stimulate the exchange of energy between your two bodies and create this intense sense of unity and love between the two of you. Read more

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Meditation Improves Cognitive Skills in Just Four Days

If you are still undecided whether to sign up for that meditation class, perhaps this piece of research news may do the trick. A study published in the April 2 issue of Consciousness and Cognition found that twenty minutes of meditation each day can improve cognitive skills in as little as four days.
Some of us need regular amounts of coffee or other chemical enhancers to make us cognitively sharper. A newly published study suggests perhaps a brief bit of meditation would prepare us just as well.

While past research using neuroimaging technology has shown that meditation techniques can promote significant changes in brain areas associated with concentration, it has always been assumed that extensive training was required to achieve this effect. Though many people would like to boost their cognitive abilities, the monk-like discipline required seems like a daunting time commitment and financial cost for this benefit.

Surprisingly, the benefits may be achievable even without all the work. Though it sounds almost like an advertisement for a "miracle" weight-loss product, new research now suggests that the mind may be easier to cognitively train than we previously believed. Psychologists studying the effects of a meditation technique known as "mindfulness " found that meditation-trained participants showed a significant improvement in their critical cognitive skills (and performed significantly higher in cognitive tests than a control group) after only four days of training for only 20 minutes each day. Read more

Saturday, June 19, 2010

The Secret to Freeing Yourself From Limiting Habits - In Bed

Tantra teacher Tao Semko explains step-by-step how to experience more pleasure and free yourself from limiting habits - in bed.
This weekend I was at a bridal shower where I'd been asked to speak about the sexual side of tantra. Of course, the ladies were a lot of fun, and as always, they had some really good questions. I'll share an answer to one here today.

As I've explained in past issues of Tantra Tips, and as I explained at the bridal shower, if your breath and energy ("chi" or "prana") cannot freely circulate in your body as you make love, the pleasure you can feel is limited. You're cheating yourself of better sex! Your breath, energy, and mind are all linked, so your capacity for spiritual bliss is also limited (your ability to experience samadhi through complete absorption in the love and/or sensuality of lovemaking, or in anything else for that matter).

So here's the question: How can you learn begin to relax, deepen the breath, and maintain relaxed awareness while making love if your body is in the habit of tensing up and panting?

And here's the answer: You don't. Not at first. Just trying to remember to do all those things while "getting it on" will only make you more stressed and tense, and make you stay in your head and worry self-consciously instead of enjoying yourself, right? No fun. And if you start to get carried away by the moment, your breathing will get away from you again.

So then, the *easy* way to change your limiting sexual habits is to start changing your habits and your awareness when you're *not* making love, just a little bit each day, and making the whole process relaxing and fun....
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Thursday, June 17, 2010

How to Have Multiple Orgasms

Any woman can have multiple orgasms. Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross explain what a multiple orgasm is and how women can have them by "riding the wave."

Saturday, June 12, 2010

5 Ways for Women to Achieve Orgasm with Intercourse

According to sex surveys, most women don't have orgasms with intercourse, but Svetlana Ivanova says that's because couples are not using the right positions and techniques.
Sex surveys indicate that only 25-33% of women have orgasms with sexual intercourse. Recently, some researchers have even suggested that the ability to have orgasms with intercourse is genetic, which I find extremely hard to believe. That would mean that a majority of women are genetically unable to perform a basic human function – orgasm from penetration. What’s much more likely is that women who can’t orgasm with intercourse are not using the right positions and techniques. Here are five ways for women to achieve orgasm with intercourse. Read more

Thursday, June 10, 2010

The Art of the Multidimensional Orgasm

Psychologist and sex educator Linda E. Savage says men and women are capable of experiencing orgasms in multiple dimensions because we are actually an organized combination of several energy systems around a unifying field.
... There is something I'll call "conventional" orgasm, which may be what some of you are referencing as you write your comments. Neurochemically, orgasm releases the hormone oxytocin, which promotes good feelings and can lead to mutual comfort, safety, and caring, but not always. For example, if you have an orgasm with a casual encounter, it is unlikely to promote anything but a feeling of release with a strong desire to go home. Many times disconnected or addictive sex can lead to emotional irritability and intense feelings of malaise, self blame or even the blues.

Oxytocin breaks down quickly in the body, so the good feelings dissipate rapidly unless you choose to maintain the powerful relationship bonding that sex can offer. If you remember the exercise called Touching Hearts that I suggested in the second blog, (sadly, some people thought they'd feel silly trying it with their partners) there are great benefits from stimulating emotions that accompany open-heartedness such as appreciation, giving, caring, closeness. These emotions decrease our levels of cortisol, high levels of which are harmful, and increase our levels of the beneficial hormone, DHEA.

However, aside from genitally focused sex, with its relatively rapid release and let down after orgasm, there are two other levels (there are many, but I'm keeping it simple). These are: Read more

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

The Differences Between Hook-Up Sex, Marital Sex, and Making Love

Douglas LaBier explains the differences between hook-up sex, marital sex, and making love. He says that striving for the "Making Love" type of sexual partnership keeps your relationship alive and growing because ouples who build such a relationship feel enduring connection and sustained passion.
Did that title get your attention? No, this isn't a "bait and switch!" It really is about the differences between "Hook-Up Sex," "Marital Sex," and "Making Love." I've found that confusion about those differences play out in many of the conflicts people experience in their sexual-romantic relationships, no matter what their ages or kinds of relationships.

First, some clarification about what I mean by each term. "Hook-Up Sex" refers to just plain f***ing; that is, a purely physical encounter. "Marital Sex" is the kind of sex life that most committed couples tend to have -- married or not, straight or gay. And "Making Love" is a different kind of experience that transcends both of the other two kinds. Read more

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Tantric Loving and the Melting Hug

Luminessa Enjara describes how to do the melting hug or full chakra hug, and for the more adventurous she includes a video of the "Ecstatic Embrace."
The art of hugging you say? Come on, what is there to learn about giving a hug? Lots!

A hug can tell you a lot about a person, whether they are open or closed, relaxed or tense, available for intimacy or not. You may find that hugging is very natural and yet some people find that they are uncomfortable when giving a hug.

Who has not been asked for hug? Read more

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Unplugged Tantra: 3 Easy Steps to Recharging for Two

Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann describes three Tantric practices for improving your emotional awareness, your trust for your partner, and your memory for faces and social experiences.
It’s a crazy life and you probably don’t need to be reminded about it again. The thing is, we get stuck in the rut like hamsters on a wheel, and we can’t see clearly enough to get creative about shifting our experiences. How do you integrate everything you want to do in life and have less stress? Here are some ideas that will help you loosen those wound-up strings, increase your love juice, help you relax better at any given time and radically improve your sex life. Sound too good to be true? Only you will be able to tell, once you give it a try.

What do you think when you hear the word Tantra? You probably think: “A lot of sex for a long period of time.” You can go there if you want to but Western Tantric practices are more about taking the goals out of sexual activities, bringing in the practices of consciousness and relating consciously, sensual expression and the experience of spending time in the realms of oneness with, well, everything. Everything includes your lover, partner, your breath, their body, a “higher power” and even maybe the whole universe. In these times of global change, feeling more a part of everything around you helps to recharge and replenish You. Read more

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

The True Purpose of Relationships

Anmol Mehta says that your relationship is not there for divine male and divine female to merge through you and your partner, and certainly not to make you happy or satisfy your needs. Then what is the true purpose of relationships?
Your relationship is not there to make you happy. It is not there to satisfy your needs. It is not there to help you escape your loneliness. Its purpose is not for you to procreate, although you might. It is not there to provide you with a tax break, although you should take that. It is certainly not there for you to exploit, by exerting power and control over the other. It is not there to hold together the so called moral fiber of society. It is not there because God mandates it. It is not there for divine male and divine female to merge through you and your partner. It is not there to play with Kundalini, although can be used for that. It is there as the mirror in which to see yourself clearly. That’s it. Read more