This weekend I was at a bridal shower where I'd been asked to speak about the sexual side of tantra. Of course, the ladies were a lot of fun, and as always, they had some really good questions. I'll share an answer to one here today.
As I've explained in past issues of Tantra Tips, and as I explained at the bridal shower, if your breath and energy ("chi" or "prana") cannot freely circulate in your body as you make love, the pleasure you can feel is limited. You're cheating yourself of better sex! Your breath, energy, and mind are all linked, so your capacity for spiritual bliss is also limited (your ability to experience samadhi through complete absorption in the love and/or sensuality of lovemaking, or in anything else for that matter).
So here's the question: How can you learn begin to relax, deepen the breath, and maintain relaxed awareness while making love if your body is in the habit of tensing up and panting?
And here's the answer: You don't. Not at first. Just trying to remember to do all those things while "getting it on" will only make you more stressed and tense, and make you stay in your head and worry self-consciously instead of enjoying yourself, right? No fun. And if you start to get carried away by the moment, your breathing will get away from you again.
So then, the *easy* way to change your limiting sexual habits is to start changing your habits and your awareness when you're *not* making love, just a little bit each day, and making the whole process relaxing and fun....
Saturday, June 19, 2010
The Secret to Freeing Yourself From Limiting Habits - In Bed
Tantra teacher Tao Semko explains step-by-step how to experience more pleasure and free yourself from limiting habits - in bed.