Monday, December 29, 2008

10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex

The health benefits of sex extend well beyond the bedroom. It turns out sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined.
When you're in the mood, it's a sure bet that the last thing on your mind is boosting your immune system or maintaining a healthy weight. Yet good sex offers those health benefits and more.

That's a surprise to many people, says Joy Davidson, PhD, a New York psychologist and sex therapist. "Of course, sex is everywhere in the media," she says. "But the idea that we are vital, sexual creatures is still looked at in some cases with disgust or in other cases a bit of embarrassment. So to really take a look at how our sexuality adds to our life and enhances our life and our health, both physical and psychological, is eye-opening for many people."

Sex does a body good in a number of ways, according to Davidson and other experts. The benefits aren't just anecdotal or hearsay -- each of these 10 health benefits of sex is backed by scientific scrutiny.

Among the benefits of healthy loving in a relationship: Read more

Friday, December 26, 2008

Practical Samadhi

A Living Tantra reader asks Shambhavi the following question: "I have been to the mountain top…nirvikalpa. Two and a half years ago. And since I have experienced other levels of samadhi. Yet lately I feel I am whithering on the vine. For 5 and a half years I have lived in an apartment complex that is entirely out of sync with my life, who I am. Two years ago a new neighbor moved in and since I have been falling further and further away from satya. There is such a feeling of discontent."

In his answer, Shambhavi points out:
The litmus test of any spiritual experience is what did I learn about Reality, and how am I showing up in the world now. Can I stabilize and integrate new understanding into my everyday life? This is where regular sadhana and the guidance of a teacher are crucial. Read more

Friday, December 19, 2008

The Art of Ear Kissing

Suzie Heumann, founder of, answers this reader question: "The subject of ear kissing is largely unexplored. There is so much I have experienced in this field and yet I find very little expounded upon on this beautiful subject. What comments do you have regarding this?"
... The ear, as in any erogenous zone, should be approached slowly, with a little teasing. Try a soft breath to start. Get close to the ear that is about to enjoy being the object of arousal. With slightly open lips, spread your warm breath around the ear and behind it. Read more

Monday, December 8, 2008

Tantric Techniques for Pleasing a Woman

Tantric techniques for pleasing a woman are not simply about where to kiss or lick or rub or how hard or how fast, nor is it about harder, longer erections, says Tantric Practitioner and Sexual Healer Nancy Ibsen.
Improving your ability to please a woman is very like learning to play a musical instrument. It takes practice, patience and experience to make beautiful music. You master the basics before moving on to advanced techniques. Here are some good basic practices for you to start with. Read more

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Om: A Tool for Self-Realization

The Om mantra can be a tool for self-realization, but only if it's pronounced and used correctly.
The Vedic tradition considers Om/Aum to be supreme mantra, the most sacred of holy words. Also known as pranava mantra (primordial mantra); and is considered to represent, as a symbol, the primal sound or ether, which according to vedic scriptures, is the first manifestation of the unmanifest Brahman(god): Read more

Sunday, November 30, 2008

Real Sexual Yoga and Meditation: The Secret Exercise Technique

Hevajra Tantra states that the purified state is one hundred times more pleasurable than orgasm. This secret exercise technique is given to you from the adept Maitreya.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Test Your Spiritual Practice

Anmol Mehta of Mastery of Meditation, Yoga & Zen suggests 20 interesting ways to test your spiritual development.
In this article I would like to reveal to you some indicators which show that your practice is doing well and that you are developing spiritually. I have divided this discussion into two categories. The first are the obvious benefits you get from any serious spiritual practice. They have also been discussed in more details in the following articles: 10 Profound Benefits of Meditation Practice & Top 10 Health Benefits of Yoga. The second are the more interesting developments that are signs of a strong spiritual practice.

You may also notice that I am interchangeably using strong practice and spiritual growth. So in essence, I am more or less implying that if you have a strong practice, you are going to be enjoying spiritual development. So the signs that indicate you have a strong practice going are also indicative that spiritual growth is taking place. Read more

Monday, November 24, 2008

What Makes a Good Kisser?

Carla Tara at Carla's Tantric Temple answers reader emails about what makes a good kisser.
I received some email concerning kissing. People want to know what makes a good kisser. As with everything else, taste is different and everyone has his own kissing style. I can tell you, however, what most woman who study with me like, myself included.

Most women at the beginning of foreplay love having men look into their eyes and show their attraction and longing to “take them”, yet also appreciate... Read more

Monday, November 17, 2008

Physical Intimacy Fights Stress

Science confirms what we already knew: intimacy fights stress.
Couples who hug, kiss and otherwise find ways to get close everyday may have fewer stress hormones coursing through their bodies, a new study suggests.


Researchers found that among 51 German couples they followed for one week, those who reported more physical contact during a given day -- whether it was sexual intercourse or just holding hands -- generally had lower levels of the "stress" hormone cortisol. Read more

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

The Benefits of Tantric Sex

Stela at Tantra Yoga Techniques discusses the benefits of Tantric sex.
Tantric sex is not just regular sex. The average “in-out-have a nice day” kind of sex is seen by those who practice Tantric sex as simply wasting energy on something that could be much more than that. Therefore, one could say that Tantric sex means taking sex to a new dimension and using it to improve the link between body and spirit and to extend the rejuvenating power of orgasm to the whole body. After all, why shouldn’t we profit from something that is in our power to do, especially since it does not take much to acquire this skill? Read more

Monday, October 20, 2008

Is Semen Retention Harmful?

Times Online sexperts Suzi Godson and Dr. Thomas Stuttaford give advice to a couple who practice Taoist sex without ejaculation and orgasm, and want to know if it is harmful. Suzi Godson answers by dismissing Tantra and Taoism:
I have to admit the whole tantra, mantra, Tao thing eludes me. Regular readers may remember that the last time we got a question such as this I hauled my poor husband to a Tantric sex workshop with disastrous results.
Dr. Stuttaford grudgingly allows that semen retention isn't harmful, but his negative bias shows when he uses the word "glorified" in his response.
The philosophy and disciplines glorified by the terms Tantric and Taoist sex are designed to allow a couple to have long sessions of lovemaking by prolonging the plateau stage of sexual response without having a complete orgasm and ejaculating. Advocates of Taoist and Tantric sex explain that the aim is to maintain a state of ecstasy for as long as physically possible and not to be preoccupied by the need to score an orgasmic goal.

Like Victorian schoolmasters and doctors, who believed that masturbation was a cause and a symptom of criminality and psychiatric disease, the Tantric and Taoist enthusiasts suggest that semen has a value in helping to maintain a man's health and vitality. Their supposition is that if semen is constantly wasted, the luckless fellow will be weakened and risk being reduced to a feeble wreck, a shadow of his former self. You may be assured that this is medical nonsense, and semen retention is not harmful. Read more
Despite their designation as "experts," Godson's and Stuttaford's answers illustrate why you should send your questions about Taoism and Tantra to practitioners - not sex advice columnists.

Wednesday, October 15, 2008

How to Pronounce a Mantra

A mantra is a sacred verbal formula repeated in prayer, meditation, or incantation. At Living Tantra a reader asks Shambhavi, "Can a mantra be incorrect because of stress or rhythm?"
Mantras are are the subtle chemical catalysts of the cosmos. They have effects in the world. They are embodied, creative wisdom. When we do mantra practice, called japa in Sanskrit, we are trying to realize the the direct, embodied wisdom of the mantra.

For a mantra to be “incorrect” means that it is dysfunctional; it does not have vidya shakti, or wisdom energy. An incorrect mantra is not actually a mantra. It is just a word.

There are three answers to the question of pronunciation. Read more

Monday, October 13, 2008

Tantra and Dreams

This video begins with a surreal dream sequence and then Tantra Bensko goes into description of lucid waking that can come from keeping continuity of consciousness in the sleep state through Tantric exercises.

Monday, October 6, 2008

Tantric Massage: How to Give Your Partner the Ultimate Sexual Experience

Do you want to give your partner the ultimate experience in sheer pleasure? Tantric massage will intensify your relationship both in and out of the bedroom, and it’s easy to do, says Maya Silverman.
The tantric massage may sound complicated, but it’s actually not all that hard to accomplish. The tantric massage was developed centuries ago in Asia as a vital ritual that served to balance out a person’s physical and emotional energy, which eventually lead to healing, tranquility and the kind of sack sessions that would make Casanova jealous.

There’s also an additional bonus: tantric massage can free your lover’s mind from the stress of daily life and melt away tension, thus increasing your partner’s chances of achieving a bed-shattering orgasm.

While the actual practice taught in the tantras (the ancient texts from where Tantra comes from) can take a very long time to perfect - in fact, several followers of the practice have been at it for decades – there are a few tricks and tips that you can easily use tonight in order to give the kind of tantric massage that will have your lover purring with pleasure. Read more

Saturday, October 4, 2008

How to Practice Tantra

Shambhavi at Living Tantra gives eight tips for practicing Tantra.
1. Use naturalness to turn toward nature.This is the absolute, bedrock foundation of Tantrik practice. Establish naturalness in the rhythms of your everyday life by following the guidelines of Ayurveda. The practice of dinacharya, or daily conduct, is the key. Learn about and follow the dietary guidelines for your constitution and for the changing seasons and establish an appropriate movement practice. If you do just these things and nothing else, you will experience a profound shift in your life. Your tensions will dissolve. Your relationships will improve. Your body will feel totally different. You will discover something of your real nature, and doing so is the sole purpose of human life. Read more

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Tantra as Self Empowerment

Love intimacy coach Asttarte Deva explains why she calls Tantra self-empowering.
There are many sayings in times past on "reclaiming your power", or "Women Power", or finding empowerment through sports or martial arts. Few ever talk about, and even fewer know about the hidden secrets and power within Tantra. Tantra as empowerment is a way of reclaiming oneself, finding out who you are, learning tools to access who you are, and then practicing the Tantra techniques, exercises and practices. Tantra allows one a way of manifesting the life you want - the abundance you seek, the lower or beloved of your dreams, the harmonious and passionate relationship and love life you desire with the one you already have, the car or house of your dreams, and so on.

Tantra is empowering because it forces you to tap into your will and draw up energies within yourself to go beyond the uncomfortable until eventually it does become comfortable. Read more

Monday, September 29, 2008

9 Reasons Yoga Will Rock Your Sex Life

FOXSexpert Yvonne K. Fulbright explains why yoga is her favorite sex practice and how it can rock your sex life, too.
I have finally reclaimed my favorite sex practice. And it doesn’t involve being in bed. As many a "yogi" has found, the bliss in the bedroom is best pursued on a mat. In taking things from "Ommm" to "Oh! Ohhhh!" yoga enables men and women alike to tap into their sexual energy like never before. Read more

Friday, September 26, 2008

Spiritual Sex: Reuniting Body And Soul For A Whole Body Orgasm

Maya Silverman, co- author of The Erotic Massage Guide, explains how to use erotic touching to maximize your partner's bliss and reach a whole body orgasm.
... Not only can you max out your partner’s bliss by taking the time to caress him or her, but you’ll be heightening the anticipation for lovemaking – a key ingredient for that whole body orgasm!

Erotic touching is an intense and soulful experience, so be sure to engage in intimate behavior: stare into your partner’s eyes while gently stroking him or her along the length of the body. Use erotic touching as a means to explore your partner like never before.

Sure, you may know every nook and cranny of your partner’s body, but how well do you really know it? By using erotic touching, you’ll experience your lover’s body in a new and more spiritual way that will intensify your relationship, both in and out of the bedroom. Read more

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

A Yoga Routine for Better Sex

Tara Stiles demonstrates a yoga routine that helps release tension we hold in our bodies, which allows us to have better sex.

Monday, September 22, 2008

First Experience of Tantra

One woman's first experience of Tantra shows that Tantra can break through even to someone who has panic attacks during an Indian head massage.

First some background... I really cannot tolerate anybody in my personal space, in Feb while on holiday, I decided to go for my first indian head massage... I had a panic attack and it was a disaster. My therapist suggested that I find somebody I trust to do some body work with... so I did.

I investigated different techniques and ideologies and became quite interested in Tantric thinking. I made contact with a Tantra teacher, explained my position and had my first session this morning... Read more

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

A Special Recipe for You and Your Lover

Suzie Heumann, founder of, outlines a sensual ritual for you and you lover.
Set aside 2 hours for this sensual ritual. An additional hour will be needed to create the set and setting.


You will need a few purchased items such as candles, flowers, sensual fruit like mango, papaya, small juicy oranges, kiwi, possibly chocolates and a sipping liqueur (if you drink alcohol). You may also wish to exchange gifts during the ritual. Read more

Monday, September 15, 2008

Orgasmic Urban Tantra for Women with Barbara Carrellas

At Expanded Lovemaking, Dr. Patti Taylor chats with Barbara Carrellas, sex educator and author of the bestseller, Urban Tantra, about giving and receiving orgasmic awaking erotic massages to women. Find out how you can use breath to go into orgasmic states. Learn that you really can “fake it till you make it." Do Dr. Patti and Barbara use breath to enhance feeling by breathing? If so, is there more than one kind of breathing? What would these kinds of breaths sound like? Then, learn some of the kinds of strokes that you can give a woman on her labia, heart, abdomen, clitoris, and internally. Find out where Dr. Patti and Barbara have similar tastes in pleasuring! And, is a hard woman good to find, and if so, why? (Hint: use the word “engorgement” in your answer.) Is an electric vibrator a good thing, and if so, what is the optimal type, large or small? How might you use one? Where might you use one? The answers may surprise you. Listen

Friday, September 12, 2008

Orgasmic Urban Tantra for Men with Barbara Carrellas

At Expanded Lovemaking, Dr. Patti Taylor chats with Barbara Carrellas, author of the bestselling book, Urban Tantra, Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century. Find out how Barbara defines Urban Tantra, and neo-Tantra. Learn about the all-important “resilient edge”, and how you can tell if you’re doing it right, at cocktail parties, and, on cats! Discover the art of “seeing energy." Then, learn how to give and receive the male erotic awakening massage. Find out why breath is the most important element of all. Is orgasm important? Find out just why it is, and isn’t. What are the goals of this type of pleasure? What types of strokes do you give a man’s cock, and body? How do you spread the energy to prevent ejaculation? What do you do with the breath to send yourself into an amazing mind-blowing experience? Listen

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Clinical Secrets of a Tantric Sex Therapist

Francesca Gentille interviews Sally Valentine, Ph.D., in Clinical Sexology, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Advanced Certified Hypnotherapist, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and Tantrika at Sex: Tantra & Kama Sutra. In this episode, Sally shares the gems of wisdom, and key practices that she has learned from her years as a clinical sex therapist. Learn how to reconnect from those hard days. Deepen into compassion for the woundings we all carry into relationship. Discover the most common challenge in longterm relationships. Turn the power play into play. Listen

Monday, September 8, 2008

Can Sexologists Tell Whether a Woman Has Vaginal Orgasms by the Way She Walks?

Can sexologists tell whether woman has vaginal orgasms by the way she walks? A new study proves that they can 80 percent of the time. The study also provides support for Tantric assumptions of a link between muscle blocks and sexual function and lends scientific credibility to the idea of incorporating training in movement, breathing, and pelvic floor exercises into the treatment of sexual dysfunction.
A new study found that trained sexologists could infer a woman's history of vaginal orgasm by observing the way she walks. The study is published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.


The results showed that the appropriately trained sexologists were able to correctly infer vaginal orgasm through watching the way the women walked over 80 percent of the time. Further analysis revealed that the sum of stride length and vertebral rotation was greater for the vaginally orgasmic women. "This could reflect the free, unblocked energetic flow from the legs through the pelvis to the spine," the authors note. Read more

Monday, September 1, 2008

Tantra: How to Begin

Shambhavi at Living Tantra tells how to begin a Tantra practice when one doesn't have a teacher.
I regularly receive e-mail from readers of Living Tantra asking how to begin practicing Tantra when one doesn’t yet have a teacher. It’s easy, but I have to warn you that some readers have not taken to my answer because it doesn’t involve any secret yogic practices or sex. In fact, it involves stuff like scraping your tongue and going to bed at a regular, proper time. Read more

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Meditation 101: What to Do If You're Starting from Scratch

Beliefnet provides beginning meditators with tips for getting started.
You can light candles, sit on a cushion, and follow specific instructions on how to meditate, but the truth is that you already know how. Meditative consciousness is no more than a shifted relationship to yourself and reality; your everyday life is already filled with many moments in which you connect with yourself in this way. You simply need to recognize that you're naturally meditative, and amplify that place inside you. Here are some basics to help you do that.

Read the Meditation Tips

Monday, August 18, 2008

5 Steps to the Ultimate Sex Connection

Tantric sex can be an intensely magical - and pleasurable - experience. Allison Winn Scott at Redbook magazine explains how to make the ultimate sex connection.
If you're looking to add a little heat and a lot of intimacy to your sex life — and who isn't? — the ancient practice of Tantric sex might be the answer. "Some people think that Tantric sex is a cult or that it's about making love for hours on end," says Al Link, coauthor of Soul Sex: Tantra for Two. "But it's actually a simple and accessible way for people to raise their lovemaking energy, make a spiritual connection with their partner and break down boundaries." Plus, it can give you truly incredible orgasms. What's not to like? Here, our step-by-step guide. Read more

Friday, August 15, 2008

Enhance Your Sexuality: The Benefits of Tantra

A reader asks Suzie Heumann, founder of, this question: "For someone who may be interested in learning more about Tantra and may take a couple of workshops, what kinds of benefits might they hope to achieve? I ask this, because many people are hesitant to dive in, head-first, to something they might consider so exotic, Eastern, fringe, etc. "
There are many benefits to achieve through a practice that includes Tantric techniques, and the effectiveness will, of course, depend on the individual person and what they already bring to the table, so to speak. A person or couple who has done some kind of activity in the personal growth arena may have a head start on the person who is just beginning to delve into the more interior aspects of life. Read more

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Yoni : Symbol of Cosmic Mysteries

Yoni veneration is as old as humanity, says Peter Baltensperger in Lucrezia Magazine. The yoni symbolizes the cosmic receptacle as well as the ultimate source - the inexhaustible fountain of life itself.
Cultures throughout the ages have venerated the yoni as the symbolic representation of the mystery of the cosmos. As the primal source of all being, it constitutes the entrance into the universal womb from which we all come and to which we all return. In Hinduism, it is the attribute of the goddess Shakti, consort of Shiva. In Earth-centered, Nature-based religions, it is the sacred symbol of the Great Goddess, the Great Earth Mother herself. Above all, it is the matrix of generation, the universal focus, the be all and end all of existence. It is the shrine of worship for the great mysteries of the universe, the ultimate representation of life. Read more

Monday, August 11, 2008

Test: Are You a Sensual Person?

Are you a sensual person? Answer the questions in this Tantra Magazine quiz and find out.
Ask to the following questions in order to find out more about your sensuality and passion:

1. You have a weakness for:
a. chocolate
b. yoghurt
c. salad

2. When it is full moon:
a. you are very disturbed
b. you feel a little different
c. you feel as well as always

3. Your lips:
a. have both the same thickness
b. your inferior lip is thicker than the superior one
c. are quite thin Read more

Friday, August 8, 2008

Practice, Practice: How to Hone Your Meditation Skills

Susan Smalley, founder of the Mindful Awareness Research Center in the UCLA Semel Institute of Neuroscience and Human Behavior, explains how to hone your meditation skills, especially by extending them into your everyday life.
To meditate means to examine. It doesn't mean you have to sit in a lotus position in silence (although you can). It means you are attending to what's going on within you - perhaps with your breath and senses, your internal thoughts and feelings, or the space in between these objects of attention. This investigation of mind becomes somewhat habitual the more you practice. Read more

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Monday, August 4, 2008

Frankincense Can Ease Arthritis

Frankincense is often used in Tantric meditation and rituals. Researchers have now found that it can also ease arthritis symptoms.
A herb known as "Indian Frankincense" can reduce the symptoms of arthritis, US researchers have suggested. Read more

Friday, August 1, 2008

Mandala or Yantra Meditation

Mandalas and yantras are visual tools that serve in meditation either as centering devices or as symbolic compositions of the energy pattern of a deity as seen by Tantric seers in their vision. BellaOnline's meditation editor Susan Kramer explains how to use a mandala or yantra for meditation.
A mandala is a universal symbol, and a yantra is a cosmically inspired geometric design. By spending time gazing upon them we are drawn within to greater realizations of esoteric qualities - beauty, truth, peace, joy.

I find pictures of blooming flowers inspiring, but use the mandala or yantra that attracts you.

To begin your meditation select a quiet time and sit with a straight back on a cushion on the floor in front of a low table, with a lighted candle and incense if you desire. Read more

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

10 Tips for Exciting Tantric Love Making

Maxine Fraser describes ten Tantric techniques that you can apply the next time you make love to have an experience that neither of you will ever forget.
Tantra is a set of teachings and practices that are specifically designed to help us feel more and to increase our awareness of our own energy and the energy around us. Applying these teachings to love making enriches the whole experience by deepening the sexual connection between partners and creating orgasms that will blow your mind! Read more

Monday, July 28, 2008

Tantra Tips: Touch

Annabelle at SheKnows gives five new ways to touch him to create a deeper, more connected sensual experience.
The inside of his thigh, his earlobe, his neck…yes, we know to touch, scratch, nibble and nuzzle here, but why? Here are other places to thrill your man with your touch with a “why” straight from the tantric source.

One of the big “whys” with varied touch all over the body is to spread the energy of his arousal around the body…so it doesn’t stay focused in the genitals…creating a deeper, more connected sensual experience. Here are a few tips from tantra expert Suzie Heumann’s article “New Ways to Touch Him“: Read more

Saturday, July 26, 2008

13 Tips on Mantra in Yoga Meditation, Vedanta, and Tantra

Mantra practice is a central aspect of Tantra. Following are 13 practical tips on how to use a mantra or sacred word. These suggestions are general in nature and should apply to most any use of mantra.

Thursday, July 24, 2008

Serotonin and Spirituality

According to Psychology Today, serotonin, the brain chemical in charge of moderating mood, metabolism, and sexuality, has been linked to spiritual experiences.
Serotonin, the brain chemical crucial to mood and motivation, also shapes personality to make you susceptible to spiritual experiences. A team of Swedish researchers has found that the presence of a receptor that regulates general serotonin activity in the brain correlates with people's capacity for transcendence, the ability to apprehend phenomena that cannot be explained objectively. Scientists have long suspected that serotonin influences spirituality because drugs known to alter serotonin such as LSD also induce mystical experiences. But now they have proof from brain scans linking the capacity for spirituality with a major biological element. Read more

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Why You Should Learn Tantric Sex

Dawn Cartwright, a SkyDancing Tantra instructor in Los Angeles, describes several easy exercises to get started with Tantric sex.
Ready for your best sex ever? Then check out these easy Tantra exercises to learn how to activate amazingly powerful mind-body connections with your partner. Read more

Saturday, July 19, 2008

Tantric Massage Ritual

A Tantric massage is a great way for a couple to recommit and is often the first step in learning to be a sexual being without going into fantasy or trancing out. It teaches you how to truly feel your body as it is being touched and aroused sexually, to be in the present moment, aroused and alive.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Reach for the Pinnacle with Transcendent Sex

FOX News discovers Tantra. FOXSexpert Yvonne K. Fulbright discusses "transcendent sex" and describes her own ecstatic sexual experience.
If you think orgasm is the pinnacle of sex, think again.

Some people actually supersede the state of climax and reach a state of transcendent sex. Such lovemaking is said to involve a divine force, and is regarded as a path to a higher consciousness. It has been known to change one’s views on sex and spirituality. Yet this mystical, spiritual sexual experience is one of the best kept sex secrets around.


The closest I’ve ever come to such a spontaneous, divine experience involved my life-force energy shooting up from the base of my spine during an orgasm. It happened when I was with my ex-lover and I found myself blissfully lost in a purplish-turned-white light that went beyond my body. Read more

Monday, July 14, 2008

Key to Kama Sutra Position Angles

If you are interested in the sex positions of the Kama Sutra and want to systematically explore many of the various positions, one of the criteria you will want to follow is how effective the position is for G-spot stimulation and ejaculation control, says Suzie Heumann, founder of

Friday, July 11, 2008

Rhythmic Meditation

Sex for Enlightenment describes rhythmic meditation and includes a valuable tip to ensure that you do not lose the benefit of your meditation.
Sit calmly and watch your breathing single-mindedly. Just watch it. Do not manipulate it. Do not regulate it consciously. When you start watching your breathing, you will invariably find that it had been irregular a moment before depending on the state of your mind at that moment. When you keep watching the breathing, it automatically starts regulating itself, the rhythm getting deeper and deeper depending on the single-mindedness of your watching. Read more

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Expanded Orgasm

Sensualist Jonti Searll explains the expanded orgasm - an orgasmic state which lasts 30 minutes or longer.
"Expanded Orgasm is the art and science of expanding both sensual awareness and consciousness through giving and receiving genital stimulation. Expanded Orgasm uses one’s own pathways of body, mind, emotion and spirit to create maximum expansion opportunities - the goal and focus being simply to feel as much pleasure potential as possible." Patricia Taylor, PhD.

The history of Expanded Orgasm goes back to 1976 when Vic Baranco gave a woman a three hour orgasm. Read more

Monday, July 7, 2008

The Kivin Method of Female Oral Stimulation

The Kivin Method of Female Oral Stimulation, which took more than 30 years to research, is a method of cunnilingus that can give a woman a rapid, intense orgasm. Svetlana Ivanova at Sex Secrets explains how it's done.
The Kivin Method, also known as “Tahitian cunnilingus,” is an amazing oral sex technique that will delight any woman. It’s a method that can give a woman a rapid, intense orgasm. Best of all, it’s easy to learn and do. No tongue gymnastics are required. Read more

Thursday, July 3, 2008

How to Achieve Male Multiple Orgasm

Any man can become multi-orgasmic. Once a man learns how to achieve multiple orgasms, he will not only be able to better satisfy himself, but also more effectively satisfy his partner. Mchael Paladin at Health & Fitness Solutions outlines a training program for men who wish to achieve multiple orgasms.
Most people are aware that women are capable of having multiple orgasms, but far fewer seem to know that it’s possible for men to have them as well. The principle behind this is that ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing. There is a difference between the pleasurable sensations of the orgasm and the physical event of ejaculation. In essence, you can have an orgasm without ejaculating, and you can ejaculate without having an orgasm.The trick is distinguishing between the two and learning to control both. Read more

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Yoga for a Whole-Body Orgasm

Yoga is practiced for relaxation and fitness, but did you know that two poses can help you experience even more pleasure during sex?
... In yoga there are poses that teach men to draw your energy inward as opposed to spending it in explosive ways such as at the end of a wind sprint or when trying to jump like Lebron James. The practical application here is gaining control so that your mind is razor-sharp. This type of self-control can result in improved job performance and a sudden meteoric rise. Read more

Monday, June 30, 2008

How to Practice Tantric Sex Intimacy Exercises

Anyone can have sex, but it takes something special go from physical activity to intimacy. Sexual intimacy involves the full range of sensual perception including touch, kiss, looks, expressions of endearment, communication, comments, and, of course, intercourse and orgasm. Tantra sex intimacy exercises can help you become more connected to your partner.
Tantric sex is all about intimacy between two partners. Through tantric exercises, we are able to move our own sexual energies throughout our bodies, directing them to the places they will do the most good. We can also learn to tap into the sexual energies of our partners, using those energies to establish deep, soul-level connections. These connections draw us closer together, creating unbreakable bonds of love and devotion. Properly practicing tantric sex exercises is key to achieving this kind of intimacy. Read more

Sunday, June 29, 2008

7 Myths about Tantra and Tantric Sex

The word Tantra comes from two Sanskrit roots "Tanoi" which can be translated as expand and "Trayati," which means tool. Thus, Tantra can be translated as tool for expansion. The tool is your physical being, and what you are seeking to expand is your consciousness.

In Tantra, the greatest source of energy in the universe is sexual intercourse, and orgasm is considered a cosmic and divine experience. Because Tantra celebrates sexuality, it has become ripe for criticism and misunderstanding. Here are seven myths and truths about Tantric sex:

Myth: Tantric sex is all about sex.

Truth: Tantric sex practices sometimes do not even include genital contact. They are really about energetic and spiritual contact between partners. Intercourse or the connection of genitals only serves to heighten the energetic connection when a couple is ready for that intimate stage.

Myth: Practicing Tantra means you give up pleasure.

Truth: This myth is the opposite of the myth that Tantra is all about sex. The Tantric sex path does not see sexual desire as something to be denied. Instead, Tantra recognizes the powerful force that sex plays in our lives and harnesses it to achieve states of bliss beyond just physical pleasure
Myth: Tantric sex encourages indulgences of the appetites, which leads to affairs or orgies.

Truth: Although some people use Tantric sex as a way to rationalize having sex with many different people or many people at once, this is not the spirit of true Tantra. Sexuality is not meant to be frittered away mindlessly or thoughtlessly, but honored and intended for the purpose of higher states of consciousness, rather than simply physical stimulation or satisfaction.

Myth: Tantric sex turns you into a sex maniac.

Truth: Tantric sex does release your sexual energy and give you full permission to express yourself, so the tendency to act out sexually is possible, but only if you misuse the practices. If you learn the practices responsibly, you will overcome any tendencies to have random, meaningless sex.

Myth: Tantric sex is for Easterners and is not consistent with how we see sex in the West.

Truth: Tantric sex practices are actually quite consistent with our Western way of thinking. The focus on the individual, the acceptance of pleasure, and clearly defined steps are a perfect fit with the way Westerners currently live their lives. Tantric sex retools these approaches to be more aligned with the road to true ecstasy.

Myth: Tantra is a religion and a cult that will trap or brainwash you.

Truth: Tantra is neither a religion nor a cult. Genuine, ethical Tantra teachers do not want to control you. They merely guide you in a series of practices that you choose for yourself and adapt into your life.

Myth: It takes a long time to learn how to do Tantric sex.

Truth: One of the best aspects of the Tantric path is that the practices can be put into effect immediately and results noticed. In just one weekend workshop, you can learn enough basic ideas and practical exercises to immediately improve your sex life and general feelings about yourself, which will generate to every part of your life.

Tantric sex can change your entire outlook on sex. Although Tantra does not promise instant results, for couples who wish to enrich their relationship, these practices can release a particular kind of energy that can bring about harmony and increase sexual pleasure and intimacy. Don't let myths keep you from exploring Tantra and Tantric sex.

Tantric Sex: A Guide to Tantra Lovemaking Secrets and Practices is filled with techniques that are guaranteed to increase your sexual pleasure. Learn how to revolutionize your sex life with Tantric secrets and practices that will bring you to the furthest reaches of sexual and emotional fulfillment. To discover new ways to connect with your partner and revel in orgasms that are whole-body experiences, click here

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Tantra Techniques: 10-Minutes Connects

Build love by bonding twice a day with these Tantra-based techniques from Charles and Caroline Muir.
Each of us has days when we arrive home tired and cranky, wake up on the wrong side of bed, or get stuck in a conflict with our partner. Rather than waiting until you drift apart, couples can proactively build love by bonding twice a day through practices that Western Tantra teachers Charles and Caroline Muir call "10-Minute Connects." Here are three such techniques. Read more

Friday, June 20, 2008

Spiritual Fantasy or Spiritual Growth?

A Living Tantra reader asks Shambhavi, "How can I tell the difference between real spiritual growth and fantasy or wishful thinking?"
Every person doing spiritual practice should ask this question many times. Spiritual awakening is the opposite of fantasy and trancing out. If you want to discover true awakeness and the fullness of human life, you must learn to recognize fantasy, and you must take steps to minimize opportunities to fall into fantasy. Read more

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Awareness, Energy, and Consciousness in Tantra

Tantra teaches us to value and develop our awareness, to cultivate energy, and to link that energy to consciousness in order to become more aware.
Human existence is a dual state and we live in a dual universe: male and female, light and dark, day and night, positive and negative, pleasure and pain, life and death, and so on. It is the aim of yoga and tantra to unify our experience of duality so that we can also experience unity, the transcendent state beyond death.

Tantra describes the human being and the world as having two main poles of existence; consciousness and energy. The human being, the microcosm, has an individual consciousness and an individual life-force that fuels this existence. The world, the macrocosm, has the dual elements of cosmic consciousness and cosmic creative power. Consciousness is the passive pole of existence and creative power is the active pole of existence. Read more

Monday, June 16, 2008

Two Tantric Sex Techniques

Tantra teachers Dianne and Kerry Riley describe two basic Tantric sex techniques that can benefit both men and women.
A male can increase and expand the amount of ecstasy he can have and at the same time increase the length of time he is able to make love so that his partner has a chance of reaching higher states.


There are two tantric sex exercises, two techniques that will help with ejaculation control. One is P.C. Muscle exercises and the other is the breath.

These exercises are also beneficial for women to extend their orgasmic response, taking more pleasure for herself and to give more pleasure to her partner. The P.C. muscle is the major muscle of contraction in both sexes for orgasm, so strengthening it increases sensations of pleasure. Read more

Saturday, June 14, 2008

The 3 Basic Categories of Tantric Sex Techniques

The AT Tantra Tantric Sex site says that the three basic Tantric sex technique categories are the "give and receive" method, the "take" method, and the "modern" method. I've never known anyone who could do the second, but, unfortunately, "teachers" who practice the third to obtain sex and power do exist.
The 3 basic tantra tantric sex technique categories are:
Type 1 - the “give and receive method” - This tantra tantric sex technique involves the couple sharing their "energies" during sex. Think of it like a circle of energy - an electrical circuit if you will. The couple can also "tap into" the energies of the Earth and the Universe/Spirit (which then feeds more energy into this "circuit", and the energy builds and grows). This type of tantra tantric sex technique benefits both partners. That is the basis of the method we recommend and teach. Read more

Thursday, June 12, 2008

So Hum Mantra Meditation Technique

The So Hum mantra, used within the traditions of Tantra and Vedanta, has been called the universal mantra because of the fact that its vibration is already a part of the breath, and everybody breathes. Sooooo... is the sound of inhalation, and Hummmm... is the sound of exhalation.
The simple, yet profound, So Hum Meditation technique is probably one of the most popular Mantra Meditations. It emerges from the Yoga school of Hindu Philosophy and belongs in the category of Japa Meditations (Meditations that require the chanting of Mantras).

The So Hum (aka So Ham, Soham or Sohum) Mantra Meditation, done sincerely, is very effective in bringing about a complete transformation of individual consciousness. So Hum literally means "I am That" (So = "That" or "Thou" or "Divinity"; Hum = "I am") and the mantra’s aim is to bring about this union (yoga) between your individual consciousness and Divine Consciousness. Another way to interpret this purpose, is that the meditation brings about the realization that all that you see is yourself — The Observer is the Observed. Read more

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Monday, June 9, 2008

A Short Definition of Sacred Sex

Catherine Yronwode gives a short definition and history of Tantra, karezza, and other forms of sacred sex. It doesn't get any clearer or more succinct than this.
Tantra (a Sanskrit word which means "woven together") is a term loosely applied to several divergent and even contradictory schools of Hindu yoga in which the sexual union of male and female is worshipped either in principle or in human practice. It has also come to be applied to sex-based religious practices developed in other religions, including Bon, Tibetan Buddhism, Taoism, Christianity, Judaism, and Transcendentalism. Read more

Saturday, June 7, 2008

The 6 Best Sex Positions for Large Couples

While couples who are overweight can enjoy sex just as much as anyone else, certain positions aren't very satisfying for large couples and may make for awkward moments. The positions that might best suit large couples are the woman on top, reverse woman-on-top, rear entry, T-square, X position, and the modified Yab-Yum.

1) Woman-on Top: The female superior positions are great for G-spot stimulation. In the woman-on-top position, the man lies on his back, with his legs straight, or knees slightly bent. If his stomach is very large, he can lift it up with both hands as the woman straddles him with her knees bent, facing him. She can then slide his erect penis into her vagina and start her pelvic thrusts either alone or in conjunction with his. If she stays upright and doesn't lean toward her partner too much, their abdomens won't get in the way.

2) Reverse Woman-on-Top: In this variation of the woman-on-top position, the man lies on his back and the woman straddles him with her back facing his front. She then inserts his penis into her vagina from the rear. The partners' abdomens do not come in contact with each other, which allows deeper penetration. The problem here is that the woman may have to stay in a crouching posture for quite several minutes before the man adjusts himself to the angle of penetration. Push his stomach up before you sit completely.

3) Rear Entry: Rear entry positions are excellent for large couples because the woman is facing away from her partner. This keeps your abdomens from competing for space, gives both of you maximum leeway to move around, and provides excellent G-spot stimulation.

4) T-Square Position: One of the most effective positions for large couples is the T-square position. The woman is on her back with her legs spread wide apart. Her partner lies with his hips under the arch formed by her raised legs. With both abdomens out of the way, the penis can thrust as deeply as desired.

5) X Position: In the X position, the woman lies on her back with her legs bent at the hips and her thighs spread as wide as possible. After the penis is inserted into the vagina, the woman then brings both legs together, while the man swings his body in either direction 45 degrees, forming a large X. The woman should contract the muscles of her vagina during this maneuver to avoid the possibility of the penis slipping out. In this position, the partners' abdomens are not in juxtaposition, but sufficiently removed from each other to permit proper sexual thrusting.

6) Modified Yab-Yum: The modified Yab-Yum has the man sitting on a fairly firm surface with his legs out and slightly apart. His partner sits on him with a firm pillow under her rear to support her. As a variation, she can lean back slightly against a wall or headboard, which increases the friction on her G-spot.

Naturally,there are plenty of things for lovers to do besides sexual intercourse. One can do amazing things with a properly trained set of fingers, and positioning is not generally a problem in oral sex. However, sexual intercourse is a physical expression of intimacy that is important to many large couples, and these six positions can make it comfortable and satisfying.

Tantric Sex: A Guide to Tantra Lovemaking Secrets and Practices is filled with techniques that are guaranteed to increase your sexual pleasure. Learn how to revolutionize your sex life with Tantric secrets and practices that will bring you to the furthest reaches of sexual and emotional fulfillment. To discover new ways to connect with your partner and revel in orgasms that are whole-body experiences, click here

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Increasing Sexual Intimacy through Touch

Touch enhances sensuality by stimulating the release of endorphins, the body's mood-elevating chemicals. Caresses can reduce blood pressure and make people feel calmer and happier, and the stress-reducing effects of sexual touch can set the stage for fulfilling lovemaking."
Exploring sexual touch with your partner can be a wonderful way to deepen sexual intimacy, and discover new aspects of your own (and your partner's) sexuality. Sexual touch is not about orgasm, it's about exploration. Try not to think of it as another technique to get to some end point. Some people consider this kind of exploration to be "energy work" or "spiritual sex", but it isn't necessary to name it in that way order to do it. Read more

Sunday, June 1, 2008

Make Your House Your Ashram

An ashram in ancient India was a Hindu hermitage where sages lived in peace and tranquility amidst nature. Most of us can't leave our homes to spend time in an ashram, so why not make your home your ashram?
Your ashram is where you are! The reason why an ashram becomes a center of energy is because of a dedication. You can transform the place you live in, in a glorious centre of shining power and energy!

All you have to do is start taking action in that direction, so that your outer reality reflects your inner state of mind. If you start touching the space of yoga in you, let it reflect on your personal space. Make it more than an altar in some corner of your house.

This energy is truly ready to embody itself where you are. All you have to do is give it space. Read more

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

What Is Shakti?

Anyone who reads anything about Tantra comes across the term Shakti. What is Shakti?
Shakti is the ultimate creative power of the universe. Shakti creates, she is not created. To be able to tap into this creative power is one of the goals of yoga and tantra. The realization of this power in us leads to freedom from limitation and the awakening of a higher life.

Shakti is pulsating, vibrating, throbbing creating power or force. These vibrations create the universe, the Big Bang, and all names and forms. These vibrations are represented as mantras, and when a series of sounds, a garland of letters, is infused with Shakti, the sound is transformed into a potent tool that can awaken the higher mind and reveal knowledge which leads to higher experience. Read more

Sunday, May 25, 2008

Using Conscious Breathing to Explore Your Sexual Awareness

Conscious breathing is probably the oldest technique you can use to bring your attention to your body. Cory Silverberg describes a four-step process for using conscious breathing to explore your sexual awareness.
Breathing and sex have a lot in common. There are the obvious connections (we need to breathe to have sex and we can’t have sex if we aren’t breathing). And there are more subtle connections. For example, many people assume that both breathing and sex are activities that come naturally and that we shouldn’t have to ever think about. An assumption that’s not exactly accurate. While it’s true that for most of us breathing is involuntary and something we don’t have to learn, it’s equally true that if we never pay attention to our breathe we probably aren’t getting the most out of it. Of course the same can be said for our sexuality.

Breathing can be energizing or relaxing. Sex can also be energizing and relaxing. One of the great benefits of sex play is how it relaxes us afterwards, and much of that relaxation comes from the way we breathe when we're having sex.

Because our breath is fundamental to both our overall health and our awareness, it can be a powerful tool for sexual exploration. Read more

Friday, May 23, 2008

Burning Incense Is Psychoactive

Burning incense is a staple of Tantric ceremonies and meditations. Science now tells us that burning incense is not just good for the soul, but also good for the brain.
Religious leaders have contended for millennia that burning incense is good for the soul. Now, biologists have learned that it is good for our brains too. An international team of scientists, including researchers from Johns Hopkins University and the Hebrew University in Jerusalem, describe how burning frankincense (resin from the Boswellia plant) activates poorly understood ion channels in the brain to alleviate anxiety or depression. This suggests that an entirely new class of depression and anxiety drugs might be right under our noses. Read more

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Tantric Sex Techniques to Reinvigorate Lovemaking

Though the Tantra teachers and students who want to feel special and superior don't like it, Tantra continues to become more mainstream. Discovery Health has an article by Amy Painter "Tantric Sex Techniques to Reinvigorate Lovemaking" that provides a good introduction to Tantric sex.
Have you ever experienced a moment of sexual ecstasy? How did it make you feel? Exhilarated? Luminous? Deeply connected? Intense sexual experiences are one of our greatest sources of pleasure.

At the same time, sex is often regarded with an equal measure of fear and fascination. We may crave sexual intimacy to the core of our being, yet also take great pains to avoid it. We may wish to be touched with all of our heart, yet fear our own vulnerability. We may long to rekindle lost passion, but have forgotten how to light the fire.

The practice of Tantra shows us how to reclaim the sexual intimacy that is our birthright. And through this most ancient of arts, we may discover new joys of the erotic and expand mere moments of sexual ecstasy into a lifetime of sexual bliss. At a time when the stresses, fears and distractions of daily life threaten so many relationships, the age-old practice of Tantra shows us how to open our hearts, our emotions and our sexuality. Read more

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Sex Makes You Feel Closer to God

The Naughty American looks at Arthur Versluis's, book The Secret History of Western Sexual Mysticism: Sacred Practices and Spiritual Marriage.
Outdoor orgies bring people closer to God.

It sounds strange, but humans have been using sex for centuries as a way to get closer to God, according to Arthur Versluis, author of "The Secret History of Western Sexual Mysticism: Sacred Practices and Spiritual Marriage" (Inner Traditions & Bear).

In his research, Versluis uncovered religious sects that made radical sexual practices part of their worship, including engaging in group orgies in the wilderness and having sexual intercourse without allowing men to ejaculate. Read more

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Male Multiple Orgasm: Tantra Energetics For Longer Lasting Lovemaking

Francesca Gentille interviews Somraj Pokras about The Four Cornerstones of Supreme Bliss: breath, sound, movement, and presence as well as about at-home exercises to increase vital sexual energy. Somraj reveals a 6-Step Formula to teach men to shift to Tantric lovemaking so that they can last all night. Learn how to use the 10-point scale of sexual arousal to pace your arousal level and synchronize with your partner. Listen to the podcast

Monday, May 12, 2008

Some Tantric Exercises to Increase General Well-Being and Sexual Abilities

Knut Holt presents a Tantric exercise routine that promotes a healthy anal and genital area, which is important to both general well-being and sexual abilities.
A healthy anal and genital area is of great importance both for the general well-being and for the sexual abilities. The same is true about a healthy respiratory tract and breathing apparatus. Here are presented three poses and three breathing exercises that have the following effects when done together in a series:
  • They stimulate the physiological functions of the genital and anal area.
  • They correct muscle weakness and anatomical problems of the anal and genital region.
  • They increase the sexual drive and abilities.
  • They produce a stimulating response that spreads upwards along the spine and revitalizes the whole body.
  • They stimulate the physiological functions of the respiratory tract and help against infections in the airways.
  • The exercises are very good to start each day with, or to do before going to bed in the night. Read more

Saturday, May 10, 2008

5 Tips for a Perfect Tantric Massage

Stela at Tantra Yoga Techniques gives her top five tips for a perfect Tantra massage.
You are no doubt very excited about experiencing the benefits that Tantric Massage can achieve. Before you jump in, you must ensure that you are focused on what you are practising and be prepared for your practice.

I am now going to tell you my top tips that I use which allow me to get the most from my practice. Read more

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

The Foreskin, Thrusting Patterns, and Slowing Down

Suzie Heumann at Tantra and Kama Sutra Blog with Suzie explains how to use thrusting patterns to take advantage of the foreskin's ability to enhance women's pleasure.
Ever wonder why the penis has a head on it? Why isn't it just a smooth surface all the way to the body? Yes, the foreskin has to attach somewhere and foreskin does protect the sensitive tissue there but the Taoists have another idea about it. It’s there for more pleasure – a woman’s pleasure. Read more

Monday, May 5, 2008

Kama Sutra Love Sounds

Suzie Heumann, founder of, tells how to make sounds during sex that will move your sexual energy and enhance orgasm.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

The Ultimate Fine-Tuned Male Lover

What does a man need to know to perfect his lovemaking skills? To begin with, he needs to remember that "one size does not fit all."
Men should know that just because some techniques drive one woman crazy, the same technique could irritate another or even the same woman at different times.

So what does a man need to know to perfect his love-making skills? Read more

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Ecstatic Sex versus Tantric Sex

Life, Relationship, and Law of Attraction Coach Lisa Love compares ecstatic sex to Tantric sex, which she says has been distorted in the Western world.
Ecstatic sex is not possible without intimacy and commitment. As tantric sex has been exported to the Western world it has frequently been distorted. Here's how. Read more

Monday, April 28, 2008

Pranic, Tantric, and Reiki: Are All Energy Healings the Same?

You've undoubtedly heard about different kinds of energy healing, but just what is energy and how can it heal? Does it matter what method of energy healing you use?
You have certainly seen them while scoping out the New Age section of your local bookstore. Prana. Aura. Chakra. Tantra. What do all of these words mean? What’s the story here? Obviously there must be something to it, with all of these books dedicated to the topic.

Are All Energy Healings the Same? Read more

Saturday, April 26, 2008

Igniting Orgasmic Meditation

Francesca Gentille interviews Nicole Daedone, founder of OneTaste™ Urban Retreat and Insight Institute, about igniting orgasmic meditation. In the interview, Nicole explores steps to expand arousal, connection, and pleasure, using the OneTaste practice of two people focusing on the orgasmic sensations of one. Discover how your brain works to guide you into the truth of pleasure and connection found in the limbic system. Learn a simple, concrete, yet powerful practice to connect with the fundamental energy of arousal in your body and the body of your lover. Listen now

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Do You Need a Guru?

A reader from Florida asks Shambhavi at Living Tantra the following question: "Today, people who want to practice can get instruction in books and over the Internet. So many mantras can be found online that are supposedly secret. There are whole courses in Tantra given over the Internet or on CDs. Do you think that a person can make good progress without a teacher if he sincerely practices things learned in these ways?"

Shambhavi answers:
My Guru, Anandamayi Ma, taught that there are infinite paths to Self-realization. Anything is possible.

However, she also taught that there are slower and faster paths. Read more

Monday, April 21, 2008

Step-by-Step Tantric Foreplay Exercises

Traditionally, "foreplay" was considered to be something that a man had to do to get his partner ready for sexual intercourse. Today, foreplay has become an integral part of the whole lovemaking experience. Gabrielle Moore describes step-by-step Tantric foreplay exercises that will bring increased pleasure to both partners, and make the whole lovemaking experience more enjoyable.
Tantric sex is all about ‘being one’ with your body, your partner and her body, and with the environment / universe. As such, tantric sex is against rushing things for the purpose of reaching an orgasm. For this reason, it’s very important to include foreplay in each lovemaking session.

Sadly, foreplay seems to be not an important part of people’s relationships in today’s fast-paced world! Well, if you’re interested in tantric sex, then you should know now that tantric foreplay is as important as reaching a climax itself. Read more

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Yoga for Better Sex

Yoga is not only healthful, but certain poses can help you have better sex.
In ancient times yogis practiced celibacy so that all of their energy could be directed toward spiritual advancement. Makes you wonder: How could these supposedly wise guys have gotten it so wrong?

Today yoga lovers are finding that more time on the mat means more-and steamier-time spent reveling in their newly toned bodies. To take a walk on yoga's carnal side, add these moves to your routine. Or just do them by themselves to turn up the heat. Read more

Thursday, April 17, 2008

How to Open the Sushumna Central Channel

Opening the central channel is one of the goals of Tantric practice. This post from Meditation Expert explains the process.
Today I want to explain a little about opening up the central channel, called the "zhong mai" in Chinese and "sushumna" in India yoga, and introduce to you a tantra for achieving it. Indian yoga tantric practice and Tibetan Buddhism both emphasize opening up this channel because without it you cannot get samadhi. Actually, it's relatively easy to open up the central channel, but hard to open up the heart chakra. You can get samadhi and cultivate the samadhi and dhyana without opening up the heart chakra but to really get the Tao and what is termed "enlightenment," you need to open up the heart chakra. Otherwise you cannot see the Tao but are just a samadhi cultivator. So let's discuss that process. Read more

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

Two Tantric Techniques for Ejaculatory Control

Tantra teaches us that for a man to achieve the highest ecstasy possible for himself and his lover, he first needs to learn ejaculation control.
According to studies, around 70 percent of women do not reach an orgasm during intercourse. Why? One reason may be that the man does not know how to properly stimulate her, so she never really becomes aroused enough to climax. Another reason is that he ejaculates before she has time to to reach climax.

Two Tantric techniques for ejaculatory control will allow you to last long enough for her to climax. Use masturbation to practice these exercises before trying them with your partner. It will take most men several sessions to master each one. Even the most sympathetic wife or girlfriend will get tired of being used for "training." Read more

Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Hot, Emotionally Rich, Spiritually Evolving Relationships

Personal growth coach Chip August interviews relationship experts Al Link and Pala Copeland, who teach committed couples how to create a lifetime of love through workshops, books, personal coaching, public appearances and their blog. After more than 20 years of Tantric practice and more than 10 years as teachers, Al and Pala have great things to say about keeping the flames of passion burning indefinitely in your relationship, and don’t miss their sweet, simple exercise for you to try at home. Listen to the podcast

Monday, April 7, 2008

Women's Tantric Breathing and Orgasm

Women who don't orgasm easily often hold their breath as they get more aroused. As they approach a kind of transition stage on the way to peak arousal, say a 7 or 8 on a scale of 10, they will often hold their breath, and then nothing happens. Suzie Heumann, founder of, explains how to overcome this habit.

Friday, April 4, 2008

Tantra and Miracles

A reader at Living Tantra asks this question: "I wonder why there is so much emphasis on miracle powers when describing tantra, when that isn’t the point. Even in books that purport to discuss the spiritual path, there can be this emphasis. I am thinking of Autobiography of a Yogi, for example. Yogananda says that miracle powers are not the point, and yet a good portion of the book describes various people and their miracle powers.?" Shambhavi answers:
Many people desire to have a “peak experience” that will soften their feelings of isolation. We search for these peak experiences in sex, food, drugs, religion and in our spiritual practice or from our Gurus.

The desire to be saved attracts a lot of people to lineages in which teachers give shaktipat as a regular practice. We can become spiritual experience junkies just as we can become sugar or heroin addicts. Read more

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

What Is Tantric Sex?

What is Tantric sex? It seems to have become a synonym for prolonged lovemaking in the popular media, but that definition begs the question: why prolong lovemaking?
Tantra is different from western ideas about sex in some other important ways. The western concept of sex is like a story with a clear beginning (sexual excitement), middle (penetration), and end (orgasm). This is the way it’s supposed to be and if you don’t follow the story, something is wrong. Sex without penetration is often viewed as being "not real” or “merely” foreplay.

In Tantric sex the point of sex is not orgasm, the point is to feel. There is no clear cut beginning middle or end. Most of the exercises related to Tantric sex involve slowing things down, trying not to focus on our external body, or orgasm, or anything outside of our experience of the moment. Read more

Monday, March 31, 2008

Trataka : Meditation of Third Eye

Trataka is usually thought of as gazing at an external object, such as a candle flame or yantra, but here is a method for internal Trataka.
The meditation technique which you are going to read is 'Trataka' (also known as third eye meditation). In the belief system of 'Tantra' and 'Hatha Yoga' there is a concept of Kundalini. Read more

Friday, March 28, 2008

Integration of the Inner Male and Inner Female

Tantra teacher Rahasya talks about the integration of masculine and feminine aspects, a core purpose of Tantric practice.

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Tantric Massage Step-by-Step

Many people are interested in receiving or giving a Tantric massage. The difference between therapeutic massage and Tantric massage is that Tantric massage is not only about healing, but also about sensuality and pleasure.
Tantric Massage is a ritual of receiving sensual kundalini (sexual) energy. In this ritual, you are given time to explore your body without goals. Tantric massage adds energy healing and tantric coaching to the ecstasy of receiving a nurturing and awakening sensual massage. It creates an environment in which you can release stress and feel more alive in your body while staying fully present to your sexual energy.

A Tantric massage is often the first step in learning to be a sexual being without going into fantasy or trancing out. It teaches you how to truly feel your body as it is being touched and aroused sexually, to be in the present moment, aroused and alive. Read more

Monday, March 24, 2008

Making Love without Intercourse

There are many sexual options that don’t include penetration. These options can be so pleasurable that everybody should add more penetration-free erotic play into their lovemaking.
Kissing, cuddling and touching are an important part of lovemaking and couples that run their lives in this way use every opportunity to share such affection.

The slightest touch or pat can be worth a thousand words and a hug at just the right time makes words redundant. Sometimes these little intimacies simply say, "I love you", yet on other occasions it is clear they are preludes to some sort of sexual activity. The couple in tune with each other know without saying, which is which, and use such teasing, even perhaps to some level of arousal, as a sort of work-up to intercourse later. Read more

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

Tantric Pelvic Bouncing for Better Orgasms

Some Tantric exercises are quick, simple, and require no previous training. Tantric pelvic bouncing will tone your buttocks and enhance your orgasm. It's extremely easy to do, and the resulting surge of energy you will feel after a session of pelvic bouncing will make you ready for lovemaking.

To begin a session, lie on your back with knees bent and your feet flat on the bed or floor about hips-width apart. Have your arms by your sides with your palms facing upwards. Breathe deeply for a few minutes to help release tension.

Lengthen your neck and relax your jaw and shoulders. Keep your neck relaxed as you press your heels down onto your bed or floor, clench your buttocks, and raise your hips. Begin to bounce your pelvis up and down. You can either do this rhythmically, or you can experiment with different speeds.

Try to bounce continuously for one minute, rest and breathe deeply for 30 seconds, and then bounce for another minute. Try two sets of bouncing to begin with, working up to five sets at least every other day.

When bouncing, you are, in effect, charging your entire body with energy. When you stop, the energy will start to move upward. It may make it easier if you imagine the energy as a silver or gold light moving up to the top of your head and then tracing a line down the front of your body to settle in your navel.

Tantric pelvic bouncing is an incredibly simple, but effective, exercise that can boost your libido and help you and your partner share your sexual energy.

Tantric Sex: A Guide to Tantra Lovemaking Secrets and Practices is filled with techniques that are guaranteed to increase your sexual pleasure. Learn how to revolutionize your sex life with Tantric secrets and practices that will bring you to the furthest reaches of sexual and emotional fulfillment. To discover new ways to connect with your partner and revel in orgasms that are whole-body experiences, click here

Monday, March 17, 2008

Health and Intimacy Benefits of Practicing Tantra Yoga and Tantric Sex

Chandi Devi writes about the health and intimacy benefits of practicing Tantra yoga and Tantric sex.
Sexual Health CAN be improved naturally through the practices of Tantra Yoga and tantric sex. Besides having a strong body/mind/spirit connection, every loving couple should also enjoy multiple, powerful sexual orgasms, which stimulate and increase the secretion of the pineal and pituitary glands. Read more

Friday, March 14, 2008

Tantric and Taoist Sexuality: What's the Difference?

Ask About Love And Sex blog answers a question that many people have probably asked: "What is the difference between Tantric and Taoist Sexuality?"
Tantra originated in India and Taoist sexuality is from China; both go back thousands of years. Both strongly emphasize working with sexual energy very deliberately and consciously, and in similar ways. Men are encouraged to learn to delay ejaculation and to separate orgasm and ejaculation to have male multiple orgasms. Read more

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Tantric Meditation

Susan Kramer, BellaOnline's meditation editor, gives an easy Tantric meditation suitable for both beginning and experienced mediators.
Tantra is balance of the vibrant male and female energy. When we feel these complementary energies balanced within, we feel like a whole and complete person, without the compulsory idea that we need another person to make us feel complete. Following is a meditation that fosters feeling whole, complete, joyful! Read more

Monday, March 10, 2008

Sex Chakra Yoga for Wealth, Relationships, and Sex

The sex chakra is where all your creative energy perches. After a full sexual experience, men lose motivation and drive whereas women gain energy. This is due to the giving of second chakra energy from the man to the woman. If you have trouble keeping your promises, if you have trouble making money or keeping appointments, if you have trouble reproducing habits, services, commitments, products, and babies, then this is the physical method of healing the sex chakra and, thus, your life. Read more

Friday, March 7, 2008

Sexual Healing: The Female Deer Exercise

The Female Deer Exercise is the best known women's exercise from Taoist Chi Kung. It cultivates sexual energy, improves physical vitality and mental alertness, improves sexual enjoyment, and reduces or eliminates many common women's ailments. It is simple to perform, takes only a few minutes, and is very pleasurable.

There are two steps to the exercise: 1) a breast massage and 2) a pelvic contraction called "holding firm," which is similar to a kegel exercise.

The Female Deer Exercise
Sit naked on a flat surface with your legs stretched out before you. Bend one leg and place the heel at the entrance of your vagina so that it presses firmly against your clitoris. If this is not comfortable, then place a hard ball there instead. The pressure should be consistently firm.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Traditional Tantra and Neo-Tantra

At Traditional Yoga Studies traditional Tantra is compared with so-called neo-Tantra. Though I don't think the distinction is quite as clear it's made out to be, the article tries to differentiate between the two:
Tantra, or Tantrism, is the broad term by which Western students of India’s spirituality designate a particular type of teaching within Hinduism and Buddhism. What that teaching is cannot be readily summarized, because Tantrism comprises a very wide spectrum of beliefs and practices. However, to proffer a simplified description, we can say that most schools of Tantrism include the following features:
Eleven features of traditional Tantra are listed. The discussion then turns to neo-Tantra:
Neo-Tantrism, by now a stable feature of the New Age movement, is a popularization of Tantric teachings. In many cases, the teachers of this new-wave Tantrism appear not to have had the benefit of proper initiation by a competent Tantric guru; nor have they, generally speaking, studied the Tantric scriptures in sufficient depth to have a clear understanding of the extraordinary heritage they purport to represent. The danger of misunderstanding and vulgarization is obvious when we scan the popular literature.
Why is misunderstanding and vulgarization a danger exactly? Every field has amateurs and professionals, dilettantes and experts. Why should Tantra be different? What is wrong with sharing knowledge with interested people even if they are not and may never be interested in making a full commitment to practicing traditional Tantra? That is exactly where most of the next generation of Tantric practitioners will come from - from those who got a taste of Tantra and wanted more.

If you have had a taste and would like to know more about traditional Tantra, read the full article.

Monday, March 3, 2008

What Is White Tantra?

Tantra is generally divided into two main streams: Red Tantra and White Tantra. Red Tantra or Tantra of the Left Hand (Vama Marga) involves the use of practices that were considered taboo, such as the ritual of sexual union (maithuna), as a means of attaining liberation. Red Tantra uses sexual union as means for going beyond into transcendent states of consciousness.

White Tantra or Tantra of the Right Hand (Dakshina Marga) involves the meditative techniques of Tantra and is essentially a celibate, ascetic path.
White Tantra is a timeless synthesis of two ideals: union with the Divine and perfect health of mind and body. The genius of the ancient Indian mystics has left us a rich legacy of knowledge, based upon the power of sound, which puts man’s quest for enlightenment and for health, happiness and prosperity in perfect balance. This secret knowledge, passed down in an ancient oral tradition for thousands of years, is an authentic spiritual art perfectly preserved for today�s world.


There are no authentic books or scriptures on White Tantra available anywhere. In ancient times Tantric seers kept this science highly secret. Their secrecy was not simply to prevent people from learning Tantric techniques so that they could maintain a monopoly on the knowledge, but also to protect innocent people from the volatile potential of powers that could be unleashed through incorrect practice. Read more

Friday, February 29, 2008

The Science behind Tantric Eye Gazing

Eye gazing - looking into the eyes of your partner for long periods of time - is an ancient Tantric practice. Science has now discovered why it's such an effective bonding technique.
The reason you like gazing into your lover's eyes may be because you used to gaze into your mother's eyes when you were an infant, since this released a comforting brain hormone, which is also stimulated by touches and hugs. And what if those eyes you're gazing into are blue?

Researchers have learned that the brain chemical oxytocin is released through touch between mother-infant and male- female pair bonds. It is released during hugging and pleasant physical touch, and may actually change the brain in a way that helps human social behavior.

Researcher Kai MacDonald says, "That's why oxytocin is sometimes called 'the love hormone.' It's said that the eyes are the window to the soul…they certainly are the window to the emotional brain. We know that the eye-to-eye communication—which is affected by oxytocin—is critical to intimate emotional communication for all kind of emotions— love, fear, trust, anxiety." Read more

Monday, February 25, 2008

Using Kundalini for Healing

Kundalini is a Sanskrit word meaning either "coiled up" or "coiling like a snake." Kundalini is a psycho-spiritual energy that resides within the body. Greenwoman at Green Rootsdown gives some specific meditative practices for using the kundalini energy for healing.
... In any case, it made me wonder if I’ve ever mentioned that the Basic Tantra meditations can be used for healing your body? So can the Divine Light Invocation meditations and the Purification or Element Breaths. The Tantra meditation is specifically to encourage the kundalini to rise in the body. Encouraging the kundalini to bathe your body will restore balance. It may not cure illness permanently. Some illness is necessary for the soul to grow and evolve and to be the instrument of transition, but even in those instances, kundalini energy will support balance and learning from the illness experience. It is also very helpful for things like this illness I have or for the common cold. It will speed recovery, prevent illness and strengthen the whole immune system when you meditate regularly with it. It is also known to alleviate prostate problems and in some men even eliminate them. Its very good for you in oh so many ways….and besides that? Damn! It feels soooo good to have all the sexy energy rushing around your body. Read more

Friday, February 22, 2008

Origins of Tantra and Tantric Sex: The Nath Tradition

The Nath tradition is a lineage of spiritual masters, connected through Babaji, (the spiritual master introduced in Yogananda's Autobiography of a Yogi). Yogiraj Gurunath Siddhanath demonstrates in his own life that powerful spiritual practice can be integrated with family life and a career. Yogiraj teaches these techniques, which he collectively calls "The Alchemy of Total Transformation" to students who wish to integrate these practices into their daily life without the necessity of giving up worldly pursuits.

Friday, February 15, 2008