Have you ever gotten that craving for sex, but not for the usual reasons? After a particularly rotten date, a silly fight with one of my best friends, or maybe just one of those days when nothing seems to go my way, I tend to call a certain "acquaintance" who is more than happy to have me over for a few hours between the sheets. This guy isn't someone I'd date, or even consider a friend, but he does have a knack for taking me from forlorn to very content faster than any other remedy I've tried.
Here's the strange part, though: These aren't wild, amazing, did-it-on-every-surface-of-the-apartment liaisons. The sex is good, but it's not life-changing. And even stranger, that's why I like it. Every time it goes pretty much the way I expect, no more, no less. Our encounters don't rock my world -- but they do leave me full of endorphins and also that warm, safe feeling you get from simply being held. Exactly what I needed. Read more
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Sex doesn't always have to be ecstatic, says Jill Di Donato. Sometimes it can just be comforting, and that's not a bad thing.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
If you've explored Tantric sex at all, you've probably heard of full-body orgasms. If you've never had one but would like to, Tantra teacher Crystal Dawn Morris lists ten steps for awakening the full-body orgasm tonight.
Tantra uses sexual energy to expand awareness and experience ecstasy. It teaches people how to move their sexual energy from their genitals, up to the top of their head, and everywhere in between, allowing the entire physical and energetic body to become ecstatic. When the sexual energy reaches the crown it can expand a persons awareness of the mystical realms, allowing them to recognize they are Divine Consciousness in human form.
A full body orgasm is the experience of feeling your whole body vibrating with orgasmic energy. This can be done outside of a sexual context as well as while making love. Anyone can learn how to have a full body orgasm by following the steps below. Read more
Thursday, November 17, 2011
A recent study found that meditation isn't only a form of rest and relaxation: it can also improve your sex life.
Meditation has become a popular practice over the years, helping to combat stress and promote mental well-being.
But it seems the daily ritual isn't only a form of rest and relaxation - it can also improve your sex life.
Women who are able to train their thoughts while love-making experience more pleasure between the sheets, a study has revealed. Read more
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann explains what all this "god and goddess stuff" in Tantra has to do with sex.
My website, tantra.com, contains lots of sacred iconography: pictures of gods and goddesses, candles, and other archetypal imagery. I've had people tell me that they can't relate because they're not Hindu, or they don't like religion. They ask me, what does all this god and goddess stuff have to do with sex? And why should sex have to be "sacred" anyway? Can't it just be simple and good?
Here's the thing: I don't think sex should be simple! I think it should be a profound experience. The laissez-faire attitude we have about sex today is liberating in some ways but limiting in others. One of the reasons that the ancient tantrics and Taoists devised methods to prolong orgasm is that they realized orgasm takes us to a sometimes mystical, wholly different place, but only momentarily. So the idea was to extend that ecstatic moment and make it a portal into higher states of consciousness. Read more
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Tantra teachers Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson are on a mission to squelch the myths about Tantra.
Perhaps you've heard of musician Sting's boast of his seven-hour love-making sessions with wife, Trudie Styler.
It was his practice of tantra and yoga that allowed him to keep going, he had said.
Or maybe you heard buzzing of tantra and many sexual positions, erotic massage or orgies.
Turns out, none of those are really true of the ancient Hindu tradition, which practices the idea that personal fulfillment, enlightenment and a connection to the divine come through life's energies, including sexual energy. It is a mystical experience its practitioners seek.
(Sting later amended his initial remarks, explaining that Trudie "is my connection to the sacred.")
While the masses have linked tantric sex to the more salacious, tantra is a discipline, a way of life. It employs meditation and uses the body as a tool, and the romantic relationship as a microcosm for reflection and awareness. In the tradition of tantra, sex is intrinsically sacred.
However, tantra is more spiritual as a practice and can be the secret of finding bliss in all areas of life, explain Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson of Yorktown, N.Y. Read more