How to Have Multiple Orgasms

Any woman can have multiple orgasms. Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross explain what a multiple orgasm is and how women can have them by "riding the wave."

5 Ways for Women to Achieve Orgasm with Intercourse

According to sex surveys, most women don't have orgasms with intercourse, but Svetlana Ivanova says that's because couples are not using the right positions and techniques.

Sex surveys indicate that only 25-33% of women have orgasms with sexual intercourse. Recently, some researchers have even suggested that the ability to have orgasms with intercourse is genetic, which I find extremely hard to believe. That would mean that a majority of women are genetically unable to perform a basic human function – orgasm from penetration. What’s much more likely is that women who can’t orgasm with intercourse are not using the right positions and techniques. Here are five ways for women to achieve orgasm with intercourse. Read more

The Art of the Multidimensional Orgasm

Psychologist and sex educator Linda E. Savage says men and women are capable of experiencing orgasms in multiple dimensions because we are actually an organized combination of several energy systems around a unifying field.

... There is something I'll call "conventional" orgasm, which may be what some of you are referencing as you write your comments. Neurochemically, orgasm releases the hormone oxytocin, which promotes good feelings and can lead to mutual comfort, safety, and caring, but not always. For example, if you have an orgasm with a casual encounter, it is unlikely to promote anything but a feeling of release with a strong desire to go home. Many times disconnected or addictive sex can lead to emotional irritability and intense feelings of malaise, self blame or even the blues.

Oxytocin breaks down quickly in the body, so the good feelings dissipate rapidly unless you choose to maintain the powerful relationship bonding that sex can offer. If you remember the exercise called Touching Hearts that I suggested in the second blog, (sadly, some people thought they'd feel silly trying it with their partners) there are great benefits from stimulating emotions that accompany open-heartedness such as appreciation, giving, caring, closeness. These emotions decrease our levels of cortisol, high levels of which are harmful, and increase our levels of the beneficial hormone, DHEA.

However, aside from genitally focused sex, with its relatively rapid release and let down after orgasm, there are two other levels (there are many, but I'm keeping it simple). These are: Read more

The Differences Between Hook-Up Sex, Marital Sex, and Making Love

Douglas LaBier explains the differences between hook-up sex, marital sex, and making love. He says that striving for the "Making Love" type of sexual partnership keeps your relationship alive and growing because ouples who build such a relationship feel enduring connection and sustained passion.

Did that title get your attention? No, this isn't a "bait and switch!" It really is about the differences between "Hook-Up Sex," "Marital Sex," and "Making Love." I've found that confusion about those differences play out in many of the conflicts people experience in their sexual-romantic relationships, no matter what their ages or kinds of relationships.

First, some clarification about what I mean by each term. "Hook-Up Sex" refers to just plain f***ing; that is, a purely physical encounter. "Marital Sex" is the kind of sex life that most committed couples tend to have -- married or not, straight or gay. And "Making Love" is a different kind of experience that transcends both of the other two kinds. Read more

Tantric Loving and the Melting Hug

Luminessa Enjara describes how to do the melting hug or full chakra hug, and for the more adventurous she includes a video of the "Ecstatic Embrace."

The art of hugging you say? Come on, what is there to learn about giving a hug? Lots!

A hug can tell you a lot about a person, whether they are open or closed, relaxed or tense, available for intimacy or not. You may find that hugging is very natural and yet some people find that they are uncomfortable when giving a hug.

Who has not been asked for hug? Read more

Unplugged Tantra: 3 Easy Steps to Recharging for Two

Tantra teacher Suzie Heumann describes three Tantric practices for improving your emotional awareness, your trust for your partner, and your memory for faces and social experiences.

It’s a crazy life and you probably don’t need to be reminded about it again. The thing is, we get stuck in the rut like hamsters on a wheel, and we can’t see clearly enough to get creative about shifting our experiences. How do you integrate everything you want to do in life and have less stress? Here are some ideas that will help you loosen those wound-up strings, increase your love juice, help you relax better at any given time and radically improve your sex life. Sound too good to be true? Only you will be able to tell, once you give it a try.

What do you think when you hear the word Tantra? You probably think: “A lot of sex for a long period of time.” You can go there if you want to but Western Tantric practices are more about taking the goals out of sexual activities, bringing in the practices of consciousness and relating consciously, sensual expression and the experience of spending time in the realms of oneness with, well, everything. Everything includes your lover, partner, your breath, their body, a “higher power” and even maybe the whole universe. In these times of global change, feeling more a part of everything around you helps to recharge and replenish You. Read more

The True Purpose of Relationships

Anmol Mehta says that your relationship is not there for divine male and divine female to merge through you and your partner, and certainly not to make you happy or satisfy your needs. Then what is the true purpose of relationships?

Your relationship is not there to make you happy. It is not there to satisfy your needs. It is not there to help you escape your loneliness. Its purpose is not for you to procreate, although you might. It is not there to provide you with a tax break, although you should take that. It is certainly not there for you to exploit, by exerting power and control over the other. It is not there to hold together the so called moral fiber of society. It is not there because God mandates it. It is not there for divine male and divine female to merge through you and your partner. It is not there to play with Kundalini, although can be used for that. It is there as the mirror in which to see yourself clearly. That’s it. Read more