If you want to last longer in bed, one of the easiest ways is to simply learn how to breathe correctly. As you come near orgasm, your breathing usually gets faster and your heart rate increases. During sexual arousal, your rate of breathing increases from a resting rate to 35-40 breaths per minute. During orgasm, it may increase to over 50 breaths per minute.
Of all the physiological changes that take place in sexual intercourse, breathing is the only one that can be voluntarily controlled. This leads to the obvious conclusion that breathing more slowly will slow your heart rate and make it easier to delay ejaculation. If you learn the simple techniques below, you will last longer and enjoy a more satisfying sexual experience.
During intercourse, here is what you need to do:
1) Take a long, deep inhale, wait a few seconds, and exhale slowly.
2) Maintain slow, rhythmic, controlled breathing when you do so.
3) When you feel you are coming close to orgasm, your breathing will become faster as your excitement mounts. Pay attention and try to concentrate on doing the following:
Concentrate on long, slow breaths. To do this, inhale, hold for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly. As your breathing slows, your body will become more relaxed. Orgasms always feature fast breaths, so it's obvious that slower breathing helps you last longer in bed. You simply fool your body into thinking that it is not time for the process to be completed.
Another trick to slow your breathing is to not use your mouth to inhale. Instead, breathe slowly through your nose. Nose breathing means slower breaths simply because the nostrils are smaller than your mouth. Concentrate on breathing slowly when you get near orgasm. Keep your mouth closed at this time. Don't force yout breathing. Keep it slow and rhythmic.
When you want to delay orgasm, do the following:
1) Breathe slowly and deeply through the nose.
2) Inhale deeply, hold, and then slowly exhale. Concentrate on your breathing.
3) If you feel you have to stop and pause to delay ejaculation, keep the slow nose breathing going during the break
Controlling your breathing is vital for better sex. Breathing correctly can not only help you last longer in bed, but it can also enhance the sexual experience. Try synchronizing your breathing with that of your partner. This creates a feeling of deep connection and can lead to incredible orgasms!
When personal Tantra instruction is either inconvenient or too expensive, Al Link and Pala Copeland's Sexual Mastery Course and Kerry and Diane Riley's Ultimate Home Tantra Course are two excellent self-teaching courses. I highly recommend either of these courses for those who can't find a local Tantra teacher, attend a Tantra workshop, or just want to explore Tantra in the privacy of their own home.