Friday, December 28, 2007

TV Interviews with Pala Copeland and Al Link of 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra

With twenty years of experience and ten years of teaching through their popular weekend retreats, Al Link and Pala Copeland of 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra are sought out by media professionals on the subjects of sex and relationships. Over the years, they have appeared on numerous TV shows focusing on Tantra, sex, and relationships. This 5 minute video includes some of their favorite clips and some sizzling Tantric sex tips.

Friday, December 21, 2007

Tantra as Therapy: Was Osho Wrong?

I recently corresponded with an Indian doctor on the subject of Tantra as "therapy," so Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson's critique of Osho's promotion of that idea is timely for me.
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh (Osho) had a profound influence on what is now known as "Tantra" in the Western world. Rajneesh came from an academic background, did not have traditional training in Tantra and was not part of a lineage-based system. He had an extensive textual knowledge and was a very effective popularizer. He fused cutting-edge, Western psychotherapeutic techniques of the 1960s and '70s with Tantric texts and used the phrase "neo-Tantra" to describe his system. He was a controversial figure throughout his life, and he remains one today.

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Many contemporary Tantra teachers were trained by Rajneesh or his disciples, and others have embraced his ideas, at least in part. Rajneesh helped inspire the widely held notion that Tantra is a form of therapy; sometimes this belief extends to Tantric sexual practices and includes the idea that "sexual healing" can be effected through various practices designed to produce emotional release and purge traumas that are often thought to be stored in the genitals. We view these ideas with skepticism. Read more
I disagree with the classical Tantra notion that only healthy, well-integrated people are ready for Tantra, but, on the other hand, expecting Tantra alone to make one healthy and whole is probably unrealistic as well.

Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Grounding Your Sexual Energy

Many Tantric practices raise sexual energy--sometimes too well. Rather than try to go through your day sexually "wound-up," Al Link and Pala Copeland explain how to ground your excess energy.
Grounding is a very effective process for calming and stabilizing. Grounding connects you with the earth, carrying overpowering negative energies down and away much like a lightning rod. There are many methods for grounding. Try this one daily, as often as you think of it. Even if you don’t “feel” anything while you are doing it notice the difference grounding makes to your overall sense of well-being. Grounding is also an excellent practice whenever you are feeling sexually “wound-up”: Read more

Monday, December 17, 2007

Friday, December 14, 2007

How to Give a Tantric Lingam Massage

In Tantra, the penis is called the Lingam, which in Sanskrit can be translated as "Wand of Light." A Lingam massage is a massage of the male genitals using a large variety of strokes and grips. The goals of the Lingam massage are to honor your man's Lingam and to help him to expand his ability to receive pleasure.

The setting and your attitude are what make a Lingam massage a special experience for your man. Prepare a quiet, preferably dim, space with a bed, a futon mattress, or a blanket and pillows on the floor. The temperature in the room should be a little warmer than normal because you will both be nude. Lighting candles or an oil lamp in the room will keep the lighting subdued and also help generate heat. Your oills and lubricants should be within easy reach. Try to get spill-proof bottles and use plastic rather than glass. Make sure that you have a couple of hours where you won't be disturbed.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Two Sex Positions That Make Your Man’s Penis Feel Bigger

Though sexual intercourse is only one aspect of sexual relations between a man and a woman, it's an important part. There is no reason for the size of your partner's penis to reduce the pleasure you experience during intercourse, including the feeling of fullness you enjoy. Svetlana Ivanova at Sex Secrets describes how to modify two popular sex positions to make your man's penis feel bigger inside you.
If you find that your man’s penis is too small, changing positions can make it feel longer and thicker. Two of most men’s favorite sex positions are doggy-style (rear entry) and missionary (man on top). Fortunately, these are two of the easiest to adjust to make your man’s penis feel bigger inside you. Read more

Monday, December 10, 2007

Tantra: An Ancient Spiritual Path For Self Healing

Tantra teaches couples how to become more intimate by developing strong physical, emotional, and spiritual connections to their partners. Intimacy is linked with feelings of closeness, safety, and trust, and, according to Dr. Dean Ornish, "I am not aware of any other factor in medicine, not diet, not smoking, not exercise, not stress, not genetics, not drugs, not surgery, that has a greater impact on our quality of life, incidence of illness and premature death from all causes."
... The ancient path of tantra was born out of a realization that when we human beings join our energy together, we have access to a power greater than the sum of our individual parts. Taking that concept one step further, we have gained access to the creative force or life force of the cosmos. The instinct towards the drive for close physical connection is illustrated so beautifully in the story of these just days old twins, these tiny womb-mates.

For many people in our modern society, the word tantra may bring up notions of strange sexual rituals and of a culture that fell to its demise through overindulgence in the physical senses. But in fact, nothing could be further from the truth. The tantric path was a path that encouraged balance, love and empowerment in every aspect of life. And as a life affirmative path, it nourished a healthy, and even sacred attitude towards sexuality, since sexuality IS the source of all of our lives. Today, we are flooded with images of sexuality everywhere we look. But is deep soul connected intimacy really happening for many of us? Read more

Saturday, December 8, 2007

A Powerful, Little Breath Exercise

Everyone has times when they need an energy boost. Why not try a quick Tantra pick-me-up instead of a cup of coffee? Suzie Heumann explains a powerful, little breath exercise that can wake you right up. Plus it can raise your sexual energy. Can coffee do that?
It’s 11:30am on Wednesday. You’ve got a 1:00pm lunch appointment, there’s that call you need to make and the report due before lunch, and YOU KNOW you’re at your best in the morning.

You take a deep breath into your belly and close your eyes as you feel your breath fall back away from your body. Imagine a moment in time when you melted under the touch of your lover. When every fiber of your being was focused and suspended in ecstasy.

Imagine that feeling now, noticing the warmth of your genitals. Begin slowly squeezing your vaginal muscles, pulsing and feeling your passion grow. Bring your mind to stillness, as you pump, and hold the vision of “I am perfection”. Read more

Friday, December 7, 2007

Reprogramming Your Subconscious for Ecstasy

Sex can be a gateway to ecstasy, but it isn't for many people. Why not? Because the gateway is blocked--not by physical problems in most cases--but by barriers erected by the subconscious mind. The good news is that you can reprogram your subconscious and remove those barriers yourself.
We all want to have ecstatic sex with our beloved. It doesn't really matter how many physical techniques you've mastered if the energy pathways in your electrical body have been blocked by neglect, and/or years of abuse. Our subconscious puts up protection measures and sometimes this ends up getting in the way of the "Flow" needed to reach the highest of highs that we are capable of.

Reprogramming your subconscious is not necessarily a difficult thing to do. If you do consciously remember specific times in your life where you were mistreated and abused then you are "luckier" than if you buried them deeply within your subconscious.. You won't have to "dig" to get to the memories. You can do the reprogramming yourself.

If you "suspect" that something happened in your life (sexual, verbal abuse & subsequent negative programming) but you cannot seem to remember, then seek out a therapist for help in unlocking those old memories. If you remember specifics, you may want to try these simple techniques. They work! Read more

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Relax and Balance Yourself with Alternate Nostril Breathing

Slow, deep, alternate nostril breathing improves mental, sexual, and physical performance. Do it when you wake, do it before you sleep, do it before you meditate, or before you might make love. You will sleep better, think more clearly, last longer in bed, effortlessly, and enjoy the effortless flow of pleasure and subtle energy that comes from clear meridians and smooth, slow, deep breathing.

Tuesday, December 4, 2007

Tantra and the Kama Sutra

When the general public hears the word Tantra, they often associate it with the Kama Sutra, a book written well over a millenia ago in India for male citizens on how to please and how to be pleasured. However, the only relationship between the two is that both originated in India and involve sex.
Tantra or Tantric Sexuality is making waves in the western world – especially in places where people lead an active lifestyle – but the fact is that this concept has been around in the world since at least five millennia. Tantra is a byproduct of Indian spiritual practices, where sex was an embodiment of everything good...

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The Kama Sutra is a compendium of sexual norms and customs pertaining to the act of seducing women and lovemaking with them. Since the society at that time was highly patriarchal, the treatise is also masculine in its outlook – in fact, most parts of the Kama Sutra are directly addressed to the male city-dweller, on how he should go about his sexual life. In the only part of the Kama Sutra that is addressed to women, they are only told about how they should submit themselves wholly to appease their men. Read more

Monday, December 3, 2007

The Magical World Of Tantric Sex

Spirituality does not have to mean retreat from the world or denial of pleasure. Gabrielle Moore explains how sacred sex can be a path to "total acceptance of your inner self while living in the world."
... Tantra emerged thousands of years ago in India, moving to China and Tibet as a grass-roots rebellion against the repressive hierarchical religions of the day. Back then, to even reach for enlightenment required lifetimes of denying desire and doing penance for past-life karma. Tantra opened the doors of spiritual evolution to everyone, regardless of their social status.

If you’re worried about what you’re getting yourself into, don’t. Tantra isn’t a religion based on faith, dogma, or right living. You don’t have to join, carry a card, cut your hair, or wear robes.

Since it’s not really a philosophy, it has no rules, qualifications, or requirements. There’s no code of behavior, no punishment for sin, and no pot of gold waiting for you in the afterlife at the end of the rainbow.

If you’re seeking inner peace, higher consciousness, a more fulfilling sex life with a new partner, or rekindling the earlier fire with a longtime mate, the erotic sacred wisdom of India and other Eastern cultures can help. Read more

Saturday, December 1, 2007

Six Gateways to Sacred Sexuality

Shamanic tantra is a path to enlightenment through the body that draws from Wiccan, Druidic, and shamanic roots. Kypris has created six gateways to sacred sexuality as an attempt to structure the work of shamanic tantra for teaching.
The journey to enlightenment can take many roads. The six gateways are a path that happens to be working for myself and my healing partner, Steven Jay. Together we have intuitively created this road map for discovering the bliss that is created when we connect spirituality to sexuality. This is a practice that can be used alone or with a partner. These steps are not necessarily practiced in order. In fact, they seem to interweave and spiral with each other, spirals being a geometric pattern often used to describe earth-centered spirituality, where linear motion from point a to point b is rare. Read more